So I got a call from my ex-fiance this morning. She said that she was sorry for f*cking up, and said that she wants to move back to Ohio and start up where we left off. I loved that woman with every shred of my heart and soul and, until recently, I was broken and feeling utterly useless. I have since started dating this wonderful woman, and I am excedingly happy with the way things are going. Now this crap happens, and I'm all of a sudden plunged into an abyss of doubt and dismay. None of my friends liked my ex, and they all seem to like my new girl. I have gotten back to where I wanted my life, but at the same time, I miss my ex like hell. Any suggestions?

Keep going and don't look back,








jmo anyway,

What's that song??? I Thank God for Unanswered Prayers???? Was it sung by Garth Brooks.......???
Sometimes things are in the past for a reason!!!

Is it your ex that you miss so much? Or could it be the place that you'd gotten to with her that you and your present g/f have not yet reached? Just saying...it can be hard to separate the memory of good situations from the person you shared them with.

It could be...I'm so confused right now though.

Perfect song choice for his situation and yes it is Garth Brooks.

Keep strong. Keep your head up. Yes, you miss her, but do you miss the pain? Will you be able to be with her and forget the pain she caused you? I had my heart broken very badly recently and he called me begging to come back. But the truth is I could never forget the pain. If someone loves you, they would never hurt you.

I think what I miss the most is the first 6 months that we were together. everything was perfect. At the two year mark, we were living together, engaged, and fighting almost every day. We've been apart for about 3 months. I feel bad about her not being able to get on with her life if I decide to be happy myself.

Exactly, and if she caused you that kind of pain once, she is surely capable of doing it again. And where would this leave the new woman? Why would you want to mess things up with her that are going so well, just to "find out" if things will work out with your ex? Which, you know deep down, they won't. They are an ex for a reason.

Thanks everyone. I'm still not quite sure what I'm going to do...I mean, I kind of do, but I am really not looking forward to any of this

What did she do to "F" up? The ex..... that is.

But more importantly, why did you start dating someone else if you were not over your ex? That seems unfair to this new lady, in my opinion.

probably to 'get over' the ex ... it's a natural human tendency, usually subconscious



((( LILITH )))

Agreed!!! You have to be over the past before you start something new with someone.. Ohterwise you obviously cant give the new girl "everything" y know..


JMHO...Good luck to ya!!!

That's part of the problem...I held off on dating until I could get over her...and I did, until she called me and told me that she wanted to move back to Ohio and get back together. As for lilith's question, She would always yell about everything she didn't like..everything was a fight with her towards the end. I wasn't trying to break up with her in the first place. I mentioned that she should go stay with her mother in Indiana for a little bit, so we could have some space between us for a minute. It was a last step before breaking up, and she ended up having her mom come to Ohio and grabbing all her things, and moving out to Indiana.

Fade, Hiya Dahling.....

Yes, I see that thinking, but it was still a choice to start dating. I guess I just don't think that way, nor do I agree with people doing that. I prefer to be right with me first and not "use" others to get over something I should do on my own. JMO

As I had said though, I was over her. I put off dating Laura until I was sure of that. and even then, we were in an open, more friends relationship until just recently.

Well, how it looks from here is that you aren't over her. If you were, this would be a non-issue.

Post, just remember the arguing. Someone who has a tendency to argue doesn't get past that easily. If there is no reason to make you believe she has conquered that behavior, it will not likely be different. You may not know that for 6 months of blissful "new relationship" behavior again though. Just something to keep in mind.

I am sure you are already thinking of this...but please be kind to Laura about this situation. She did not ask for this and it sounds like you do care for her a lot.

Yea, I know. I really do care about her...I'm not getting back with my ex, I've figured that much out. At the same time though, I was with the woman for 2 years, we were talking about having kids and getting married...it's just such a blast to my psyche.

Yea, to be totally honest though, I probably won't ever be TOTALLY over her. It's just something I'm going to have to deal with.