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Topic: Question for ladies and men
Dragoness Joined Wed 10/17/07 Posts: 23320	Mon 07/28/08 01:40 PM
My friend has a dilemma (which I would not have in her shoes) but she is asking everyone their opinion. She was talking on the phone with her man friend and her mom told her that she and he were just infatuated with each other, implying they were immature acting. When she said this, the man on the phone busted out laughing and told her that "there is nothing infatuating about you" and continued laughing hysterically so bad she had to hang up. My friend does not think this is an insult because she says you can love someone without being infatuated with them. I disagree, I think we are infatuated with at least something about the person in order to fall in love with them. So my questions here are: Is what he said an insult? And do you believe that people can be in love without having some sort of infatuation with them? Thanks for your help ahead of time

crazysillygirl Joined Mon 01/29/07 Posts: 4869	Mon 07/28/08 01:43 PM
Infatuation means that you have an extreme fondness or liking of somebody and you also may have an admiration to this person as well.

jayyboo23 Joined Mon 07/14/08 Posts: 5	Mon 07/28/08 01:44 PM
i think it is an insult and that you can love someone with out being infatuated with them but theres a greater chance of not making it very long in the future.i think fatuation is a big part.

jonny63 Joined Sat 03/08/08 Posts: 5229	Mon 07/28/08 01:47 PM
Infatuation A foolish, unreasoning, or extravagant passion or attraction. See synonyms at love. An object of extravagant, short-lived passion. I think he was very rude.

Dragoness Joined Wed 10/17/07 Posts: 23320	Mon 07/28/08 06:52 PM
Gentle bump to get more responses if I can

symbelmyne Joined Mon 01/14/08 Posts: 5356	Mon 07/28/08 06:53 PM
I would say he had a good laugh at her expense....infatuation aside, friends dont do that to other friends...

Dragoness Joined Wed 10/17/07 Posts: 23320	Mon 07/28/08 06:57 PM
Thanks for the answers.

jonny63 Joined Sat 03/08/08 Posts: 5229	Mon 07/28/08 06:58 PM
No matter how she seemed to take it, the guy was rude and he insulted her.

SinglemominArlington Joined Mon 07/28/08 Posts: 10	Mon 07/28/08 07:02 PM
Does the guy know what the word means? Imnot trying to insult anyone but he just may not know what it meant. He might have thought it meant that she was fat and if so, then in that case he wasnt rude. I would have been upset and then straightened him out...:) Good luck to your friend.

sandradee1961 Joined Mon 03/10/08 Posts: 1411	Mon 07/28/08 07:08 PM
I would have felt slighted. That was just mean.

Dragoness Joined Wed 10/17/07 Posts: 23320	Mon 07/28/08 07:15 PM
Does the guy know what the word means? Imnot trying to insult anyone but he just may not know what it meant. He might have thought it meant that she was fat and if so, then in that case he wasnt rude. I would have been upset and then straightened him out...:) Good luck to your friend. No, he knew what it meant. Thanks, I am giving her the result of the answers on here.

LadyIntel Joined Mon 07/14/08 Posts: 33	Mon 07/28/08 07:32 PM
My friend has a dilemma (which I would not have in her shoes) but she is asking everyone their opinion. She was talking on the phone with her man friend and her mom told her that she and he were just infatuated with each other, implying they were immature acting. When she said this, the man on the phone busted out laughing and told her that "there is nothing infatuating about you" and continued laughing hysterically so bad she had to hang up. My friend does not think this is an insult because she says you can love someone without being infatuated with them. I disagree, I think we are infatuated with at least something about the person in order to fall in love with them. So my questions here are: Is what he said an insult? And do you believe that people can be in love without having some sort of infatuation with them? Thanks for your help ahead of time

LadyIntel Joined Mon 07/14/08 Posts: 33	Mon 07/28/08 07:32 PM
Webster has a great definition for you hun

missy51970 Joined Fri 11/02/07 Posts: 12712	Mon 07/28/08 07:36 PM
I think he was very rude...just mean...

HeSearches Joined Sat 02/23/08 Posts: 312	Mon 07/28/08 08:30 PM
Ditto....the guy is a clod.

Voluptuous Joined Tue 12/18/07 Posts: 1203	Mon 07/28/08 08:34 PM
<-------- She would leave and NEVER look back...

buffiegirl Joined Tue 09/11/07 Posts: 1	Sat 02/06/10 10:22 AM
I think it is possible to have feelings and not be infatuated. For example i met a man at first sight i was attracted but it was his appearance. Does that help? I am not sure you are immature it is just the mother has old fashioned ideas. The best answer i can give you is follow your heart noone else can feel for you so be honest and let him know if you think there is some thing there it might be real. ``````````````````````````````````````````````````````````````````````````````Buffie P

heartSoul Joined Sun 08/26/07 Posts: 6038	Sat 02/06/10 01:06 PM
He was acting like your basic jacka$$... Whatta jerk!

AngelArs Joined Wed 02/03/10 Posts: 1316	Sat 02/06/10 01:33 PM
So my questions here are: Is what he said an insult? Of course it was an insult, and if she can't see that then she needs to work on her self-esteem... She needs to kick him to the curb and find someone worthy of her time.

tanyaann Joined Mon 12/03/07 Posts: 32220	Sat 02/06/10 01:45 PM
It sounds like both of them were taken aback by her mother's observattions. I think there are varying degrees of love between two adults... There is the friendship love... you adore them, want to see the best for them, joke around and flirt... but nothing will come of it. There is the interested but not sure if I want to go there.... same as the friendship love, but tend to push a little about there being more. There is the want more love.... where you want more than just friendship, you want to spend more time with the person and you want them to feel the same way.