Amberdee, I am a 38 year old woman who's lived on her own since 15. When I stay at my mothers house when I go home to visit, I play by her rules and abide her preferences. If they became an issue for me, something I could not tolerate, I would stay at a hotel when I visit...but I have that option.

Unfortunately, when other accommodations are not a choice, then the only way to live in your circumstances peacefully, is to humor their requests as best you can. If you can swallow a little pride and suffer their rules, I think you would find they might become more accommodating to your needs too. JMO. Good luck.

Last 2 posts are FANTASTIC advice.

I agree with this, as someone who doesn't always like what goes on in my house either, and being questioned about this that and the other thing, you can save yourself the headaches by just going along with it as best you can. No sense in getting all worked up over something, when a simple short answer is all that's being asked of you.

i am grateful that they have taken me off the streets...and i do everything for them except wipe their asses....and i give them the utmost respect.....but i'm not the only one who's suffering from a mood disorder in this house, but i am the only one taking medication for it.....i was literally on my deathbed when they took me in......and i STILL have the nightmares about the abuse my ex wreaked on me......and they use that against me.............


i just think that it's unfair that if i miss one day of medication or therapy they want to put me back in the state hospital......just aint right

and that's JMO

Amber, they took you in, you feel you do more than you should - can understand that, but why would you miss your medication?

because the dr wrote the script wrong (i'm in a PAP.....).......and i do feel that i do more than my share.....I DO IT ALL!!!!!!

If life is so bad there..pack up and go!! If you do it all there, then move out and let them do it all. Heres the thing, when you move out on your own~~guess what, you will be doing a lot more!! You will be cleaning and paying all of the bills.
I think you have it made staying there because you are not responcible for all of the bills. When you are on your own, you have to pay everything. Then you might want to wipe your dad's a$$ if he will let you come back and stay there!!
Maybe you need a real dose of reality to smack you in the face to realize what life is really about?? I honestly don't think you have a clue yet!! Stop griping all the time and deal with the situation..if you don't like it, get out!!

Here's a simple question if the Dr. wrote the wrong prescription and YOU know it's the wrong prescription, why not have the Dr. call your local pharmacy with the correct prescription. All done in the comforts of your fathers house.

Try being a little grateful to them, pretend living there is like a job. Speak to your father and step mom like they were your bosses and you really needed your job. get it. A little respect will gain you a lot. Do your chores or everything else you do, with a smile. When they call you, respond with a polite yes and a smile. You will be surprised that smiles truly are contagious. Make the best of your living situations or leave Amber. (read unsures post) life is truly not easy and sometimes we want to believe the world owes us something because of what we have gone thru, but its not true. the world doesnt owe you, if you want to make things happen, make them happen.

good luck to you

{{Unsure}} a might strong but great honest reply!

ok.....i do have one question (as per what's happened today)........

is it right for my stepmother to blame ME for they're going into bankruptcy because she went out and bought a car she knew they COULD BY NO MEANS AFFORD........


she went to a car dealership and bought a van knowing there was no way in hell they could afford it......and a month later they surrendered (after my stepmother blamed me and my father for her buying it because we weren't there to stop her from signing the papers......)......now the bank that financed the van is suing her and my dad for the balance after it was auctioned off.....and the lawyer that is representing the bank is suing for attorney fees.....

but there is something i learned in group therapy as a child, you're responsible for your own actions......

and it's not like i held a gun to her head and made her sign those papers. she's done more financial damage to my dad than my mother did (and that's saying soemthing)

I have seen you post like this about all your family members. It gets old, sorry to say.

You need to stop complaining endlessly and DO something about it. Go into therapy, do family counseling, or MOVE. You control only your actions. JMO

no, it's only my stepmother......but you're right i'll just start bottling all this sh!t up again....

What a passive agressive response. You've said more than you can possibly realize.

Seeking sympathy and pity here will do you no good.

not seeking a damn thing.......

My, such a great attitude you have there...LMAO!!

been in a mood for the past few days........drama going on here at home, plus i'm still trying to figure out my feelings about my ex's mom passing away......terrified that my ex is gonna use that to try to get me to go back to him (which ain't gonna happen)

Move? Hell, that is what I'm about to do here in a while.

Amber thought the following words would help you:


Do what you can do, with what you have, every chance you get. Moving just one step forward will give you a positive foothold upon which to build.
Often it is easy to choose to see yourself and treat yourself as a victim. Yet by making such a choice, you quickly surrender control over your own life.


Instead of giving up and becoming a victim, know that there is always something positive you can do. There is always some action with which you can move yourself forward.


Life's greatest triumphs often have their origins in times of great difficulty. In each challenge there is fertile ground for building great value.


Do you feel overwhelmed by your circumstances? The best way to get away from that feeling is to step forward and do something positive and productive.


With every positive action, your power increases. Step by step, moment by moment, move your life exactly where you choose to go.

Fran, you are a wonderful woman. Truly.

thanks likewise

i'll keep that in mind...(gonna print that...)

and i've just started out making a list of what to do to get my life back in order (as if it ever was in the first place....lmfao)

thanks y'all......for the advice and criticism......i just have to learn a new way to cope around here at home