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Topic: i need your advice
TheShadow's photo
Sun 07/13/08 02:57 PM

she lives about 3 hours away from me, she says shes a little nervous...but should'nt she be over it after 4 months...


4 months and 3 hours away, you guys should have met already.

FearandLoathing's photo
Sun 07/13/08 02:58 PM

i met this lady about 4 months ago we talk on the phone and email, after about a month we started telling eachother we are in love, every time i talk about meeting her she says it is not a good time to meet...is she just playing me and keeping her options open...any advice...help...


It took you a month to fall in love?surprised

alexiateigra's photo
Sun 07/13/08 03:00 PM

she lives about 3 hours away from me, she says shes a little nervous...but should'nt she be over it after 4 months...


Noooooooooooooooooo. It depends. You guys were throwing the L word far too soon. Take a step back & just be friends. If you are constantly asking her to meet, she might be feeling a bit pressured. Meeting someone online can be dangerous - especially for a woman.

Society reminds us of those dangers everytime a woman is killed, raped, or missing.

My recommendation is to give her some space.

As I keep saying, just try to be friends.

marionikbarieh's photo
Sun 07/13/08 03:06 PM
best time to find love is when it sneaks up on u but then people can fool u say one thing but be another 4 real

No1sLove's photo
Sun 07/13/08 03:12 PM
Edited by No1sLove on Sun 07/13/08 03:13 PM


she lives about 3 hours away from me, she says shes a little nervous...but should'nt she be over it after 4 months...


Noooooooooooooooooo. It depends. You guys were throwing the L word far too soon. Take a step back & just be friends. If you are constantly asking her to meet, she might be feeling a bit pressured. Meeting someone online can be dangerous - especially for a woman.

Society reminds us of those dangers everytime a woman is killed, raped, or missing.

My recommendation is to give her some space.

As I keep saying, just try to be friends.
True true true! It's an evil cycle of...how can you not trust someone whom you love, but how can you truly trust someone you've never met? frown It's a contradiction that's easy to fall into here. flowerforyou

It may come easy for her to feel completely trusting of you online and on the phone...but the fear of horrifying encounters in the media has to linger in her mind or she's a fool. At least you are not dating a fool. flowerforyou

If it's really love, it won't be too much for you to give her the time she needs to come to terms with the messed up situation. Make it clear to her that you will meet her on any terms and under any conditions that make her feel more comfortable about it...and that you won't be offended that she has concerns and fears, but respect them. That will help tremendously. Good luck hon! flowerforyou

alexiateigra's photo
Sun 07/13/08 04:03 PM



she lives about 3 hours away from me, she says shes a little nervous...but should'nt she be over it after 4 months...


Noooooooooooooooooo. It depends. You guys were throwing the L word far too soon. Take a step back & just be friends. If you are constantly asking her to meet, she might be feeling a bit pressured. Meeting someone online can be dangerous - especially for a woman.

Society reminds us of those dangers everytime a woman is killed, raped, or missing.

My recommendation is to give her some space.

As I keep saying, just try to be friends.
True true true! It's an evil cycle of...how can you not trust someone whom you love, but how can you truly trust someone you've never met? frown It's a contradiction that's easy to fall into here. flowerforyou

It may come easy for her to feel completely trusting of you online and on the phone...but the fear of horrifying encounters in the media has to linger in her mind or she's a fool. At least you are not dating a fool. flowerforyou

If it's really love, it won't be too much for you to give her the time she needs to come to terms with the messed up situation. Make it clear to her that you will meet her on any terms and under any conditions that make her feel more comfortable about it...and that you won't be offended that she has concerns and fears, but respect them. That will help tremendously. Good luck hon! flowerforyou


No1 has some very good points here. Trust is probably one of the hardest things.

Give time & Good Luck

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