It's still cheating unless they knew about it and where ok with it in advance. I would be more worried about that then her keeping a friend or not.

Fvck Yes! If I had hard proof, I would make my feelings and needs known.

Especially if we were in a committed, monogamous relationship. There would be a serious question of whether we'd be remaining together, as well.

What they did with my expression of my feelings and my stated needs would be another matter.

This actually happened to me 1 1/2 months after I met someone; in the week after I had spent a torrid weekend making love to them. The best sex of their lives. My partner and I had just decided to date exclusively for the long haul. They did not take them off their friends list. However, that partner knew if I ever found them screwing around like that again with ANYONE, they were out the fvcking door. And, trust me, THEIR LOSS, ENTIRELY.

As an aside, I had a 3+ year emotional love affair (yes cyber included) with someone (so to me, cyber/phone is NOT innocent entertainment and play). No, I wasn't dating anyone else real life at the time. I would be highly angered and unhappy if I knew that my partner was having cyber or phone or real sex with anyone.

"Hell Hath No Fury Like a Woman Scorned...."

This part, I agree with.

However, I still wouldn't be okay with a partner "playing" on the side. I see it as cheating because I wouldn't be okay with it.

I have known people that have met up as a result. And, emotional cheating can be worse than physical.

Plus, why waste their sexual energy on others, leaving their partner (whom they supposedly love) unfulfilled, unsatisfied, and out in the cold.

lets forget all this mumbo jumbo, your sexy.

Are you talking to boneyjoe, or me?


I'm taken by Mikecom21hotmaiL - and it is most definately NOT cyber. Sorry.

i WAS talking to you angelndarkness but if your not up for it..

Thanks for the compliment.


Back on topic!

ha ha so serious. ok back on topic...sorry whats the topic?

I should have not ignored my instincts and the early signs, you know. Leopards don't change their spots, despite protestation to the contrary.

Will I ever learn? Most likely not. Perhaps it is best at this time to close the door on intimate relationships and love.

The pain and hurt each time is just not worth it and it destroys a person's soul and inner essence as the years pass.

Yes love can hurt so much but it also can give so much good, we should try to remember the good to and not only the bad.