how could anyone be like that? just be thankful they have you

thanks you guys.....i just had to vent.....

True, it's not a mature thing to do at all...but making him come if he would really not be there is no good for the kid.

I have A similar situation....my ex has only seen my daughter once in her 4 1/2 yrs of life. I dont know how anyone could not be there for their child either. I refuse to be angry about what he will regret later...

It is both sex that pull these stunts. The number one priority is to look out for your children.

i could never be that way towards my kids....yes they are the pangs in my ass at times....but they are also the reason why i breathe everyday.....

Grab a 2x4 and beat some sense into that man!

AND - allow the children to see him for what he is IN THEIR OWN TIME - that way they will be able to make up their own minds about him, with the knowledge of your love and the fact that you were always there for them and did not try to "turn them against him" - you allowed them to see it for themselves - and BELIEVE ME - he WILL show his true colors - perhaps not today or tomorrow, but HE WILL - just be ready to support your children's emotions and answer their questions gently but truthfully ........ .

Remind me to never make you mad at me.

i was jsut venting....i wouldnt use a pencil....LMAO...id use something much bigger......J/K

BRAVO!!! As long as it's not in front of the children----and (my apologies - I cannot remember which one said it) - is correct - it's VERY HARD - BELIEVE ME-------- but HE'S not worth your getting upset over BECAUSE there's nothing you can do to improve the quality NOR quality of time he spends with the children.....

<<<<<<<<<<<<<< how can you resist those faces....LMAO!!!!

i know Brookeline!!!!!

SUPER CUTE KIDS, HON!!!!

I agree with both these. My son is now 20 and the best thing I ever accomplished in my life! He is such a good kid (and he loves his momma and, of his own accord, doesn't want a thing to do with his father).
Even though it turned out great I wouldn't wish that experience on anyone. I feel for you and those kids!

no the kids werent with me....i was on my weekly trip to grandmas...to take her trash can back up to her house from the road when i saw him at his brothers house!!!!

thanks...therapy...LOL...i might need some soon....therapy that is....

Awww....I'm a respiratory therapist...but I'll try to help in any way I can.

Great kids crazy - my ex actually asked to ADOPT my daughter before we were even married - wanted to get off the road so he didn't miss her growing up like he did his other 2 - eeh--guess where he is now??? On the road again..........he's seen our daughter twice so far this year, although they keep in touch via cell phone - he JUST recently got an address - had been keeping this one cause truckers tend to live in their trucks...........and any "extended time off" usually surprisingly ended up with him in the same area where his girlfriend was......although he vehemently denies it....Sorry - just feel like bi***ing...... But I hear where you're coming from .........

Perhaps you might consider that this statement was posted as a humorous aside.

as someone whos kids dad lives only 20 min away.. and they have not heard from him since before thanksgiving.... you have EVERY right to be pizzed.. however.. be thankful that your children have you, and your family.. and also be comforted in the knowledge that one day he will want in their lives.. and odds are that they will refer him to a great place to go at that time..

best ofluck.. and god be with you...


ps... ive been told that no matter what... its NEVER ok to stab him in the eye with a spork.... but that was jsut what the judge said.. who beleves them!!!