Hi all! I joined this site about a week or so ago and already feel very
comfortable here....my home away from home. I'm just looking to make new
friends, ppl to talk to, email with and of course jumping in on the
posts when moved to do so. I do more reading then posting or replying.
Give it time!!!!

Anyway, getting back to the orginal subject....I feel like I am in the
rut that never ends. I've been in it for so long now I don't have the
vaguest idea how to get out of it or what to do to change it. It all
started 5 years ago after my son passed away. Then I lost my job, moved
out of state (Ohio where I was living) to Philadelphia, Pa.......and
that was a nightmare from hell. Went back to Ohio and no jobs where to
found there. By the urging of some school friends I came back to
Illinois where I grew up. I've been here a little over a year and still
I feel like my life is for sh**. Yeah, the word depression has crossed
my mind several times.....but I still get up every day, go to work, come
home do my thing on the computer....and that is the extent of my life.
Sad but true! I have a handful of so called acquiantences and only one
good friend and that's it.

I know with time I will make some good friends here. Would just love to
hear from some of you.

hey girl would love to have new friends, my prob is in the real world i
dont trust anyone to be a friend cuz i have been crapped on by so many,
havent had a best friend since catchin her in the bed with my bf so i
have trust issues you could say. so i have just my dog, cat and horse
and all i do is go to work everyday and then get on the comp so im in
the same boat as you so if you want a friend jump on in the boat and ill
give ya an oar.

Give me an oar girl, we can both paddle...it might be upstream by God I
know we'll make it!

Hi Cat,
You are very brave to share so much of your truth so fast. I admire
that. Sounds like you've had a tough go of things, but at least you
keep on going. I think that's the only way out of that rut, to choose
to keep on going. So maybe your in a good place now. I've never seen a
chat environment with so many kind hearted, generous and concerned
folks. So feel free to chat anytime.

Thanks Redy.....I try my best to keep on, keepin on!

u ever find things you want to do and no one to do them with so u just
stay home and watch tv? on days its cold ( im in fla so there arent to
many thankfully) i just want to stay in bed all day and then on days its
warm i want to do things but dont have the nerve to go by myself

Been there and done that....hell there were times I couldn't even bring
myself to go into a fast food resturant, the drive through seemed like
the best alternative but I over came that "fear". If I really want to go
somewhere and do something I'll go even it is by myself.

im gettin better but i would never go to the movies or sit down in a
restaurant by myself if you can do that my hats off to ya. i mean i live
alone so i do have to do things by myself but if i want to go to a
concert or something im just out of luck.

What is stopping you from going to a movie or a resturant by yourself? I
had the biggest fear of that for the longest time and why I don't know.
My biggest fear was of myself, strange as that may sound. Basically I am
a shy person until I get to know people....but I am quickly getting over
that too. You'll get there too, it just takes time, more time for
others, but it will come.

Hello Cat
Thanks for the friend ad on and the e-mail. You ladies look lovely
tonight as always

Cat when I came to jsh, I was feeling just like you and had no life, is
not the jsh, is everything to me, but the people here
and those who are not here now, that I would never forget, helped me so
much, to understand so many things,
now I feel differently, and appreciate all of my friends here for giving
me support and there time when I need it,, sometimes on here you post a
question of issue that is really bothering you and you will get so many
advices to choose from,, you are in the right place girl,, and so you
know you have a new friend !!!
just holla at me, and I'll be there for you if you need a friend

I have to agree with kntrygal about the concert thing zz top is coming
here and I just can't go by myself

Hey Robear, dude, would you believe that on thursday night I was on I-70
in PA, and was talking to Billy Gibson of ZZ Top on my CB Radio, he was
so cool, I couldn't believe it until he passed me in their tour
bus,,,And he was using the buses CB,,
A first for me...lol They had a consert in pittsburg on friday
night...

Iam Wow that is cool that is way to cool, there goingto be in Oklahoma
on the 17th I'd love to go tickets are 65 and 45 anyone want to go I pay
for the ticket I just wont go by myself

CATBW56,

Welcome to JSH,
You have my condolences for your loss. However, I am quite sure that
your son would not want you down here feeling depressed
He would want you to be happy and enjoying
your life.

You say you don't know how....Well let me tell you:
Go to church, join a ministry-church will definately keep you
busy-believe me, mines does...
But I don't mind.
Try going to the movies with someone or alone.
Go out to dinner with some friends.
Entertain....invite some friend over----don't forget me....
and if that is not enough come on down to JSH!!!

Thanks Queenbee and to all the others...for you helpful insight and
understanding. This is the one place I have found where there are true
genuine and real people that are willing to share and help one another
out.

Hello Cat, and Morena and the Queen here are good people to get to know
here and they won't ever hurt ya,,

And girlfriend you are 90 miles from my home town of Danville, IL. Your
city there is pretty cool, and ya got alot of college kids running
around, but its a good city..lol
Just keep on feeling at home here, because WE all try to HELP each other
on here and you will like us,,,wink,wink,
Just don't think about yeaterday and "run" into tomorrow.
Have fun here and YOU WILL MAKE FRIENDS!!!!

You are welcome Cat

I'm here for you gurlfriend....

They don't call me the Queen Bee for nothin'

sounds like alot of people i know!... good luck!.. hope things go better
4 u.

yep---lotta good people here---to look up to--base on ya selective
thing--