I can never approach anyone it seems like in real life. I go to a subway near my house for dinner, and there's this cute girl in line, mid 20's I guess. We made a little conversation, not much, but wanted to say something to introduce myself or whatever, but just couldn't do it. Before I knew it she left. She comes there often apparently though so may see her again, but I feel like I may have missed a chance to get to know someone there. I hate how I can get like that.

yo ask her how much a polar bear weighs,


and ask her if that was enough

to break the ice,

Be big, Be a builder.

Continue to do that...or change it, the problem and solution lies with you...not us.

Next time just say Hi to her. You will never know if it is the next best thing if you dont step up to the plate. Good luck to you.

Ask her how much weight she's trying to lose since she's eating at Subway...that will get you a reaction!

I know so many men that are just the same way as you are. What is lacking is self-confidence and personality. Geez! How difficult is it to start a conversation and hold it! Give me a break! You could have brought up anything; her hair, her eyes, her sub, the neighborhood, her work..I could go on and on. That woman probably walked away thinking "booooorrrrrrrring!"

What was she going to do had you started an interesting conversation? She'd let you know she wasn't interested right away by saying something like; "Well, I have to go." You didn't even get that opportunity! On the other hand, you might have started a lifelong relationship.

I've heard guys complain about this so much that I even gave a acronym to this behavior. I call it a "MONE". Missed Opportunity No Excuse!

Yep, you likely missed a good opportunity.

The only way to brake out of your shell and conquer your fear is to try! Otherwise you will stay like that.

The only thing you have to lose is letting your fear control you instead of controlling your fear.

Yeah you're right, just gotta do this.

I suppose this is what I get for sealing myself in so much and being on the computer as often as I am. Need to get out more to get used to this I think.

Wise words. Now ya see why he's my friend?

Actually Adam you still got a chance. You had a small conversation with her already so that sort of broke the ice. Now the next time you see her, she'll recognize you. That's when you need to take the opportunity and say something like, "Hey, nice to see you again," (maybe a couple more words) and then "I've seen you here a couple of times, would you like to join me for lunch here sometime?" That simple! But it's up to you make that move!

JMHO

That's a good point, thanks so much for that.

I know exactly what you're going through.

Good luck!

look man.. Ive been outta the dating scene for at least 11 yrs... this past month has really opened my eyes.. I was alil shy like you too at first.. but now since Ive gotten the feel of being single Im having blast.. all ya gotta do is start talking and I think your gonna be in for a big surprise like I was.. there are alot of women out there that wish you would come up to them and say something.. trust me..and if you get zapped a few times.. oh well.. dont let it hurt your ego.. it happens.. but when you make a strike.. its all worth it..
now go try it! and good luck... have fun with it