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Topic: Ok, so if you had someone
MAKE_ME_GIGGLE Joined Thu 02/07/08 Posts: 5376	Mon 07/14/08 04:58 PM
My little brother was an alcoholic... and I certainly wish I had done something to intervene before he died in a car accident from drinking and driving

bluesunflower Joined Thu 05/15/08 Posts: 1163	Mon 07/14/08 04:58 PM
intervention can start the process. but addicts have to realize that they have a problem before they can benefit from help. best of luck to your friend

Random_Stranger Joined Wed 05/02/07 Posts: 2409	Mon 07/14/08 04:58 PM
in your life that had a drug addiction or a eating disorder and they were out of control and you could see them dying in front of you. Would you do an intervention to save their life? NO, I do not have any of this in my family or close friends. I was just thinking about this, we were talking about this at work today. Yes, I would do whatever I could to help them. But if this was something I was aware of before hand, my ass would be nowhere near it.

mcattygarnett Joined Fri 12/07/07 Posts: 3527	Mon 07/14/08 04:59 PM
I have lived through it..You can't make someone get help..They have to want it...No matter what you do...If they are not ready for the help, it will not work...I would never turn my back on them, but you can't force someone to get help..... Your so right about that and she knows that

mcattygarnett Joined Fri 12/07/07 Posts: 3527	Mon 07/14/08 05:00 PM
My little brother was an alcoholic... and I certainly wish I had done something to intervene before he died in a car accident from drinking and driving Giggles I am so sorry , that is what we are trying to stop from happening

chuck366 Joined Tue 10/16/07 Posts: 4666	Mon 07/14/08 05:00 PM
I have lived through it..You can't make someone get help..They have to want it...No matter what you do...If they are not ready for the help, it will not work...I would never turn my back on them, but you can't force someone to get help..... Your so right about that and she knows that yup, I agree, Im not a Dr. but I play one on JSH

mcattygarnett Joined Fri 12/07/07 Posts: 3527	Mon 07/14/08 05:01 PM
intervention can start the process. but addicts have to realize that they have a problem before they can benefit from help. best of luck to your friend Your right, thank you

mcattygarnett Joined Fri 12/07/07 Posts: 3527	Mon 07/14/08 05:01 PM
I have lived through it..You can't make someone get help..They have to want it...No matter what you do...If they are not ready for the help, it will not work...I would never turn my back on them, but you can't force someone to get help..... Your so right about that and she knows that yup, I agree, Im not a Dr. but I play one on JSH

MAKE_ME_GIGGLE Joined Thu 02/07/08 Posts: 5376	Mon 07/14/08 05:01 PM
My little brother was an alcoholic... and I certainly wish I had done something to intervene before he died in a car accident from drinking and driving Giggles I am so sorry , that is what we are trying to stop from happening all i can say is dont wait..... i cant change the past... and i have alot of regrets... try to help now before its too late... guilt is a terrible thing

bluesunflower Joined Thu 05/15/08 Posts: 1163	Mon 07/14/08 05:02 PM
intervention can start the process. but addicts have to realize that they have a problem before they can benefit from help. best of luck to your friend Your right, thank you yw i hope it all works out well.

stardust50 Joined Tue 06/03/08 Posts: 542	Mon 07/14/08 05:03 PM
I have lived through it..You can't make someone get help..They have to want it...No matter what you do...If they are not ready for the help, it will not work...I would never turn my back on them, but you can't force someone to get help..... Your so right about that and she knows that I have been through it with a family all I could do is stand back and let her hit bottom to help her pick herself up and start climbing that hill to get better......I never turned my back on them even when it involved other people in the family. I was there for her and made sure she was not alone. Tough road tough time but we did it and were stronger now.

mcattygarnett Joined Fri 12/07/07 Posts: 3527	Mon 07/14/08 05:04 PM
My little brother was an alcoholic... and I certainly wish I had done something to intervene before he died in a car accident from drinking and driving Giggles I am so sorry , that is what we are trying to stop from happening all i can say is dont wait..... i cant change the past... and i have alot of regrets... try to help now before its too late... guilt is a terrible thing thats what she is trying to do, but she is the Mom and you know that Moms dont know anything

mcattygarnett Joined Fri 12/07/07 Posts: 3527	Mon 07/14/08 05:05 PM
I have lived through it..You can't make someone get help..They have to want it...No matter what you do...If they are not ready for the help, it will not work...I would never turn my back on them, but you can't force someone to get help..... Your so right about that and she knows that I have been through it with a family all I could do is stand back and let her hit bottom to help her pick herself up and start climbing that hill to get better......I never turned my back on them even when it involved other people in the family. I was there for her and made sure she was not alone. Tough road tough time but we did it and were stronger now. thats what I keep telling her, but she is ready to kick the kid out.

