I consider myself a very honest person almost to a fault. I had met someone one this site-I won't say names-he ain't here anymore anyway. We talked non stop for two weeks and were even starting to flirt with the love words. He had told me he was widowed and then today his WIFE came on line to tell me they were just playing with me-they like to find fat people and bring them up to break them down. Yeah-I am over weight but my weight doesn't rule my life and it surely doesn't make me everything I am. I wear my heart on my sleeve and these people hurt me bad. Any advice on how to be a little harder and not trust so easily?

That's horrible!!! Try not to take it personally. Hang in there! You are beautiful and there are plenty of men out there who will appreciate you, you just haven't found the right one yet.

Thank you!

ok...something like this pisses me off....im sorry for the hurt that you may feel.....

But let me tell you one thing....from this you have learned what a great perso you are and what pieces of sh*t others can be....if you believe in you then thats all you need to believe in....your a beautiful person inside and out....dont let anyone take that from you....

as far as trust goes.....make people earn your trust girl....

Awwww....girl----my advice is to keep on trusting. What goes around comes around- those who do people wrong will get what they deserve.Trust me. You dont want to not trust someone who really is deserving of it. Just be more cautious. It is so sad that anyone would do that....ridiculous!

I am so sorry, that was beyond cruel.

Unfortunately there is no real sure fire way to protect yourself against that kind of ugliness and cruelty. Just keep in mind that you know that you deserve better than that......and that karma is a *****, and in the long run they will get EXACTLY what THEY deserve.

omg...i'm so sorry you had to go thru that!


Keep your chin up sweets...there are plenty of more men out there..and there is somoene out there for you.....keep your positive attitude and things will be fine!

I am learning that-unfortunately the hard way. LOL! Thanks for the encouragement.

tell ya what, im a big fella, and i wont date a little framed woman, i like em healthy, and happy with the way that they are. dont stress what a f*cktard that wants to tear you down thinks, find you a decent man and be happy with yourself that way. find the one that completes you both spiritual and mentally, the physical part will come later. and you look good to me, might not mean much since you dont know me, but i dont sugar coat.

very well said!

ok there are no words to describe just how mean and cruel that was..
i say.. be you... you seem like a great person.. be cautious... and do NOT let this azzhead and his "wife" change who you are..

Thanks to all of you for your kind words. This is exactly why I keep coming back to this site. I know there are good people on here. Thank you to all of you! I might go to bed with a smile now.

just when you think you've heard all the nasty people stories, along comes another one. you're much more by yourself then they will ever be together. sorry, and come hang in the forums, we'll cheer you up!

you are very welcome....

Keep smiling sweets...theres always a new day full of new and wonderful people to meet!

thats just messed up!! im sooo sorry that this happened to you..dont worry..karma will get their azzes!!

Do you think perhaps that he was caught by his wife and she just said those ugly things to you to make you feel bad? Either way it's pretty sick and sad that this happened to you. Keep your chin up

Sorry to hear that, It's just as hard & sometimes harder for big guys like myself

big teddy bear guys are sexy!!