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Alright, so I responded in another thread where people were discrediting "game," saying they would rather "get to the point." I think this would fit better as a separate thread:
I know it's been ages since I've posted anything on JSH...ahem sorry... I mean MINGLE2, but allow me to tell all you guys a little something about CHEMISTRY. If you're saying that you want to skip the game and just be "straight up and say it from the beginning," you are essentially prioritizing compatibility. You just want to get to the point and see if the two of you are going to work out together, right? Sure, that may sound great, but you're sacrificing something important along the way. Chemistry is essentially spawned from sexual tension. All women with experience in dating and sex are reading that statement right now and nodding their heads in agreement. Most men, however, will be utterly confused. "Isn't tension a bad thing? Isn't resolution always the end goal?" they will ask. Would you really want to watch a movie that has JUST a happy ending without all the mess in the middle? Be my guest to pay ten bucks to go watch that movie, but I ain't joining ya. Playing the game isn't a waste of time. It's an opportunity to build sexual tension, create chemistry, and really get to know the other person through a fun and challenging experience. There WILL be conflict, but that's where the necessary tension comes from. In fact, I oftentimes FAKE conflict with women (and they KNOW it's fake but they play along) to create a flirty vibe between me and her. The tension makes the release all that much better. It's like building up an orgasm within a woman - you keep bringing her to the brink of orgasm but you tell her to relax her body so that she's unable to... after you do this several times, you tell her to cum and the result is an explosion of pleasure multiplied several times over. The push/pull dynamic between the tension and the release that follows is essentially what the game is, and that is what makes interactions between the sexes fun and fulfilling. Calling the game "BS" is just nonsense. |
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Alright, so I responded in another thread where people were discrediting "game," saying they would rather "get to the point." I think this would fit better as a separate thread: I know it's been ages since I've posted anything on JSH...ahem sorry... I mean MINGLE2, but allow me to tell all you guys a little something about CHEMISTRY. If you're saying that you want to skip the game and just be "straight up and say it from the beginning," you are essentially prioritizing compatibility. You just want to get to the point and see if the two of you are going to work out together, right? Sure, that may sound great, but you're sacrificing something important along the way. Chemistry is essentially spawned from sexual tension. All women with experience in dating and sex are reading that statement right now and nodding their heads in agreement. Most men, however, will be utterly confused. "Isn't tension a bad thing? Isn't resolution always the end goal?" they will ask. Would you really want to watch a movie that has JUST a happy ending without all the mess in the middle? Be my guest to pay ten bucks to go watch that movie, but I ain't joining ya. Playing the game isn't a waste of time. It's an opportunity to build sexual tension, create chemistry, and really get to know the other person through a fun and challenging experience. There WILL be conflict, but that's where the necessary tension comes from. In fact, I oftentimes FAKE conflict with women (and they KNOW it's fake but they play along) to create a flirty vibe between me and her. The tension makes the release all that much better. It's like building up an orgasm within a woman - you keep bringing her to the brink of orgasm but you tell her to relax her body so that she's unable to... after you do this several times, you tell her to cum and the result is an explosion of pleasure multiplied several times over. The push/pull dynamic between the tension and the release that follows is essentially what the game is, and that is what makes interactions between the sexes fun and fulfilling. Calling the game "BS" is just nonsense. What your describing as the "game" and what others are describing as the "game" may be two different things. The "game" to me is the manipulation techniques used by people who use other people for what they want out of them, regardless to feelings. So maybe they mean this type of game playing and in that case it should be non tolerated for the persons own good. |
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Alright, so I responded in another thread where people were discrediting "game," saying they would rather "get to the point." I think this would fit better as a separate thread: I know it's been ages since I've posted anything on JSH...ahem sorry... I mean MINGLE2, but allow me to tell all you guys a little something about CHEMISTRY. If you're saying that you want to skip the game and just be "straight up and say it from the beginning," you are essentially prioritizing compatibility. You just want to get to the point and see if the two of you are going to work out together, right? Sure, that may sound great, but you're sacrificing something important along the way. Chemistry is essentially spawned from sexual tension. All women with experience in dating and sex are reading that statement right now and nodding their heads in agreement. Most men, however, will be utterly confused. "Isn't tension a bad thing? Isn't resolution always the end goal?" they will ask. Would you really want to watch a movie that has JUST a happy ending without all the mess in the middle? Be my guest to pay ten bucks to go watch that movie, but I ain't joining ya. Playing the game isn't a waste of time. It's an opportunity to build sexual tension, create chemistry, and really get to know the other person through a fun and challenging experience. There WILL be conflict, but that's where the necessary tension comes from. In fact, I oftentimes FAKE conflict with women (and they KNOW it's fake but they play along) to create a flirty vibe between me and her. The tension makes the release all that much better. It's like building up an orgasm within a woman - you keep bringing her to the brink of orgasm but you tell her to relax her body so that she's unable to... after you do this several times, you tell her to cum and the result is an explosion of pleasure multiplied several times over. The push/pull dynamic between the tension and the release that follows is essentially what the game is, and that is what makes interactions between the sexes fun and fulfilling. Calling the game "BS" is just nonsense. Wow, I never really thought of it like that. You are correct in so many ways. I have noticed that having a relationship where both people say they aren't going to play games, there is usually tension created by one or both no matter what. It may not be the traditional "game playing", but it creates tension none the less. That makes for drive in wanting that person more in my opinion. |
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Edited by
HeSearches
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Sun 07/20/08 08:13 AM
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You can call it a game or a courting ritual or something else.
