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Topic: Most Important Trait In A Woman
writer_gurl Joined Sat 03/01/08 Posts: 7673	Fri 07/25/08 01:00 PM
I took the answers from a national survey of 75,000 men. I wanted to see how the guys here compare to those answers. Personally I would place confidence high on the list. Guys take surveys?

missy51970 Joined Fri 11/02/07 Posts: 12712	Fri 07/25/08 01:01 PM
Confidence - should be added to your list, should it? I'm actually gonna agree with this, modified just a bit. A justified self-confidence is probably the most important to me. Explain "Justified self confidence" to me please.. Its the word JUSTIFIED that bothers me Self awareness, knowing yourself. I've met a lot of women that were self-confident but had no reason to be. They think their sh$t don't stink. Don't wear clothes that are too small or too young for you, don't act like a princess unless you are. And exactly who are you to tell anyone if they have the right to be self confident?? So what if her clothes are too tight and too small and blah blah blah , its her self image NOT yours...Arrogance should never be confused with self confidence.. ..but just because one person thinks shes sexy enough to wear clothes like that does NOT give you the right to say she isnt... JMO

Dragoness Joined Wed 10/17/07 Posts: 23320	Fri 07/25/08 01:08 PM
Confidence - should be added to your list, should it? I'm actually gonna agree with this, modified just a bit. A justified self-confidence is probably the most important to me. Explain "Justified self confidence" to me please.. Its the word JUSTIFIED that bothers me Self awareness, knowing yourself. I've met a lot of women that were self-confident but had no reason to be. They think their sh$t don't stink. Don't wear clothes that are too small or too young for you, don't act like a princess unless you are. If she thinks she is beautiful who are you to say she isn't??? Every woman has her own style if you don't like it don't look.

RKISIT Joined Tue 01/08/08 Posts: 16721	Fri 07/25/08 01:09 PM
Confidence - should be added to your list, should it? I'm actually gonna agree with this, modified just a bit. A justified self-confidence is probably the most important to me. Explain "Justified self confidence" to me please.. Its the word JUSTIFIED that bothers me Self awareness, knowing yourself. I've met a lot of women that were self-confident but had no reason to be. They think their sh$t don't stink. Don't wear clothes that are too small or too young for you, don't act like a princess unless you are. And exactly who are you to tell anyone if they have the right to be self confident?? So what if her clothes are too tight and too small and blah blah blah , its her self image NOT yours...Arrogance should never be confused with self confidence.. ..but just because one person thinks shes sexy enough to wear clothes like that does NOT give you the right to say she isnt... JMO your hot

missy51970 Joined Fri 11/02/07 Posts: 12712	Fri 07/25/08 01:10 PM
Confidence - should be added to your list, should it? I'm actually gonna agree with this, modified just a bit. A justified self-confidence is probably the most important to me. Justified? What do you mean? Every single human on this planet is beautiful and they should be confident and show that they are a wonderful living creature who makes this world that much better for them being here. Gotta disagree with you there. Not everyone is beautiful. There are a lot of ugly people, and I'm not just talking about physically. but what gives you the right to determine that !

RKISIT Joined Tue 01/08/08 Posts: 16721	Fri 07/25/08 01:11 PM
Confidence - should be added to your list, should it? I'm actually gonna agree with this, modified just a bit. A justified self-confidence is probably the most important to me. Justified? What do you mean? Every single human on this planet is beautiful and they should be confident and show that they are a wonderful living creature who makes this world that much better for them being here. your still hot Gotta disagree with you there. Not everyone is beautiful. There are a lot of ugly people, and I'm not just talking about physically. but what gives you the right to determine that !

missy51970 Joined Fri 11/02/07 Posts: 12712	Fri 07/25/08 01:11 PM
Confidence - should be added to your list, should it? I'm actually gonna agree with this, modified just a bit. A justified self-confidence is probably the most important to me. Explain "Justified self confidence" to me please.. Its the word JUSTIFIED that bothers me Self awareness, knowing yourself. I've met a lot of women that were self-confident but had no reason to be. They think their sh$t don't stink. Don't wear clothes that are too small or too young for you, don't act like a princess unless you are. And exactly who are you to tell anyone if they have the right to be self confident?? So what if her clothes are too tight and too small and blah blah blah , its her self image NOT yours...Arrogance should never be confused with self confidence.. ..but just because one person thinks shes sexy enough to wear clothes like that does NOT give you the right to say she isnt... JMO your hot and self confident !!!! lol thanks..so are you !!!!!

Frisco73 Joined Wed 06/18/08 Posts: 699	Fri 07/25/08 01:12 PM
The question was, what is most important to a guy. My answer, as a guy, is justified self confidence. If I don't think she is justified in her self confidence, I don't find it attractive. You ask, who am I to judge? Every single person judges others, it's basic human nature. You can't escape it. You may not agree with my verdict, but everyone has the right to their own opinions.

missy51970 Joined Fri 11/02/07 Posts: 12712	Fri 07/25/08 01:12 PM
Confidence - should be added to your list, should it? I'm actually gonna agree with this, modified just a bit. A justified self-confidence is probably the most important to me. Justified? What do you mean? Every single human on this planet is beautiful and they should be confident and show that they are a wonderful living creature who makes this world that much better for them being here. your still hot Gotta disagree with you there. Not everyone is beautiful. There are a lot of ugly people, and I'm not just talking about physically. but what gives you the right to determine that ! shhh im trying to focus !!!!

