Ok I know I am opening myself up to take all kinds of knocks with this but I sincerely want to understand. So let me have it.

How do you all deal with the "meaningless flirting" that goes on? I have issues and a mental block about this one. If someone says they have interest in me yet I see them day after day flirting with other people I just can't get my mind to accept the fact they may truly be interested in me. The first thing that comes to my mind is if they are truly interested in me why would they feel it needful to flirt with all and sundry and how they can expect me to take seriously what they say to everyone in supposed fun...


While I understand flirting is fun and it makes people feel good. Where do you draw the line?

sounds like its an LDR issue...maybe this person has"interest" in you..but lives far away and knows that he or she would be better to find someone closer? just guessing...but if you don't like it...say so and see what their response is and you'll have your answers

To be honest, I think we all have that same question especially when it comes to online. YOu cant see that persons reactions or emotions about or to you. So its sort of a longshot one way or the other.

This is a good point. I've had many guys interested but logic and reality scream "no way" so it becomes a wish but never expected to come to fruition.

As to saying something ............

JUST DO IT DESTINY! And their answer and way of receiving what bothers you will BE your answer.

I am one of the biggest flirts you will ever meet. To all my buddies that have girlfriends understand this and actually have some fun with it. I talk about how she is coming home with me instead and she goes along with it, many other flirting scenarios along with that. There is no harm and it's all in good fun.

I think there is a jealous tendecy involved with that. If you take offense to the matter of someone flirting, I think you have to take a close look at yourself....

I have taken a close look at myself obviously or I wouldn't have asked this question. Is it jealousy? No...Why would I be jealous of someone that I don't have a serious relationship with? My problem is that I don't seem to be able to let a relationship start being serious when I see someone who flirts all the time...I know for a fact that I have very old fashioned moral standards and that may have a lot to do with it...the long distance thing may also be an issue. But I think basically it's a trust issue for me. How do I trust what they say to me is sincere when they say the same things to others and call it meaningless...what makes saying it to me special?

Good point!...guess the only way to know is ask!

well if they are saying the EXACT things to others right in front of you .. then ya. The answer is already there hon. They are flirting with YOU as well

that's just part of any relationship...real or on-line...in real time if the guy i'm with gets upset w/me being a big flirt...then i drop them...as far as online "relationships"...i don't consider them real

ditto

*grin* my point exactly Judy....but when I ask and I have believe me you know for a fact I am not shy about asking what I want to know...They are just friends is the typical answer ....So I guess my question includes how do you define a difference in "friends" talk and lovers talk?

Ummm!I waited 4 ur 2nd response 2 confirm.But yeah!I know exactly what your saying.I don't think there's any trust issues here.I feel the same exact way as U do.I think the line should be drawn when both have reached step #2(phone/text)Then there should be a much more toned down approach within the forums interaction.Ex-flirt emoticons/hugs/flirtatious remarks should cease.That is if the person is genuine about their s/o that their currently @ step #2 with(imo)Ditto!& G'luck!Godspeed!Cy

I was beginning to think I was the only one that feels this way~ Good luck with yours as well cy~

ok ask that again

You don't. And that's the b*tch of it. Cuz I know someone else on here who was told that as well. The guy ended up with the girl he said was 'just a friend' and she was left @ the curb! So no ... I just wouldn't open Pandora's box.

not me..I'd love to open Pandora's box

Seriously I also agree with Cy. Once the phone calls begin it's time to pull away from any and all others that you're messin with ..

Friendly fun flirting (like what Jim states) is absolutely you-know-can't-happen stuff. That's different. And it's among real life friends anyway.

But online everything is taken differently and if it's ALL the same even for YOU, then I wouldn't count it as anything to hold on to. Period.

Exactly as there has already been trust and affection established. Here it is different especially if you are on different time schedules and get very little time together as is. And if they are spending thier time away from me flirting then why would I want to be with them to begin with? There are so many levels of communication besides flirting to explore and I know for myself I can only "flirt" with one person at a time on a serious level. As I don't think you can get serious about anyone if you are busy flirting with everyone.

I think it's time you come back to the DEMI thread and let someone new find ya girl .. let's face it, you don't need to waste time ..

I am confused Judy...

Why would you stop talking with others just when phone calls start? Isnt that what dating is all about? Explore, meet, greet, with others until that one clicks?

I have talked to several women from here on the phone, even a few of possible interest...But the distance is a huge factor and chances of us actually getting together is slim to none, so if I were to commit to one that I havent even met yet, just causes me to miss a possible opportunity. Dating is just that, until you actually "meet" the one...

(Not argumentative at all, just inquisitive)