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Im not sure if my ex hubby can live with humans!!!
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LOL...that has been my experience too! Nothing wrong with the "sumpin, sumpin," but it can be so, so much more! Funny how there's always time for the sex.... How true...isn't it a sad world we live in |
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Im not sure if my ex hubby can live with humans!!! I don't think it is just your ex hubby I think it is a majority of people both men and woman |
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Too many men who have lived alone for a long time cant handle having anyone, much less a woman, around. Professional bachelors I call them.......my ex hubby was one of them.  Gypsy, Don't think it is a matter of having lived alone. Think it is more a challenge of combining living styles. It is hard work. Perhaps that is what puts men and women off. They don't want to risk being vulnerable...or making changes. It is hard but think the benefits out way the risk. 
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You know maybe this is my problem...I try and put the people that I care about or want to get to know ahead of me....maybe I should put myself first and the heck with everyone else... You couldn't be self-absorbed and cold like that if you tried ... I can tell by your comments here that you have a great heart - don't change a thing!  But it doesn't seem that people want someone with a great heart... I know it doesn't seem that way ... oh, how I KNOW that feeling - but we can't lose hope. This online stuff has been a real eye-opener to me in terms of how quickly people's interest wanes and how very little they're really willing to invest in the process of finding what they claim to want so badly. I've often wished I could just be one of those people who let stuff roll off their back, who could yell 'NEXT' when someone disappoints them, but at my core, that's not who I am. I care (too?) deeply and that can be a bit of a handicap here sometimes, imo. Learning, learning, always learning. |
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I find that people who are too set in their ways and unwilling to change even the little things.......end up being alone. Idk.....maybe subconsiously they like it that way.....no heartbreak.  Subconsious...or safe? I think it's more the later, and it's highly overrated! Change can be scary. We all have our comfort zone. But then fear can also be dangerous. We often try to avoid it in relationships and then wonder, "how come I am alone???" Or we mask our fear by throwing ourselves into our work or hobbies. I will admit that I have been guilty of throwing myself into work and even my volunteerism, but that has been to fill a void. I was aware of what I was doing, and for a season it was ok. However, I was glad to know that I was still capable of throwing my arms open to love this past year and was willing to make time ~ and room ~ in my life for it. Hell, I even turned off my cell phones and blackberry when we were together! Now THAT'S love!  
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I find that people who are too set in their ways and unwilling to change even the little things.......end up being alone. Idk.....maybe subconsiously they like it that way.....no heartbreak. Subconsious...or safe? I think it's more the later, and it's highly overrated! Change can be scary. We all have our comfort zone. But then fear can also be dangerous. We often try to avoid it in relationships and then wonder, "how come I am alone???" Or we mask our fear by throwing ourselves into our work or hobbies. I will admit that I have been guilty of throwing myself into work and even my volunteerism, but that has been to fill a void. I was aware of what I was doing, and for a season it was ok. However, I was glad to know that I was still capable of throwing my arms open to love this past year and was willing to make time ~ and room ~ in my life for it. Hell, I even turned off my cell phones and blackberry when we were together! Now THAT'S love! I like the idea of turning off cell phones when two people need time together. Even if it is just for some quite time together over dinner or sitting on the couch listening to music. 
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You know maybe this is my problem...I try and put the people that I care about or want to get to know ahead of me....maybe I should put myself first and the heck with everyone else... You couldn't be self-absorbed and cold like that if you tried ... I can tell by your comments here that you have a great heart - don't change a thing! But it doesn't seem that people want someone with a great heart... I know it doesn't seem that way ... oh, how I KNOW that feeling - but we can't lose hope. This online stuff has been a real eye-opener to me in terms of how quickly people's interest wanes and how very little they're really willing to invest in the process of finding what they claim to want so badly. I've often wished I could just be one of those people who let stuff roll off their back, who could yell 'NEXT' when someone disappoints them, but at my core, that's not who I am. I care (too?) deeply and that can be a bit of a handicap here sometimes, imo. Learning, learning, always learning. You know this online stuff use to not be this way...I have been on the net off and on for 10 years....I met my exwife on an online site....before I met her people really took the time to get to know you.....then after being with my ex for 4 years and now divorced I have come back and found the whole online stuff has changed.... |
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Hell, I even turned off my cell phones and blackberry when we were together! Now THAT'S love! No that is called being polite.... |
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All this talk and we all could have been on a date!!!
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All this talk and we all could have been on a date!!! But you are to far away. 
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All this talk and we all could have been on a date!!! But you are to far away.
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Edited by
KeepingTheFaith
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Sat 07/19/08 11:37 AM
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You know maybe this is my problem...I try and put the people that I care about or want to get to know ahead of me....maybe I should put myself first and the heck with everyone else... You couldn't be self-absorbed and cold like that if you tried ... I can tell by your comments here that you have a great heart - don't change a thing! But it doesn't seem that people want someone with a great heart... I know it doesn't seem that way ... oh, how I KNOW that feeling - but we can't lose hope. This online stuff has been a real eye-opener to me in terms of how quickly people's interest wanes and how very little they're really willing to invest in the process of finding what they claim to want so badly. I've often wished I could just be one of those people who let stuff roll off their back, who could yell 'NEXT' when someone disappoints them, but at my core, that's not who I am. I care (too?) deeply and that can be a bit of a handicap here sometimes, imo. Learning, learning, always learning. Were we separated at birth, ElaineSeekingJerry?!?!!? I understand exactly what you are saying...hence my username! 
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All this talk and we all could have been on a date!!! But you are to far away. 1041 miles. Where is a transporter when you want one.  
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All this talk and we all could have been on a date!!! But you are to far away. 1041 miles. Where is a transporter when you want one.
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All this talk and we all could have been on a date!!! But you are to far away. 1041 miles. Where is a transporter when you want one. Nope...google earth.
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Edited by
KeepingTheFaith
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Sat 07/19/08 11:45 AM
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Jinkees, Gypsy!
Redshirt - you sound like a man that would move heaven and "google earth" to find love. I wish you success in your journey, my friend! |
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Hell, I even turned off my cell phones and blackberry when we were together! Now THAT'S love! No that is called being polite.... Speaking of things that don't exist anymore......
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Jinkees, Gypsy! Redshirt - you sound like a man that would move heaven and "google earth" to find love. I wish you success in your journey, my friend! For the right connection....Yes. Learned a lot about life when I worked with those facing death and dealing with grief. |
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what I want to know is why isnt redshirt wearing a red shirt???
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