I'm a very caring guy, so when I write notes to people on this site that I want to know: I write a detailed, friendly, open, and proofread letter.

I get responses, but they are usually short unpunctuated, and don't actually say anything in response to what I had written.


I'd expect this from guys, but from females this is kind of shocking. In my opinion they must be trying to say: "Ya I'm interested, but not really..." OR "I'm very cautious so I'll let him put all the effort in and see what happens"

Either way giving a half ass reply is just plain stupid! If you don't care, don't respond, guys will take the hint when they don't hear back from you. Caution isn't going to get you anywhere either. If you feel scared about talking to people you don't know online, this site isn't gonna work for you.

Also, if you are going to write someone a note or reply to them, make sure to actually read their profile. I had a member send me four messages before she realized my age and changed her mind. Everyone's age is listed in their profile, check it out before you respond!


Sorry for sounding negative, but really, this behavior is impermissible IMO.

WOW

Considering online dating has been constantly hindered by the numerous horror stories of people winding up assaulted or worse...I could see the 'I'm cautious' response.

what???

I know how you feel. Sometimes ill ask a question and the person doesnt even answer me back

Sorry for sounding negative, but I think I have the right to be cautious!!

I'd reply... but wont... for fear it might be considered... HALF ASSED!!!

Well that should be a way for you tell if you are actually interested. I am not big on long flowery responses even if I receive a lengthy email. I prefer either a chat or a phone call.

See I'm ok with getting no reply whatsoever, at least its a clear cut way of saying "I'm not interested" its the lazy half a__ comments that get me.

@Fearandloathing: I get your point, but you can't do that and expect someone to do all the work. If you want to be really cautious, just don't respond at all.

Then maybe you shouldn't reply? Just a thought.

I was thinking the same thing...kind of like dating in real life, you are cautious of who you talk too...sorry if I sound negative, but it is kind of like common sense.

I like giving courtesy replies if a guy writes me...it's not that I would be rude to the guy and not give a detailed message. I love to write...but I have to really get a feel for the guy...not from just one message.

One can still be cautious and talk, nothing wrong with that. I talk to a girl on here pretty consistantly, but it took us both awhile to feel comfortable enough to exchange numbers. One must find out who they are dealing with before jumping in the position. Personally I usually go out on a limb and jump in hoping I either can swim or will learn quickly, but not everyone is the same way that and it is probably not the best way to go about things.

Why is it common sens e to write a half a__ response? Just don't write anything, that's the safest bet no?

No point complaining or getting sulky

I do the same proof read, check all punctuation , ensure the logic used is flawless and all that.

You then appear educated and well read. From the responses make your mind up about the person.

Don't look at a picture and assume a response and then get disappointed.

You don't have to give out information to give a polite response.

If your so upset with this situation, why don't you just stop sending out detailed emails?

Yeah.... I agree.......

I know you are full A$$-ed love it