HeSearches Joined Sat 02/23/08 Posts: 312	Fri 07/25/08 01:13 PM Edited by HeSearches on Fri 07/25/08 01:14 PM
I just love how these threads digress and EVERYONE has talk about their agenda instead of answering the question. First of all, this question is FOR MEN, not for women. Second, do not confuse ANATOMY with PERSONALITY!! Third, the choices are the choices. Don't try add to them. If you choice isn't there, answer OTHER!! Here are the survey results from AskMen.com. 29% A sense of loyalty 23% A sense of caring/nurturing 21% A sense of humor 21% Intelligence 6% Other What is your choice MEN?

missy51970 Joined Fri 11/02/07 Posts: 12712	Fri 07/25/08 01:13 PM
The question was, what is most important to a guy. My answer, as a guy, is justified self confidence. If I don't think she is justified in her self confidence, I don't find it attractive. You ask, who am I to judge? Every single person judges others, it's basic human nature. You can't escape it. You may not agree with my verdict, but everyone has the right to their own opinions. EXACTLY MY POINT !!!!!

msmyka Joined Sat 03/22/08 Posts: 17079	Fri 07/25/08 01:15 PM
I just love how these threads digress and EVERYONE has talk about their agenda instead of answering the question. First of all, this question is FOR MEN, not for women. Second, do not confuse ANATOMY with PERSONALITY!! Third, the choices are the choices. Don't try add to them. If you choice isn't there, answer OTHER!! Here are the survey results from AskMen.com. 29% A sense of loyalty 23% A sense of caring/nurturing 21% A sense of humor 21% Intelligence 6% Other What is your choice MEN? So what you're saying is none of them voted for dorky women? Too bad.

missy51970 Joined Fri 11/02/07 Posts: 12712	Fri 07/25/08 01:17 PM
I just love how these threads digress and EVERYONE has talk about their agenda instead of answering the question. First of all, this question is FOR MEN, not for women. Second, do not confuse ANATOMY with PERSONALITY!! Third, the choices are the choices. Don't try add to them. If you choice isn't there, answer OTHER!! Here are the survey results from AskMen.com. 29% A sense of loyalty 23% A sense of caring/nurturing 21% A sense of humor 21% Intelligence 6% Other What is your choice MEN? First of all this isnt a dictatorship...geeez msmyka...everyone loves a dork !!!

Frisco73 Joined Wed 06/18/08 Posts: 699	Fri 07/25/08 01:18 PM
Let me try this again; this is a basic psychological principle: If I do not think you are justified in your self confidence, I will find you less attractive than if I think you are justified. And before you ask, what give me the right to judge; we all judge, it's an inescapable fact of human nature.

missy51970 Joined Fri 11/02/07 Posts: 12712	Fri 07/25/08 01:19 PM Edited by missy51970 on Fri 07/25/08 01:20 PM
Let me try this again; this is a basic psychological principle: If I do not think you are justified in your self confidence, I will find you less attractive than if I think you are justified. And before you ask, what give me the right to judge; we all judge, it's an inescapable fact of human nature. Ive studied psychology ...its not a basic principle nice try tho.... i know i know im leaving now

mass Joined Tue 04/22/08 Posts: 1091	Fri 07/25/08 01:20 PM
most guys are gonna say big boobs.. Got your fingers crossed?

Frisco73 Joined Wed 06/18/08 Posts: 699	Fri 07/25/08 01:21 PM
Let me try this again; this is a basic psychological principle: If I do not think you are justified in your self confidence, I will find you less attractive than if I think you are justified. And before you ask, what give me the right to judge; we all judge, it's an inescapable fact of human nature. Ive studied psychology ...its not a basic pronciple nice try tho.... i know i know im leaving now ok, maybe not basic as in undergrad, but basic as in fundamental. it's all about perception.

msmyka Joined Sat 03/22/08 Posts: 17079	Fri 07/25/08 01:22 PM
Basically you are saying OVER CONFIDENCE is not attractive right? Everyone should be confident in who they are I believe Frisco is trying to say that some people put on a show of confidence when they do not really have it. Example: wearing clothes that are too tight to get attention.

discoafternoon Joined Fri 04/11/08 Posts: 2977	Fri 07/25/08 01:22 PM
Confidence - should be added to your list, should it? I'm actually gonna agree with this, modified just a bit. A justified self-confidence is probably the most important to me. Explain "Justified self confidence" to me please.. Its the word JUSTIFIED that bothers me Self awareness, knowing yourself. I've met a lot of women that were self-confident but had no reason to be. They think their sh$t don't stink. Don't wear clothes that are too small or too young for you, don't act like a princess unless you are. So, you're saying not everyone should be self confident? Really?

discoafternoon Joined Fri 04/11/08 Posts: 2977	Fri 07/25/08 01:23 PM
Basically you are saying OVER CONFIDENCE is not attractive right? Everyone should be confident in who they are I believe Frisco is trying to say that some people put on a show of confidence when they do not really have it. Example: wearing clothes that are too tight to get attention. Yes, I think he's confusing that with self confidence.