I've been chatting online with a guy from another site. We have a lot in common and I enjoy the IMs, but he doesn't seem to be too keen on asking me out. The one time he STARTED to ask me out, I mentioned that I didn't like that particular type of food but that I was game for anything else. He didn't follow up with any other options, and we've just been doing the occasional IM.

As an assertive, type A person, I need a guy who's also assertive. I also like a guy to ask me out first - you may disagree but that's just my preference.

Should I "fade away" or keep waiting? Because if this guy is the type that needs ME to take the initiative in general, I'm not willing to do it.

I like the guy to ask first too so I would start looking elsewhere. Though if he ever did get his act together I'd still go because you never know. I have asked out a few guys but I like to be asked.

why can't you ask him out?

I'm still waiting to be asked out

Ditto

ok pat u want to go out

I'm a psych grad student and while people disagree (and they're welcome to) it's proven that more positive outcomes result when the guy is allowed to pursue, including doing the initial "asking out."

have you ever got laid with out asking?

I know that it is the traditional thing to do by asking the guy out, BUT!... If you manage to pluck together the courage and ask him out, you might just unearth a gem you would otherwise kick youself should you later realise that you missed it. Some guys are worth it.

Yep, and plus, who wants to sleep with a guy who can't get up the guts to ask a girl out?

well there are different types of men. If you want one that with pursue you, obviously you're talking to the wrong one

I do prefer being asked. I have never asked a guy out before, but if I liked him and enough time had passed that I were starting to wonder...I would probably ask him.

No I wouldn't ... all talk here.