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Topic: what form of discipline ..
germansangel's photo
Mon 06/30/08 11:19 AM



You are right their Fran..I have seen that too .Or they use a T.v as a babysitter such a shame , kids need a lot of stimulation to develop and a playpen or tv won't do it!

tell me about it my sister in law uses the tv in thier bedroom and then wonders why they tear the wallpaper down and stuff like that...
me i love to be a "mean mommy" and not tuen the tv on all day LOLOL and threaten to throw away video games if they get in the way of real life and what is going on around them
rant

I don't think that is being a mean mommy.at all that is being a resposible parent.

yeah i know that is just what i get called by the child involved in losing things...i tell them "oh good your mad i must be doing my job "

germansangel's photo
Mon 06/30/08 11:21 AM
i am very lucky that now i can be a stay-at-home mom .. when i need a baby sitter i can just call grammy up or sometimes my ex husband will take my daughter to my new husband...and there i am lucky that we all get along

BettyB's photo
Mon 06/30/08 11:30 AM

i am very lucky that now i can be a stay-at-home mom .. when i need a baby sitter i can just call grammy up or sometimes my ex husband will take my daughter to my new husband...and there i am lucky that we all get along


I like you new picture!
What do you look for in an outside sitter?

germansangel's photo
Mon 06/30/08 11:35 AM
thank you had to find one..LOl
i have sitters that are first oft responsible..one has taken infant cpr classes.
i watch how they interact with kids..if they have a good head on thier shoulders if something happens(say they start crying)
then of course itn the case of my ex-husband that is kinda cheating causei know he is good with kids

No1sLove's photo
Mon 06/30/08 11:39 AM


Very true about the babysitters friends. Even if they are not exaggerating how good they are to see them get business...they may be blind to things they are doing because their friendship clouds their perception a bit.

My sister had to take her child from an otherwise good sitter once because she found out she watched Springer during nap time. One summer, my nice, at 7, was getting a mouth that we had no idea where the influence was coming from. Ugh! Springer? 7 year olds fake it thought nap time...what did she expect! frown

It is so important to watch for signs of changes in your childs behaviour. I also think it is a good idea to come to the home or daycare unexpectidly just so you can check up. When I babysit in my home I told the parents they could come at any time they wanted just to see what was going on.
That is a wonderful way to take the guessing and anxiety out of a parent. I have a g/f who does home daycare for 6 and has the same policy as well. Some actually have come and participated in songs and crafts that she has the children doing as well. She even has them do plays and skits for the parents at the end of here summer session. She has found it to be good for the kids, the parents and adds an extra constructive activity to the longer days and higher head count she has in the summer months. The parents love it!

germansangel's photo
Mon 06/30/08 11:40 AM
of course things get harder when my husband deploys because i get reluctant to let them out of my sight..and the afore mentioned sister-in-law isnt an option for me

cutelildevilsmom's photo
Mon 06/30/08 12:25 PM
my caregiver has a free hand but doesnt spank.

cutelildevilsmom's photo
Mon 06/30/08 12:28 PM


i know the day care i used with my son ...thier policy was first they would try time outs and reasoning and time outs then they would just call the parednts and tell them they had to come in...if the problem continued they would ask you to find another day care


It requires an abudance of patience to work in a daycare. which do you prefer private home or day care faucility?

a private home has always been best for me as my son does not to well in a overly structured setting .

BettyB's photo
Mon 06/30/08 01:22 PM
Have you ever had any problems with babysitters ?

BettyB's photo
Mon 06/30/08 01:33 PM
Hey love, your g/f sounds like a dream sitter . Every parent should be lucky to find one like her.
Another thing to watch out for in a home daycare , is you want the place to be clean but not sterile , if the place is overly neat you have to worry how there can be a bunch of kids and everything in place all the time. Are the kids really being watched and entertained or is she spending her time cleaning
This is a clue I wish I would have noticed with the babysitter my daughter had . Her place was immaculate at all times and my baby spent her time in a playpen!
If anyone else has some things they know to watch out for it might help some other parents.

buttons's photo
Tue 07/01/08 07:13 AM
time outs and take away priveliges

buttons's photo
Tue 07/01/08 07:17 AM
make them do homework?laugh laugh laugh

buttons's photo
Tue 07/01/08 07:26 AM
never thought of this one.... of course now that i would not be using it... if you are outside and can watch them... how about giving them a "misbehaving" pail.. and have them do some weeding in the garden... when they are done "misbehaving" meaning filling up that pail or bucket... they can play again with others or whatever they do lol

buttons's photo
Tue 07/01/08 07:32 AM
Edited by buttons on Tue 07/01/08 07:32 AM
never never beleived in the soap in the mouth thing..... its poisioness... how bout this though...... if you have some dishes to do... or something else to clean out... for instance... a dirty frypan and a couple of mixing bowls... and if they swear tell them to pretend these things are their mouths and it needs a good washing out and you are gonna let themselves clean out their own dirty mouth....and you dont wanna hear from them again till they are done cleaning out their mouthlaugh

BettyB's photo
Tue 07/01/08 08:47 AM

never never beleived in the soap in the mouth thing..... its poisioness... how bout this though...... if you have some dishes to do... or something else to clean out... for instance... a dirty frypan and a couple of mixing bowls... and if they swear tell them to pretend these things are their mouths and it needs a good washing out and you are gonna let themselves clean out their own dirty mouth....and you dont wanna hear from them again till they are done cleaning out their mouthlaugh

That is a really good onelaugh :laugh
How old are your kids now?

BettyB's photo
Tue 07/01/08 08:50 AM

my caregiver has a free hand but doesnt spank.

What do you mean by a free hand ?What does she normally do to discipline?
flowerforyou

buttons's photo
Tue 07/01/08 10:03 AM
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