As some of you may know, I had my cat Hobbes put to sleep over a month ago because he had an inoperable tumor in his face. I thought I knew it was time for him to go when I woke up one day and he wasn't interested in eating or drinking. But I'm looking at all of this **** about when it's time to let go, and they're basically telling me I did it too soon. That there were other things I could have done. I didn't want to do that. I wanted him to be happy. I took him for a long walk and then a drive (his favorite things to do) before we went to the vet.

I know this is a part of grieving, the "what if's" so thank you all for listening to me.

As much as you love your pet, I really don't think you would have done this had you not felt it was the right thing to do. Don't second guess yourself or you'll end up beating yourself up over something that is already done.

you did the "right" thing

I think u did the right thing..your cat was suffering..and soo the quality of his life was compromised..u miss him and so u think if there was anything that u could of done to keep him around longer, which would of just been more painful to him.

Putting a pet down is one of the hardest things ever!!!!!!!!!! You know it was right. He is not suffering now-even though you are. Your heart will mend and when the time is right you will look back and know you did the best thing for him. I will say a little prayer for you tonight. Hang in there.

Bless your heart! And don't beat yourself up about it, Hobbes is in a much better place.

Your initial thought is usually the correct one. You knew that you didnt want to put your cat through any more so you did what is hobbes best interest. There is always something that you dont want to do but you have to do it.

But he wasn't suffering (that I knew of). I didn't want him to get to that point.

I know, I know, I'm just beating myself up for something that had to happen. Thank you for listening to me.

And remember Hobbes!!! The best cat ever.

Thank you.

I truly think you did the right thing at the right time.

The 'what ifs...?' 'if onlys...?' 'why didn't I...?' will drive you insane. And yes,...that is a part of the grieving process.

and besides...who are 'they' that are telling you that you did this too soon?

did your vet? No, and he knew exactly what was going on with Hobbes.

You said it yourself...you didn't want to do 'the other things', you wanted him to be happy...and I believe he was...

yup I agree with the others...you made the right choice so your pet would'nt suffer....and "they" probally did not know or love your pet as well as you.

i feel your pain, i always think IF i had done more, would they have lived longer and the answer by the vets were NO. he was suffering, but i still think to do this day what IF, even though we did the right thing. you DID do the right think, dont beat yourself up, its cruel to watch a animal suffer and you stopped the suffering, so my heart goes out to you. it proves you have a to not let your animal suffer. im still so very sorry for your loss.

Thanks, Debbie.

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You did the right thing, Hobbes is looking down on you and wishing that you would not beat yourself up over this. I had to do the same thing with my beloved dog and even though it has been over a year I still miss her, but I know that she is not suffering. She will always be with me just as Hobbes will always be with you. Remember the good things and smile often about him.

don't they have a pet thread here ?.
I think they have .
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There is no "pet" thread here. Sorry for any inconvenience.

Thank you, McCatty. And I'm sorry to hear about your dog.

You are very welcome, and it still brings tears to my eyes when I think about how much I miss her. I go out and sit at her grave and talk to her all of the time, she always knew when something was wrong with me. I love and miss her so much, just as you always will Hobbes. God Bless you.

It is so hard to say goodbye to a beloved pet. If we didn't love them so much, it wouldn't hurt so deeply.
Hobbes is in your heart forever, and wouldn't want you to feel so sad. I lost my beloved dog Chaco 2 1/2 years ago and not a day goes by that I don't miss her, but I remember all the wonderful times we shared and I feel better.
Don't be too surprised if a little kitty shows up at your door. I think our animals tell the new babies where there's an opening, and send just the right ones to fill the void, because they only always wanted us to be happy, and they still do even after they leave us.
Fill that emptiness with a new cat or kitty who needs a good home, and before you know it, your heart will be healed and filled with love once again.