Good Answer, before you know it, everything is your fault, and you're just like the person they used to date !

Have you been feeling rejected by women lately because they have trust issues?

I can see what you mean. Sorry you had to experience that. For me, with no kids, it was oh you'll hold him in such high esteem no one can measure up, or, I'll live in the shadow of a ghost! Thank God not all men are that insecure!

I think the worst damage comes from childhood abuse so that victim is prone to become involved in a codependent relationship which simply perpetuates the damage and abuse. Having recently dated a girl like this for two years, I could see a lot of changes in her self esteem. She could too. Her problem with alcoholism drew her away and back into the arms of the last husband again which she now strongly regrets. She says in two days she will leave him and return to her parents home for a time of rebuilding. I do not think that would have happened if I had not met her. She claims she would be dead by now if we had never met. Should I regret the pain I endured in the relationship or should I be thankful I could be some help to someone I have deep feelings about? I choose the latter so my answer to this question is to suggest if you have the strength to endure, the self discipline to be faithful and true, the wisdom to be good counsel and have no expectation of return then you should go for it. "Love seeketh not its own!"

No, I work around some and listen to them squak all day about it.

So they "squak" and are damaged....hmmm I'd steer completely clear of women then if I were you.

So you are looking for a woman who has never been in a relationship where she has gotten hurt or been lied to. I suppose its a mans perogative or even a womans perogative to hurt the ones they claim to love and not expect repurcsions? The way I see it, if you really love someone you arent set out to hurt them to begin with to have to worry about it.

If there not ready to be hurt again, then i'd probly not. Everyone gets hurt in a relastionship, thats the downside, because no one is perfect. On the other hand, if i end up being a rebound guy for some chick who's heart is hurting, and i get hurt from it, i'm ok with that. Atleast i got to help heal her heart. Hell, my heart is held together with duct tape and glue, but that doesn't stop me from being me, or smileing, or going after what i want. If it breaks again, it will grow stronger. Besides i always know where the duct tape and super glue is.

hahahaha !

Me too!!!! wanna date?

I have been seperated from mine over 3 yrs thank goodness and much better every day than to be in the hell I was in. Had I still been there, I would be dead today. However, I refuse to allow him the satisfaction or the power to hold my heart or mind at bay by making me afraid to love again.

Too, complicated !
I'm just saying that I'd rather hurt at the stake for that risk
of mad crazy love, then be careful and miss out !

I understand that. I wasnt accusing, merely asking you where you stand in the discussion.

I'd rather risk burning at the stake, being tossed in a shark tank, or trampled by elephants to find that one hot messy love affair, then play it safe !

HOt and messy..sounds fun!

They are, the stupid arguements, the hot make up sex, yummmmmmy!

Who needs to argue to have great sex? lol

Sometimes a good fight can spice things up !

So was this our first disagreement? LOL

well it can benefit them if u make them feel better or u make them feel worse! i would try to make them feel better in a way or if it doesnt work out ill just let it be and move on.