MAKE_ME_GIGGLE Joined Thu 02/07/08 Posts: 5376	Mon 07/14/08 05:07 PM
My little brother was an alcoholic... and I certainly wish I had done something to intervene before he died in a car accident from drinking and driving Giggles I am so sorry , that is what we are trying to stop from happening all i can say is dont wait..... i cant change the past... and i have alot of regrets... try to help now before its too late... guilt is a terrible thing thats what she is trying to do, but she is the Mom and you know that Moms dont know anything I wish I could tallk to her... because it happens so quick.. you dont know what hit you... there is no warning

MAKE_ME_GIGGLE Joined Thu 02/07/08 Posts: 5376	Mon 07/14/08 05:08 PM
I have lived through it..You can't make someone get help..They have to want it...No matter what you do...If they are not ready for the help, it will not work...I would never turn my back on them, but you can't force someone to get help..... Your so right about that and she knows that I have been through it with a family all I could do is stand back and let her hit bottom to help her pick herself up and start climbing that hill to get better......I never turned my back on them even when it involved other people in the family. I was there for her and made sure she was not alone. Tough road tough time but we did it and were stronger now. thats what I keep telling her, but she is ready to kick the kid out. you cant wait for them to hit rock bottom... my brothers bottom was the bottom of a pond!!! they dont always hit bottom before tragedy strikes

mcattygarnett Joined Fri 12/07/07 Posts: 3527	Mon 07/14/08 05:08 PM
My little brother was an alcoholic... and I certainly wish I had done something to intervene before he died in a car accident from drinking and driving Giggles I am so sorry , that is what we are trying to stop from happening all i can say is dont wait..... i cant change the past... and i have alot of regrets... try to help now before its too late... guilt is a terrible thing thats what she is trying to do, but she is the Mom and you know that Moms dont know anything I wish I could tallk to her... because it happens so quick.. you dont know what hit you... there is no warning thats what I am affraid of, I am very close to the child also, but everything falls on death ears.

chuck366 Joined Tue 10/16/07 Posts: 4666	Mon 07/14/08 05:08 PM
My little brother was an alcoholic... and I certainly wish I had done something to intervene before he died in a car accident from drinking and driving Giggles I am so sorry , that is what we are trying to stop from happening all i can say is dont wait..... i cant change the past... and i have alot of regrets... try to help now before its too late... guilt is a terrible thing thats what she is trying to do, but she is the Mom and you know that Moms dont know anything I wish I could tallk to her... because it happens so quick.. you dont know what hit you... there is no warning [/quote Warnings often are late to the party

bastet126 Joined Fri 12/07/07 Posts: 15553	Mon 07/14/08 05:09 PM
I have lived through it..You can't make someone get help..They have to want it...No matter what you do...If they are not ready for the help, it will not work...I would never turn my back on them, but you can't force someone to get help..... Your so right about that and she knows that I have been through it with a family all I could do is stand back and let her hit bottom to help her pick herself up and start climbing that hill to get better......I never turned my back on them even when it involved other people in the family. I was there for her and made sure she was not alone. Tough road tough time but we did it and were stronger now. same here with the ex, but i reached a point where i had to let go or i would have lost everything because of his addiction and for the kids i had to survive. and it is true, they have to seek help, if and when they are ready. i learned that the hard way more times than i can count. it wasn't until there really was nothing left, he sought help and he's 4 years into recovery now. to let someone go in that condition was the hardest thing i ever had to do.

mcattygarnett Joined Fri 12/07/07 Posts: 3527	Mon 07/14/08 05:10 PM
I have lived through it..You can't make someone get help..They have to want it...No matter what you do...If they are not ready for the help, it will not work...I would never turn my back on them, but you can't force someone to get help..... Your so right about that and she knows that I have been through it with a family all I could do is stand back and let her hit bottom to help her pick herself up and start climbing that hill to get better......I never turned my back on them even when it involved other people in the family. I was there for her and made sure she was not alone. Tough road tough time but we did it and were stronger now. same here with the ex, but i reached a point where i had to let go or i would have lost everything because of his addiction and for the kids i had to survive. and it is true, they have to seek help, if and when they are ready. i learned that the hard way more times than i can count. it wasn't until there really was nothing left, he sought help and he's 4 years into recovery now. to let someone go in that condition was the hardest thing i ever had to do. I am affraid that is what she is going to have to do, is let go and let him hit bottom

chuck366 Joined Tue 10/16/07 Posts: 4666	Mon 07/14/08 05:12 PM
I have lived through it..You can't make someone get help..They have to want it...No matter what you do...If they are not ready for the help, it will not work...I would never turn my back on them, but you can't force someone to get help..... Your so right about that and she knows that I have been through it with a family all I could do is stand back and let her hit bottom to help her pick herself up and start climbing that hill to get better......I never turned my back on them even when it involved other people in the family. I was there for her and made sure she was not alone. Tough road tough time but we did it and were stronger now. same here with the ex, but i reached a point where i had to let go or i would have lost everything because of his addiction and for the kids i had to survive. and it is true, they have to seek help, if and when they are ready. i learned that the hard way more times than i can count. it wasn't until there really was nothing left, he sought help and he's 4 years into recovery now. to let someone go in that condition was the hardest thing i ever had to do. I am affraid that is what she is going to have to do, is let go and let him hit bottom there are choices and consequences....just encourage ,love,support and hope bro