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Topic: Am I Friggin Crazy??????
debbie1980 Joined Sun 09/09/07 Posts: 20487	Mon 07/14/08 03:16 PM
debbie, i don't mean like i'm happy that she died what was probably a terrifying death.....but she's been in pain for a long time...and i still carry a lot of the resentment from how she treated me and her own children.... i know sweetie, i understand. i didnt say you were happy, you never said you were. i was saying i understand you have mixed feelings and the news probably hasnt sunk in yet. actually she did state she was happy i did?? no, the OP i read back, ive just saw.

merlin2525 Joined Sun 06/17/07 Posts: 2819	Mon 07/14/08 03:17 PM
I was still with my ex when her mother died. You just wouldn't believe how happy I was. I was so happy that I went to the grave, a few nights later , and had a couple drinks with the old bat. No. There is no such things as ghosts. No. She doesn't haunt me.

feistybaby Joined Fri 04/25/08 Posts: 2422	Mon 07/14/08 03:19 PM
Mixed emotions about death are common especially when you don't like someone or harbor resentment against them. A sense of relief that the person is no longer a problem is normal.

ElaineSeekingJerry Joined Thu 05/01/08 Posts: 978	Mon 07/14/08 03:20 PM
Your feelings are your own - no one else can dictate if they're right or wrong. I think your reaction is natural and to be expected given the circumstances and while I wouldn't advocate 'celebrating' her death (there needs to be a healthy respect for life itself), give yourself permission to sort out your feelings in YOUR time, no one elses. I would not be surprised if you find your feelings softening and changing over time - you may eventually feel sadness that she was unable to celebrate her children's happiness and felt the need to sabotage it, you may learn things about her after her death that will lead you to have compassion or empathy for her and why she behaved the way she did - while never excusing it. (I know this was true for my family after my gmother passed away - we uncovered things about her life that we were unaware of while she was with us and it gave us new insight into her 'difficult' personality, etc. Just my 2 cents.)

chris1979 Joined Sun 10/14/07 Posts: 4987	Mon 07/14/08 03:22 PM
now my 2cents. very sick, yes very sick to be happy about the death of someone.

awolf1010 Joined Sun 03/30/08 Posts: 7251	Mon 07/14/08 03:24 PM
if you find yourself in a hole, its best not to keep digging. Remember the golden Rule.....it takes alot to better than they were to you, but it only takes a moment to be as bad.

chris1979 Joined Sun 10/14/07 Posts: 4987	Mon 07/14/08 03:24 PM
if you find yourself in a hole, its best not to keep digging. Remember the golden Rule.....it takes alot to better than they were to you, but it only takes a moment to be as bad.

Amberdee29045 Joined Sun 11/04/07 Posts: 1729	Mon 07/14/08 03:25 PM
Your feelings are your own - no one else can dictate if they're right or wrong. I think your reaction is natural and to be expected given the circumstances and while I wouldn't advocate 'celebrating' her death (there needs to be a healthy respect for life itself), give yourself permission to sort out your feelings in YOUR time, no one elses. I would not be surprised if you find your feelings softening and changing over time - you may eventually feel sadness that she was unable to celebrate her children's happiness and felt the need to sabotage it, you may learn things about her after her death that will lead you to have compassion or empathy for her and why she behaved the way she did - while never excusing it. (I know this was true for my family after my gmother passed away - we uncovered things about her life that we were unaware of while she was with us and it gave us new insight into her 'difficult' personality, etc. Just my 2 cents.) well....i know a lot bout her past and i don't hold that against her...and she didn't start treating me like crap right out in the open until her son quit drinking......and she kept saying i didn't love him and that i was only after his disability check.....she did finally realize how bad she messed up things for her son when i used her phone and called my mom to come pick me up and that i was leaving Elton.

boredinaz06 Joined Sun 10/15/06 Posts: 22764	Mon 07/14/08 03:49 PM
now my 2cents. very sick, yes very sick to be happy about the death of someone. Maybe to You! theres a Lot of People I will Happy about when they Die.

chris1979 Joined Sun 10/14/07 Posts: 4987	Mon 07/14/08 03:51 PM
now my 2cents. very sick, yes very sick to be happy about the death of someone. Maybe to You! theres a Lot of People I will Happy about when they Die. sorry to hear that

debbie1980 Joined Sun 09/09/07 Posts: 20487	Mon 07/14/08 03:55 PM
now my 2cents. very sick, yes very sick to be happy about the death of someone. Maybe to You! theres a Lot of People I will Happy about when they Die.

Amberdee29045 Joined Sun 11/04/07 Posts: 1729	Mon 07/14/08 03:57 PM
now my 2cents. very sick, yes very sick to be happy about the death of someone. Maybe to You! theres a Lot of People I will Happy about when they Die. there are THREE people whose grave i will dance on when they die........but you have to know me to know why.....lol all three should be in prison, OPEN POPULATION, and of course the other inmates be told why they're in there

boredinaz06 Joined Sun 10/15/06 Posts: 22764	Mon 07/14/08 03:58 PM
Not everybody who Dies is Deserving of Tears! and Not Everyone is Inherently Good. so Good riddance to the Assholes

lifestooshort6 Joined Mon 12/31/07 Posts: 6667	Mon 07/14/08 04:50 PM
Not everybody who Dies is Deserving of Tears! and Not Everyone is Inherently Good. so Good riddance to the Assholes it is unfortunate but true