You're only describing one part of chemistry. Physical sexual attraction is one part of it but it's only one part of it. Real chemistry is based on connections. You find things in common, you're compatible, you think they're funny, you like their habits, you look forward to being with them, and a lot of other things....AND oh yes, you think they're sexy. The higher the number of connections the higher the chemistry. When people say sparks flew when they met it was from all that electricity running through the power grid that was being connected. They found a multiple points where they could connect with each other. That's why people who fall in love are practically inseparable....they are so well-connected to each other. |
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Hey Chief...great to see you back....Neil Strauss reincarnated....and I agree...a little conflict, sexual tension can go a long way....all i have to do is tell the lady how my Ex treated me & they hear my inner conflicts & boing!!
nothing like the lost puppy or the wounded bird to make someone want to cuddle up.... keep posting those insights, always enjoy your posts 
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Hey Chief...great to see you back....Neil Strauss reincarnated....and I agree...a little conflict, sexual tension can go a long way....all i have to do is tell the lady how my Ex treated me & they hear my inner conflicts & boing!! nothing like the lost puppy or the wounded bird to make someone want to cuddle up.... keep posting those insights, always enjoy your posts 
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Dude, glad to see ya again. I was wondering where you went.
Always good insights. |
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Alright, so I responded in another thread where people were discrediting "game," saying they would rather "get to the point." I think this would fit better as a separate thread: I know it's been ages since I've posted anything on JSH...ahem sorry... I mean MINGLE2, but allow me to tell all you guys a little something about CHEMISTRY. If you're saying that you want to skip the game and just be "straight up and say it from the beginning," you are essentially prioritizing compatibility. You just want to get to the point and see if the two of you are going to work out together, right? Sure, that may sound great, but you're sacrificing something important along the way. Chemistry is essentially spawned from sexual tension. All women with experience in dating and sex are reading that statement right now and nodding their heads in agreement. Most men, however, will be utterly confused. "Isn't tension a bad thing? Isn't resolution always the end goal?" they will ask. Would you really want to watch a movie that has JUST a happy ending without all the mess in the middle? Be my guest to pay ten bucks to go watch that movie, but I ain't joining ya. Playing the game isn't a waste of time. It's an opportunity to build sexual tension, create chemistry, and really get to know the other person through a fun and challenging experience. There WILL be conflict, but that's where the necessary tension comes from. In fact, I oftentimes FAKE conflict with women (and they KNOW it's fake but they play along) to create a flirty vibe between me and her. The tension makes the release all that much better. It's like building up an orgasm within a woman - you keep bringing her to the brink of orgasm but you tell her to relax her body so that she's unable to... after you do this several times, you tell her to cum and the result is an explosion of pleasure multiplied several times over. The push/pull dynamic between the tension and the release that follows is essentially what the game is, and that is what makes interactions between the sexes fun and fulfilling. Calling the game "BS" is just nonsense. Chemistry is nothing more on how well your are able to work together, sexually, spiritualy, facing life, arguments, decisions, understanding, listening, looking out for eachother, knowing when to stand your ground and when to give in, how to make yourself and them happy. This is something you learn. It requires 2 party's who are willing to make the commitment to do it, not just to try. I'll agree that part of that is flirting, because most people want to feel wanted. But your a fool to believe thats the only way to create sexual tension. Human nature, down to the instinctual level will create it. IMHO the whole reason love exists, manmade or not, is so that people can make the choice to be the best they can be so they can work together with the other person. I mean after all, when you break up, isn't it ultimately because you dont want to try anymore? It's always when one side stops trying, though i'm pretty sure it's both not figuring out how to work together fast enough. Some people just learn faster together then others. In reguards to your faking stuff, the laws of nature trancend stupid games, because your right, there is always someone out there that will play along. Thats part of working together. Thing is, despite all of this, you better both be having fun and be happy doing it, or else no matter how long you stay together, you'll never figure out how to understand them and how to really work together. Atleast thats my oppinion, i could be wrong. |
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Hey Chief...great to see you back....Neil Strauss reincarnated....and I agree...a little conflict, sexual tension can go a long way....all i have to do is tell the lady how my Ex treated me & they hear my inner conflicts & boing!! nothing like the lost puppy or the wounded bird to make someone want to cuddle up.... keep posting those insights, always enjoy your posts BlueskyJ, playing the wounded puppy isn't exactly what I was talking about. A lot of guys are confused (whether they know it or not) about this whole vulnerability thing. As a general rule, I don't mention ANYTHING bad about my exes, unless it's about a conflict she has been through that other women can relate to. Gypsy41 aint lying, dude. If a guy shows that he is all about vulnerability, it's going to be a MAJOR turn off. Sure, it's going to trigger women's mothering nature and make her want to take care of you, but that automatically pigeonholes you into a weak role that can never be associated with a LOVER. However, exposing your genuine vulnerabilities in a certain way can have a powerful effect. You have to add another ingredient, though: Strength. Sean Messenger (one of the pickup "gurus") once said, "Every woman gets wet at the thought of some calloused-hand construction worker type holding an infant." It's like Superman. He's a super-powered dude who can kick total butt, BUT HE HAS A WEAKNESS: kryptonite. Too many guys (especially those in the "emo" culture lol) make the mistake of tossing aside the strength of their manhood to adopt a fake identity of complete vulnerability because they're THAT desperate for female attention. I would go into this in more depth by explaining other things like how this relates to what the yin-yang symbolizes in Taoism, but I think I made my point. |
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