I am 46 stay at home wife, I have two stepkids ages 14 & 17 and I have no kids of my own. I been married for five years, and the past four years our relationship has been meaningless, theres no hugs, kiss or intimacy at all. My husband is bi-polar and we spend less time with each other and here is my situation. Two years ago I had met a nice, wonderful guy which we became friends at first and time passed and we developed a close relationship even though we are not in the same country we keep communication strong by emails, phone calls and letters. He is aware of my situation and I been totally open to him about everything and he loves me dearly. We have built a strong relationship for two years now and I had found love far away and I feel that what I have with this person I had desired for a long time that my husband never sees me for who I am anymore. I had told myself that one day I will find someone to love and who would make me feel special and alive again. I am with a man who only gives attention to his children and to me, I know soon I will leave and divorce so that I can be with the one person I truly love.

well good luck to you.....

So divorce him.

It's nice you the other man know about your husband and is good with it. Did you also let your husband know and is he good with it?

A bi-polar individual is terrible to attempt a relationship with. Been there. I totaly empathize with you hun, sorry

I totaly did not read that part. Hmmmm. Cheating isnt cool either.

I don't know if she is cheating and I empathize with her situation too. It's not a good place to be in. I think the divorce she is now talking about is great. I don't want to be judgmental, the husband has more of a right to know than we do IMO.

friends and love are a mysterious thing.

do u love your husband? to help him raise the children and be his wife? to sit by his side when you are 80??

does he object to your making friends with another man? and im not talking about having sex with another man. does he allow you to have friends and are you deceiving him about this other realtionship??
cuz if so...that would drive me a lil crazy too...its called instinct

Shirley Valentine google it and see it

Is he from?

Greece
Egypt
Turkey
East Europe

Thanks for the reply and can u tell me about ur past relationship and what happened? U mentioned that u had been in one with someone who is BP. My husband been BP for 15 years or longer, I had been a victim of two of his episodes and the last he was in for treatment was four years ago. He has stayed on his medication, psychriatrist appointments which Im proud he has made it this far. Im not in love with him the past two years and it seems that the candle burned out long time ago. He doesn't care for me like he use to and why we are still together I question myself this alot but then I had came to love his kids like my own and I had kept myself here for their sake not my own and I know its not right.Its hard to just walk out on the kids even though they are old enough to understand. I also have a niece who lives with us and shes 19, which she has mental retardation. She is in treatment now after trying to committ suicide so right now leaving is not an option until she is better.

I represent that statement.

...And considering that my last ex and I are both bipolar, it's likely true.