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My best friend is a drug addict (alcoholic), he knows this and doesn't care. He'll often talk of how he'll die the same way his grandad did (siroccos) and even points to how it's bad for him. I know that he's checked himself into rehab twice, both to try and save failing relationships. Of course when he sobered up, they still couldn't patch things up so he looked at it as "it wasn't the booze after all," and went right back to drinking.
Whenever this happens, he comes to live with me. I get to watch him drop off the wagon, and go through the depression of yet another failed relationship simultaniously. Nice. Well, what I do is be supportive. I'll let him slide (let him get to 40 beers a night this time), then I'll bring him back. Now I know I can't get him to quit drinking, and I know if I tried, he would view me as an enemy of sorts. What I do is try to get him to control himself more. You see, it's okay to drink. It's okay to go on a "fad diet." Smoke a jay on the weekend with your friends, it's cool. It's when you loose your ability to control when and where you do it, that you have a problem. Most people have a lust for liberty installed in them, thus they don't want to be a slave to anyone or anything. If you can show them how they've completely ceded control over to another entity, they might just come back. A person has to want to change, and they have to want to do it for themselves. If they are doing it for someone else, and that person lets them down, they will be right back into whatever they gave up almost instantly. Addictions, any kind, are hard to break. Take it from a guy who smoked 13 years, quit for 6, then came back to smoking. Once addicted, always addicted. The desire will never stop, how you feed the desire is the only control you have. I'm not the two pack smoker I was, but I can see him in me. |
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My best friend is a drug addict (alcoholic), he knows this and doesn't care. He'll often talk of how he'll die the same way his grandad did (siroccos) and even points to how it's bad for him. I know that he's checked himself into rehab twice, both to try and save failing relationships. Of course when he sobered up, they still couldn't patch things up so he looked at it as "it wasn't the booze after all," and went right back to drinking. Whenever this happens, he comes to live with me. I get to watch him drop off the wagon, and go through the depression of yet another failed relationship simultaniously. Nice. Well, what I do is be supportive. I'll let him slide (let him get to 40 beers a night this time), then I'll bring him back. Now I know I can't get him to quit drinking, and I know if I tried, he would view me as an enemy of sorts. What I do is try to get him to control himself more. You see, it's okay to drink. It's okay to go on a "fad diet." Smoke a jay on the weekend with your friends, it's cool. It's when you loose your ability to control when and where you do it, that you have a problem. Most people have a lust for liberty installed in them, thus they don't want to be a slave to anyone or anything. If you can show them how they've completely ceded control over to another entity, they might just come back. A person has to want to change, and they have to want to do it for themselves. If they are doing it for someone else, and that person lets them down, they will be right back into whatever they gave up almost instantly. Addictions, any kind, are hard to break. Take it from a guy who smoked 13 years, quit for 6, then came back to smoking. Once addicted, always addicted. The desire will never stop, how you feed the desire is the only control you have. I'm not the two pack smoker I was, but I can see him in me. thanks for sharing. |
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If it helps, it was worth the typing and redialing the *$&&# lousy dialup internet twice.
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If it helps, it was worth the typing and redialing the *$&&# lousy dialup internet twice. may have value....good job |
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If it helps, it was worth the typing and redialing the *$&&# lousy dialup internet twice. may have value....good job I will share it with her, thank you to everyone. It is just really hard to see someone so bright wasting his life like this.  |
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If it helps, it was worth the typing and redialing the *$&&# lousy dialup internet twice. may have value....good job I will share it with her, thank you to everyone. It is just really hard to see someone so bright wasting his life like this. yes..its very hard to watch |
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