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Topic: Ok here is my question to everyone.
mcattygarnett's photo
Sun 07/20/08 07:31 AM
If the person you loved and had been with for a year or longer, had to do some prison time for something that they did before the two of you got together, would you stand by them while they did there time?

I had this happen to me several years ago, and I did stand by him, until he started telling me what I could and could not do while he was in prison, then it was bye, bye.

So what would you do?

plk1966's photo
Sun 07/20/08 07:33 AM
I would stand by that person until they started barking orders at me, then seeya!laugh

halo3960's photo
Sun 07/20/08 07:35 AM
What is he in prison for number one? An would this person be an plus in your life of just a dead end.

JaymeStephens84a0lc's photo
Sun 07/20/08 07:36 AM
Edited by JaymeStephens84a0lc on Sun 07/20/08 07:38 AM
I had this happen once too. I lost over 100lbs while he was in prison. When he got out and saw how hot I now was, he became really insecure and controlling. Thats when the abuse started, and I LEFT. I'd never wait again. Lesson learned.

If they can't do a simple thing like obey the law how are they going to make a good boyfriend, then husband, then father?

Megan_Smiles's photo
Sun 07/20/08 07:37 AM
That would depend on how the relationship was going when he went in.

I'd say though if everything is well and we're madly in love and there's enough trust there then sure. I would say I'd wait around.

Megan_Smiles's photo
Sun 07/20/08 07:38 AM

I had this happen once too. I lost over 100lbs while he was in prison. When he got out and saw how hot I now was, he became really insecure and controlling. Thats when the abuse started, and I LEFT.


Good for you sweety:smile: Men like that disgust me

no photo
Sun 07/20/08 07:38 AM

I had this happen once too. I lost over 100lbs while he was in prison. When he got out and saw how hot I now was, he became really insecure and controlling. Thats when the abuse started, and I LEFT.
Good for you....amazing the things we put ourselves through for love isn't it...gals you got out Sweetybigsmile flowerforyou

JaymeStephens84a0lc's photo
Sun 07/20/08 07:39 AM
Haha, yeah I left.. but not before giving him a black eye for hitting mebiggrin

lifestooshort6's photo
Sun 07/20/08 07:43 AM
I think it depends on the type of conviction, first of all

mcattygarnett's photo
Sun 07/20/08 07:49 AM

Haha, yeah I left.. but not before giving him a black eye for hitting mebiggrin

good for you

ledi180's photo
Sun 07/20/08 07:51 AM
If all was well before he went in then yeah, I probably would stand by him. Whatever it was, he'd have to be super duper clean now though cause I can't have that stuff around my kiddo.

MLG40's photo
Sun 07/20/08 07:51 AM

It would mainly depend on what had happened to make them go there. My best friend has been in prison, didn't find out for about a year after we became friends, But he is one of the few that change for the better.
People change with daily life; it is how they accept the changes and how they handle the change.
But once again it rely depends on the crime they committed to have gotten put there in the first place. And why they committed the crime.

Just my thoughts.

izzie's photo
Sun 07/20/08 07:55 AM
ok heres what i would need to know.
why are they going to proson?
did i know that this had happened?? and that there was a [pssobility that this would happenn??

but ether way... probibly not... to much deciet involved.. but ho knows....

BlueskyJ's photo
Sun 07/20/08 07:56 AM


It would mainly depend on what had happened to make them go there. My best friend has been in prison, didn't find out for about a year after we became friends, But he is one of the few that change for the better.
People change with daily life; it is how they accept the changes and how they handle the change.
But once again it rely depends on the crime they committed to have gotten put there in the first place. And why they committed the crime.

Just my thoughts.

yeah, it would first depend on what they did to get them there in prison....then i would have to see how i felt about the person....people can change, its just not all that easy to overcome our past & who we are as a person....

Given we all have choices....

RJR1's photo
Sun 07/20/08 07:59 AM
It would depend on why they are going.
It would also depend on how the relationship was going before they got sent.
I also agree with MLG40, people can and do change. Not always but it does happen.
Lot of factors in there.

lcjw's photo
Sun 07/20/08 08:04 AM
That is a very hard question; however, I think I would stand by him.

mcattygarnett's photo
Sun 07/20/08 08:14 AM
there are alot of things to consider when your other half is facing this problem. It is not easy at all.

lcjw's photo
Sun 07/20/08 08:19 AM

there are alot of things to consider when your other half is facing this problem. It is not easy at all.

That is very true. If you love this person and there is history with him, you will think twice about leaving. Of course we are not talking about a person that has been abusive to you.

mcattygarnett's photo
Sun 07/20/08 08:21 AM


there are alot of things to consider when your other half is facing this problem. It is not easy at all.

That is very true. If you love this person and there is history with him, you will think twice about leaving. Of course we are not talking about a person that has been abusive to you.

no thank God he wasnt, but then when he was in prison he want to try and control everything, that is when I was gone.

lcjw's photo
Sun 07/20/08 08:24 AM



there are alot of things to consider when your other half is facing this problem. It is not easy at all.

That is very true. If you love this person and there is history with him, you will think twice about leaving. Of course we are not talking about a person that has been abusive to you.

no thank God he wasnt, but then when he was in prison he want to try and control everything, that is when I was gone.

I think that is just a human, normal reaction on his part. He is inside a place where he is not close to you and he feels insecure and afraid that you would leave, which is what you did.

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