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I guess this goes here? Anyway, I have a theory on cyber dating that unless you enjoy spending time and hanging out in the forums, only the best looking most photogenic individuals are successful. Here is why. First off, you can't see the persons body language, presence, personality, voice tonality, mannerisms,etc. All you see are pictures and I know for most of us-me included-I only view the profiles of the women that look good. I've also noticed that in the real world, I get hit on quite a bit and I've always dated attractive women. Here in cyber world, I definitely am NOT the man lol. I think it has a lot to do with the fact that I'm not very photogenic and I don't look good in photos; they don't do me any justice at all. Furthermore, I think some of the other aspects that I mentioned before can't be seen. Such as I'm solid and 6'4" so my presence is noticed when I walk into a room. Also, I have this smile that goes well with a sly-type, playful mannerism that I think is appealing to women. I think there are a lot of men and women who have the same issues and if you aren't the most gorgeous, most photogenic person on earth, online dating can be a real self-esteem buster. Not to mention frustrating!
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Well, it could be like that. I have been told that I look nice, have a nice personality, but it doesnt help at all.
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Well, it could be like that. I have been told that I look nice, have a nice personality, but it doesnt help at all. Yep same here..... |
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Speak for yourself, I've made alot of friends here. Oh Good morning
 
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Well truthfully, if I read your profile I'd run... and not just run, but run fast. Any woman in their right mind can see that your profile sounds bitter (of course some people say that of mine, but I'm not posting threads about how I can't get a date online, either).
Your headline reads "whatever"... your profile text basically says that you don't care to impress or even put forth a good effort to attract someone... so why would anyone bother? Yes, your pictures partly suck. I think most of it is bad lighting and bad angles. You look, to me, a little on the geeky side, which is OKAY really, because a lot of women like that... but geeky guys need to be sweet... not bitter and *****y. I hope I haven't totally offended you... just trying to help you out with some real advice on the subject. Good luck and don't let them beat you down.
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Well truthfully, if I read your profile I'd run... and not just run, but run fast. Any woman in their right mind can see that your profile sounds bitter (of course some people say that of mine, but I'm not posting threads about how I can't get a date online, either). Your headline reads "whatever"... your profile text basically says that you don't care to impress or even put forth a good effort to attract someone... so why would anyone bother? Yes, your pictures partly suck. I think most of it is bad lighting and bad angles. You look, to me, a little on the geeky side, which is OKAY really, because a lot of women like that... but geeky guys need to be sweet... not bitter and *****y. I hope I haven't totally offended you... just trying to help you out with some real advice on the subject. Good luck and don't let them beat you down. |
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From reading your profile I can see why your having a hard time getting people interested in you on line. You need to lighten up.
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Well, it could be like that. I have been told that I look nice, have a nice personality, but it doesnt help at all.
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See this is my point exactly. I'm not AT ALL "geeky". The furthest thing from it. As for the other stuff, like I said I'm not trying to impress anyone. I meet enough girls out in the world :) Then why are you on a dating site? |
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ummm what are u complaining about?
its not all about looks and pretty photos, yes good looking people get more views..but do they get more e-mails? No they don't..people sometimes get intimidated by a good looking woman or man, and as a matter of fact believe that they are not real..possibly bots.. judging by your friendslist..u are doing just fine..and maby people just need to be more open not just to perv other peoples profiles, but actually to e-mail the ones they feel interested in. |
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look man, just my opinion and everything, but i think that it is funny that you tell everyone that you get hit on all of the time and date beautiful women, yet complain about the drawbacks to online dating. Of course there are drawbacks to online dating, otherwise nobody would be going out to meet people anymore haha. The photos are what gets the women to notice you, but it is the personality that will get them hooked. Good luck man.
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Good morning!!
