You should've forgotten about the woman in Kalamazoo after a day passed with no reply. The ratio for men to women is insane in these things. There is like twenty guys for every woman. We are like products at Walmart in here man. Don't judge your sucess with women by how well you do in here. It will kill your ego. You're only as attractive as you feel. I've seen younger and much more handsome days but I still walk and talk like I'm the S***

We're all too young to change ourselves but Friends are even harder to come by than meaningful relationships. So at this stage you have to pick one:) Kidding but seriously just don't go losing confidence, this dating thing isn't easy for most of us.

Been widowed twice and divorced too many times, long ago very shy, but I just had to make the decision to get over that. Started by going to outdoor art shows and festivals where there are so many people it doesn't matter whether any one notices you. You get use to being out on your own and surrounded by happy smiling people, it's uplifting. I'm terminal and don't worry about being alone, I have all my arrangements settled with my docs and lawyer. I spend a great deal of time alone by choice, I live for the outdoors and fresh air, I photograph wildlife, go fishing and hunting, I got into re-enacting and people love to see people at the events and will ask you questions. I meet people and listen to what they say and ask a question of them about something they were talking about. You are depressed over being depressed, only you can change your way of thinking and change your plan of action. No one ever said life was easy or fair, we have to make our own destiny. Gods blessing,

More then one in Kalamazoo have not even read the email I have sent, and one did not reply

In the final analysis, nobody really gives a ****. I wish that I could help you out here, given that I'm in the same boat. But, don't hold your breath.

Dave, are there social events you could attend? things at a community center, dances etc? After 50 years surely there are people you could go grab a bite to eat with, or catch a movie with from time to time?

That is not true. Dave has friends here!

Dave, let me tell you something.If I had a dollar for every unread email I have I would be one rich woman!!
Don,t take that personally , it happens to everyone here on a regular basis.
Tell him people, he needs to know that

Their is no one.

I already told him. He'll listen to a female though. Males opinions usually don't hold much water in these circumstances

No she's right Dave. They are both right! Unread emails or no responses happens alllll the time.

You are wrong I have heard you

I have read your replies. You have a kind spirit.But do you think that friends are always enough? Is that what he is seeking? Ask him. Ask yourself?

Take the advice or continue to wander...it is rather simple really, you are simply not taking anyone's advice. Hopefully you get a brighter outlook on things, and you find a lady that you care for and equally she cares for you back...however moaning over and over on this forum no matter what is said isn't going to help you.

Ya know what Marley, sometimes friends HAS to be enough. When we lose our spouses, friends and family HAVE to be enough to sustain us. And friends is ALWAYS a good place to start.

At least I made one good friend, Betty

It helps. It really does. But, did that answer the question(s) that you had? or did you do it for yourself? Just trying to learn a little because I don't feel very comfortable with this? You get my drift.

Both of you have good points but Marley is brutally honest and that is just as enlightening as being caring and understanding.

Now I can not say what I want with out you putting me down, This is why I do not post much