It could be..whats his address,i'll do it!

LET'S KICK THIS MO****F*****S A** UNTIL HE NEVER LAYS A FINGER ON ANOTHER WOMAN!!!!

she has to be willing to leave him to stopped being abused all you can do is be there for her.I think maybe she might not have anywhere else to go maybe i'm wrong just a guess

And, women's shelters generally will only do so much when the outcry is from someone other than the person being abused. They tend to want a commitment from the victim to attend, to find new residence, etc., because so many victims who are only half-heartedly in go back to their abusers.

may be you should call the police and tell them about her, "he" made the first step to kill a woman...

Ask if someone from a shelter will come talk to her, and call her into a meeting with you. Then leave her alone with the social worker.

The worst that will happen is that she will quit, but she will sooner or later anyhow if she doesn't get out. Are there kids?

If yes call Children's Services RIGHT NOW!!!!

from a mans point of view..............maybe if you confront him about it and let him know that you know what he's doing, he may see the light and refrain from doing it again, especially knowing that someone outside of the circle could possibly call the law. very sticky situation to say the least. but as the others have said, unless the girl in question is willing to accept help, then your hands are vitually tied. I wish you both luck..............my feeling is this, a true man will NEVER raise his hand to a woman, no matter what the circumstances!!!!

Police does not get involved in domestic issues unless a homicide has occurred

Come up with an excuse to photograph the injuries. Im a cop and in my expierence the abused party takes it to a point and then fights back. When he/she does the abuser files charges and the victim goes to jail. Without proof of provocation there is really no defense for the victims retaliation. If she can show a pattern of physical abuse shes in the clear. Even if she wont let you photograph the injuries document them for her. Location, severity, type, and approximate time recieved. Even document the story she told you. Trust me it helps. Any questions feel free to ask.

I had a neighbor who I heard it happening to quite often. I called the cops and made enemies out of them but I got some of those flyers from the domestic abuse hotline in our area and left them in places I thought she may find them, like the laundry room and stuff. I don't know what happened since they ended up moving out but it was bad, he even fired a gun a couple of times in the apartment. The landlord said that the patches were in the ceiling so he was firing it into the ceiling to scare the **** out of her.

I know this issue gets you mad
Quite rightly so.

i'll help you

((Robert))

Contact your local Domestic Violence Center/Shelter. They can advise you of what you can and cannot do. Laws vary from state to state.

Have a zero tolerance of DV and abusers.

In the mean time give her support.

I think often, when abuse like that is going on, the victim is concerned that the victimizer will get in trouble. Maybe you should seem more indifferent. She may detect you're already hating this guy and will probably hold back as long as she can sense that. If you can get her to relax some about this, maybe she'll feel like opening up a little more. Then of course you try to get her to consider going to the local domestic abuse coalition for the kind of help she really needs. Hell, if you get her to talk just a little you could go and grab a few brochures on your own, and see if she is interested in any sort of domestic abuse counseling. That way if she were scared or embarrassed (because people DO get embarrassed, awful but true) she would not have to go in person right off.
No, cops will not act on hearsay, in fact, they seem little concerned even showing up at the actual scene of a violent domestic act.

How WONDERFUL of you to give this input and offer assistance in her quest!!!

Excellent advice

This is a tough situation to be in,, Your hands are tied .. She is the one who has to make the first move
To see there is a problem and then seek the help…. There is or could be more involved than just the
Physical abuse,, Emotional, threats, and the constant reminder, ( daily) we are no good
Sad to say we stay because we believe all that is told us,,, and are to ashamed to seek help
Or go to family and friends… Its hard to understand unless you have been in the abused shoes…

You can however remind her you are there for her if she needs you, and in the mean time
Do some research on local womens shelters that will help her when she is ready,, yes when she
Is able to see there is a problem,,,,

I have been in her shoes, it took me along time to see and finally realize I was important
I deserved Love,,, Lets hope it wont take her as long……

Start taking notes as to when and how she looks when she comes into work Pics are good,, yet hard to get… Keep a Diary..

Love & Light

you get "the best first post award". it's not worth much
but there is considerable street cred!



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