If your heart is broken by someone that you once trusted. Why is it that
you can't trust again? Open up your heart life is to short to allow the
wrongs of the past to rob you of you future... Open Up Let Love In!!!!!!

LMAO,aint no love a knockin!

I'd say that question goes for both sexes and I would say it's hard to
pet the dog thats *****a once already. I mean, when ya know it bites,
you don't wanna go around pettin it.

ok, bit cha is what that was

Sometimes it's less about trust than it is an acceptance of a reality.

It depends on how many have hurt you??
And trust is always GIVEN, but then it is PROVEN Through life and
actions and truths not lie's in conversations..
EACH must PROVE their own TRUTHS,,,by living honestly, and
showing their truth all the time!!!

I think id agree with the last two guys....i think we learn from each
relationship too...its really hard to trust...and i have a hard time
accepting when someone leaves..or cheats..but its about them and not
me...and u guys are right...honesty is everything...Roxxx

put it this way, how many people flinch when they know they are going to
get punched in the face? lol

sometimes they don't want to get hurt again.

Sometimes you just need to regroup. If you've been betrayed, It's not
only hurtful but it's humiliating as a man. It just takes time.

HERES A QUESTION...how long do u wait til u do it again??

If it's sex for the sake of sex, That doesn't take too long. Opening
your heart is another issue.

Different depths wounds inflicted.Different amounts of time to heal!

Well said.
another thing is if their are kids involved. You get wary of intrducing
someone into their lives that you're not sure will be there.

Well you must take time when your hurt to heal your wounds. But... you
must learn that what happen in the past is the past. You can not blame
the next person that comes along and think they will do the same thing.
You must learn to trust the person until they do something to break that
trust. Each person it differnt and derserve your respect, trust and to
be honest wit them from the start.

Has far as how long do you wait that is differnt for each person you
will know when your ready. It's scary at first but ya got to jump out
there and try again. Will never know if your passing up a good thing if
you don't give it a try.

It's not a matter of blaming the next person Txs, It's opening that
trust again. Easier said than done.

BigGlen I was there in that same situation too many years my rule of
thumb on that was my kids did not meet the guys I dated until we had
dated 2-3 months solid and I felt like it was gonna last. For I did not
want men in and out of my kids life's I was not looking for a daddy for
them for they had one. Besides most relantionships if it is not gonna go
anywhere then it usually don't last 2-3 months. So there was a few guys
I dated that never meet my kids. I did not feel like they needed more
confusion in there life. Yeah it could be harder that way but when you
have kids there are some things you have to learn to deal with. Anywho
that is just the way I dealt with it and worked for me.

I hear ya sweetheart. Everyone fights their own demons, Y'know?

That is true Glen we do but you must learn to trust others again without
trust there is no way a relantionship will build. Took me many years to
say that myself. All I can say is take it slow and watch out for red
flags but you still have to learn to trust them first. Which is
something that each of us must learn within ourselves and taken time to
get to know the ohter person for who they really are. There is no easy
solutions to it just have to learn to open that doorway to your heart
and don't shut others out completely.

Love knocks but will he open his heart enough to let me in. I know that
he has been hurt before and so have I.If he is standing toe to toe with
me then put up or shut up!He contacted me first.So I feel like he should
put the pain in the past and not make me pay for some other silly
woman's mistakes. Can anyone feel me?

Think you should let him know your interested in trying with
him.Myself,I have been ready--eger,to open the door for quite
awhile.Just have not met someone that it is workable with yet.You may be
the one for him and he for you.Do not let yourself be robbed of that
possibility.Heeps of luck!!!