I perved your profile and you must have made changes to it since the others commented because now it hardly says ANYTHING!! I know I'm not particularly photogenic, either. And, I'm short, fat and funny looking!! But I've been on a few dates from here! Come to think of it, none of them was just so photogenic or particularly GQ worthy, one didn't even HAVE a photo, so I don't know what to tell you about the observations you make. I do know that if all they want is good-looking or "hot", they've obviously passed me by and I am clueless about it!!  I wish the best for you! 
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It's a trick. Get an axe.
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See this is my point exactly. I'm not AT ALL "geeky". The furthest thing from it. As for the other stuff, like I said I'm not trying to impress anyone. I meet enough girls out in the world :) Then why are you on a dating site? |
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I wonder if their profile sucks to match. That would be an interesting survey.
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See this is my point exactly. I'm not AT ALL "geeky". The furthest thing from it. As for the other stuff, like I said I'm not trying to impress anyone. I meet enough girls out in the world :) Then why are you on a dating site? Just admit it. You're a freaking bot. We're on to you. |
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I have to add that pretty much being on a dating site is a flip of the coin. Either you connect or you dont. It has nothing to do with looks or personality that you dont get dates on here. It depends on only one thing. Ask, ask, ask Lots of people to go out in your area. And dont stop asking till you find what you are looking for. If you sit back and wait the world will pass you by.
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I guess this goes here? Anyway, I have a theory on cyber dating that unless you enjoy spending time and hanging out in the forums, only the best looking most photogenic individuals are successful. Here is why. First off, you can't see the persons body language, presence, personality, voice tonality, mannerisms,etc. All you see are pictures and I know for most of us-me included-I only view the profiles of the women that look good. I've also noticed that in the real world, I get hit on quite a bit and I've always dated attractive women. Here in cyber world, I definitely am NOT the man lol. I think it has a lot to do with the fact that I'm not very photogenic and I don't look good in photos; they don't do me any justice at all. Furthermore, I think some of the other aspects that I mentioned before can't be seen. Such as I'm solid and 6'4" so my presence is noticed when I walk into a room. Also, I have this smile that goes well with a sly-type, playful mannerism that I think is appealing to women. I think there are a lot of men and women who have the same issues and if you aren't the most gorgeous, most photogenic person on earth, online dating can be a real self-esteem buster. Not to mention frustrating! 
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Well, I don't know.... I think the on-line thing has become a process, almost like applying for a position. Then we add all the conditions/qualifications/expectations for finding the 'right one'. We are our own worse enemies sometimes. Out in RL you may not know what music someone likes, whether they dance or not, if they camp, fish, hike and blah, blah, blah all that stuff on the profiles, it just sorta happens.
I do think having a pic on your profile makes a difference and/or being in the forums. If someone has nothing but your profile essay to go on, more often than not you're going to get overlooked. Some folks say that's shallow, but isn't physical attraction the first thing that draws us to people in RL? Why it should be any different on-line is beyond me. |
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I guess this goes here? Anyway, I have a theory on cyber dating that unless you enjoy spending time and hanging out in the forums, only the best looking most photogenic individuals are successful. Here is why. First off, you can't see the persons body language, presence, personality, voice tonality, mannerisms,etc. All you see are pictures and I know for most of us-me included-I only view the profiles of the women that look good. I've also noticed that in the real world, I get hit on quite a bit and I've always dated attractive women. Here in cyber world, I definitely am NOT the man lol. I think it has a lot to do with the fact that I'm not very photogenic and I don't look good in photos; they don't do me any justice at all. Furthermore, I think some of the other aspects that I mentioned before can't be seen. Such as I'm solid and 6'4" so my presence is noticed when I walk into a room. Also, I have this smile that goes well with a sly-type, playful mannerism that I think is appealing to women. I think there are a lot of men and women who have the same issues and if you aren't the most gorgeous, most photogenic person on earth, online dating can be a real self-esteem buster. Not to mention frustrating! Second, I'm not exactly single and when I am? It is because I reject women more than I accept their advances...
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