Thanks that was sweet .. I am not really looking .. hell I don't even realize half the time that someone is hitting on me .. I guess the bottom line Is I am clueless.. I have dated a few men that were great men but they can't handle hitting the brick wall around my heart .. and I can't say that I blame them they deserve someone that can and will love them back with everything they have in them .. I am so lucky to have such great folks in my life and to have what I have so I feel a bit guilty thinking that I might want more ( but only with the right one) I do date , I do go out , but it seems like my relationships get to a certain point and I bail ( commitment phobic) I loved him and he was the only man that accepted me for who and what I was and didn't want me to change .. that is hard to live up to , add the fact that it ended before it could really live up to what could have been .. He drowned in a bridge jumping accident ,.. so I guess in reality I should look at the fact that we may or may not have made it .. We had been dating for 5 years and he had asked me several times to marry him and I was not ready.. so maybe some of these issues were there .. I like I said may just need to get a clue

You know, some people can move on quicker than others, and there are varying reasons for it. Some people start going out after they grieve and they start just having sex. They choose to not want love, only to have the sexual aspect of being with someone else and nothing more. Strange as it sounds, they will make themselves believe that this keeps them from getting hurt, all the while satisfying a "need" they want fulfilled. But, it really isn't fulfilling and can be dangerous too. Some people decide that they will never love again, and they figure that since they lost there love that perhaps they are meant ot be alone for the rest of there life. I know someone like this and she is very content with this (so she says). But, she will give the suttle hints that tell you that she really wants someone in her life. Some people just begin to work alot, make alot of friends, and that is how they choose to live. Nothing wrong with it, but they also have that part of them that is "missing" something (which is a relationship).

Here is the thing though shoes4rhon. I am a firm believer that when you stop looking and just start living life.....that is when love comes around. You might not recognize it at first, and you might even pass it by. But it will come. Just my belief though.

Loved and lost - and the pain of losing that person became a part of you so that if you truly let go of that pain you may or may not know who you are? You hide behind to avoid getting close to people and dating you is like running 90 miles an hour into a brick wall ?? Time has not changed it though it made it more tolerable .. How does one finally let go ??

If you truley love someone you can let them go be happy.

absolutely the person I lost died chuck so it is a bit harder .. that is why I break up with guys I date cause I feel they deserve much better and more than I am ..

Oh I see, my deepest sympathy