backstory: I met a great girl less than a month ago, we've fallen hard for one another in a very short time... we've talked about our future together.

problem: she knew all along that my ex wife and i are seperated i've told her that we're divorcing. recently my girlfriend realized that my divorce isn't in the process yet. divorce is expensive which is the only reason i haven't filed yet. my girlfriends mood changed earlier this week... she says she wants to step back until my divorce is settled. i told her that my feelings for my ex wife are gone and i won't hurt her

give her space or not?

today i got up early to get the info on rolling the divorce process ball, there are no kids or property involved my ex wife and i got it very easy.

Got to respect her. Hope it all works out for you.

respect her as give her the space? why? it might just lead us to drift apart, is that what she would want? she says she's falling in love with me i don't think she'd want to sabotage things.

personally? I think you need some time between the 2 relationships.. but that's JMHO :shrug:

Get the divorce finalized

Respect her feelings till you get the matter settled. Odd circumstance.

my ex and i have been seperated since jan now, as far as that one is concerned it's done, legally it's not though.

divorce is going to take 6 months and a day regardless, anything can happen between now and then.

I can understand where she's comin from havin dated someone who was seperated but not yet divorced. U worry about whether they'll go back to the wife. U worry if ur just a "rebound".
Just be understandin. Give her alil space and talk to her about it. If it's meant it'll all work out in the end.

Well, considering my track record...Im not the proper one to give you advice. If it was me and I had paperwork showing it is in the works, then I would pursue. Thats what she asked for....

she says she feels odd being with a married guy, i've told her not to think of it that way.

She sees it as why invest my time and feelings into someone who could all too easily decide he's gonna give the marriage another try. File as soon as you can!

rebounds have come and gone between jan and her. she is no rebound. my feelings towards my ex wife have gone cold, seeing her with a new guy doesn't bother me in the slightest.

Yeah I was in the same predicament and I say take your time and give her space.......you arent even divorced why would you date and mislead someone........thats how i would feel as her.....thats what my ex boyfriend felt as well...........and make sure this relationship isnt a rebound.........you need to take time off for you and reflect on what you really want in a woman...........

I'm seriously trying to do this asap, I've procrastinated cause of the fee that i was dreading, i had no job to pay for it until now

you can do your own divorce for about $200......go to any Chapters book store.

my own divorce might lead to mistakes, i can't risk a mistake

bin there bro , just because yur papers rnt in order ,does not mean you still have chit with yur x she should understand this, if not she may be to demanding and that can mean trouble.!! jmo cheers mate

I'm giving her space but i don't want to give her too much to where she may think i've given up. all day today i gave her time to herself... i seperated with my ex wife in Jan and have been seeing girls here and there. this one girl puts them all to shame i'm not using her as a rebound, those have come and gone.

if its meant to be it will be