i met this lady about 4 months ago we talk on the phone and email, after about a month we started telling eachother we are in love, every time i talk about meeting her she says it is not a good time to meet...is she just playing me and keeping her options open...any advice...help...

yeah don't date married women.

sounds like...keeping her options open she might have something else on the side too

those r old photos so move on

Talking about possibly being in love with you and then saying she's keeping her options open, yeah I'd say she's playing you.

Sorry

How much of you time do you have left to waste on someone that is wasting your time? Time is short. If you want to gamble, go to the Casino. Move on.

Well, I've got an answer to this question my friend.... RUN AWAY!!!!! Do not fall for her bullsh#T!! If she really loved you she'd want to see you....escape....before it's too late....trust me, I know.....have been there....just giving you the truth.....

My guess? She's just not that into you ... sorry!

Kick her to the curb

Do the same to her then. 4 months is a little soon to toss around the L word (not lesbian), but that's just me. Women always keep their options open though man. Just be yourself. Don't give in too much. If she is WITH you, then don't trip. At that age, I am sure she wouldn't be with you unless she meant to be with you. Not like some of the younger chicks.


Maybe it just isn't a good time to meet or perhaps she is just not ready. You can't pressure a girl, otherwise you mess it all up. There is a particular, beautiful young lady on here that I gave my number to, because we wouldn't IM each other. From what I read about her, she seems like a real nice girl.


Guess what? I got accused of moving too fast when all I want to do is get to know her. So long story short..... We don't talk.





So play it cool man. If you like her that much, give her the space and play it cool. Don't put all your eggs in one basket if you catch my drift. Reveal it in pieces, but don't drop all your emotions and feelings on her. It might be too much for her to take and put her on the spot.


Best of luck to you.

She might just be afraid. Give her time. Maybe arrange to meet at a neutral location/public place like a restaurant.

she is possibly keeping her options open, good luck to you.

there are three reasons not to meet
the one you have told you love

distance, conflict and fear

After 4 months and have never met? What does she give as her "reasons".. besides "just not a good time"

Before the "L" word would have come into play for me.. I'd at least had to meet the person.. but that's just me.

Does she live close to you?

$2 for using my line..pay up!

She could be playing you or yes, you are moving too fast..Who said the L word first? Not many married women will give out their phone number...so who is to say. I dont like going fast nowdays either. That is how I messed up last time.

thanks everyone,

It hard to tell. It is a possibility but, what concerns me the most is the L word so soon. Maybe, you both need take a step back & just focus on getting to know each other and become friends first!

What the rush!

Anyways, Good Luck & Take Care!

To me I will NEVER say THAT "LOVE" to anyone who I havn't met yet in person.

But as to her ditchin ya,,,I would be thinking once,,ok,cool,
But TWICE??? No something a miss, and I would be asking for her real reason and would be thinking someting might be NOT RIGHT,,,lol
BUT,,I have HAD THIS happen more than ONCE to know,,YES,,,SOMETHING WAS UP TO HER TRUTH!,wink,
Just MY thoughts aman,,GOOD LUCK...
And there can always be MANY things happen in innocents that are just things not right at the times you tried....wink,,,

she lives about 3 hours away from me, she says shes a little nervous...but should'nt she be over it after 4 months...