If your married but literally very unhappy but cant leave because the other half maks you feel guilty every time you try to leave so you dont, what would you do? Ladies I would really like your thoughts.

If I was very unhappy, had tried counseling and everything else and was still unhappy, guilt or no guilt, I'd leave. Life is short.

Not knowing even one little tiny bit about your relationship...I'd have to say that if you love the woman, make it work....if you don't, don't screw around...end it.

Are children involved ?

Dont fall into her guilt game.. if your unhappy , pack your stuff and leave. Guilt is a horrible thing but if its whats best for YOU then dont take the trip and move out darlin

If you are not happy, leave. If its a relationship that you want to save, go to counseling. but if it can't be worked out now with professional help, it probably can't be worked out sometime in the future by staying in the relationship.

Be free...do what you have to do...get away from there, no matter what...you´re not a slave!

let her go...she'll thank you for it later...be strong

What if you took care of all the bills and she didnt work and you didnt want to leave her in that kind of bind, and cant leave enough money to secure her untill she figured out to do would you still just leave?

none between us

is she disabled??

Ha Ha nope not at all.Just a ***** and a nag constantly!

she needs to stand on her own two feet, obviously she is a grown women. If you are currently living together, give her notice like 90 days to get her stuff in order and move out (either of you). Plain and simple... unhealthy co-dependent relationships never work out for the best.

Thank you ladies.

Then leave and don t look back she is using you

then she'll be fine...tell her to get a job...and move out...maybe pay the rent for the next month just so you know that you did your part. Good Luck!!

Go take a peek @ my poem."My Haunted Past"Do U want 2 go down the road I have traveled?I don't think U do.G'luck! bro.

I'm thinking much of that is dependent upon what is making them unhappy. Are they unhappy with the relationship and the other person or are they unhappy with themselves? Some things ARE cause and effect.

If the unhappiness comes from within his or her own little world, there is little anyone (including the spouse) can do to change that. We all have choices, abuse aside, we can control our own happiness, it is a personal choice independent of others.

If the problem is definitely with the other person and couseling or good old fashioned good communication has had no effect, or he/she has simply and permenantly falling out of love. Then seperation is probably best for both parties....just some thoughts, Good luck to you.

I was in the same situation and tried to compromise for about 6 months but he wouldn't. I finally said life is too short to be miserable. I just broke up with him and have absolutely no regrets...I gave it my all. Six years is a long time and if it's not right now, it never will be. How long have you been married? I think you both should try couseling or something because if you leave, you want to say that you've done everything possible to make it work...don't give up just yet. Let me know if you wanna talk.

~amber

This is rather sad that a woman have to rely on a man to take care of her and not be able to support herself in case separation do occur. If anything, she will have to make time to find a job to support herself. Don't stress yourself to support her if she is not trying...especially if you are unhappy. If you can give here a little money to help her get her life going, I'm sure your guilt will shorten. I can't really give a good answer because I have never been through this. But I do know that if I was the woman that didn't work...I'd like some tough love to put me back in reality...no matter how much I'd hate it. Only my opinion.