I have posted on here before about a budding relationship.

I am educated and with a profession, and I met a cowboy. He spits, passes gas, burps, vomits, drinks, has no car and lives with a friend.. he is also very sexy and strong and a national bullriding champion.

He has broken his skull, neck, back, nose (3X), arms, hips, both legs, wrists, jaw and feet. Yet his body is the best I have ever seen.

He can not carry on an intellectual conversation with me. All he ever expresses is how much he loves me.

I have found out he has lied to me a dozen times about important things, things that matter ie children and incarceration.

He weeps in my arms telling me I am his salvation and the best thing that has ever happened to him.

He gives me orgasms, but not via intercourse, because he does not stay hard.

He drinks.

He made me love him, and I thought I could save him. 30 minutes ago, I took him to meet a woman who was gonna let us maybe rent out her house. We met over dinner. He dropped food down his shirt, he told vulgar jokes and then cackled at his non funny punchlines.

Inspite of all that I think I love him. He has nothing to offer me. I provide everything.

After the dinner I broke up with him. I told him I was embarrassed and horrified and I let him know how imperfect he is.

I feel like a gosh dam witch.

Hmmm what took you so long? Sound like he seriously needs to grow up.. you can and will do sooooo much better!!

Darling you can do so much better than that guy believe me.
He will never change and you can't change him. Do your self a favor and run as fast as you can the other way!!!

Don't feel bad. Something told you that you deserve much better than that. Listen to your instincts.....9 times out of 10 they are right.

Wow, you're a heck of alot more patient than I would have been.....lies are a bad idea.

You're not a witch, just a woman who knows what she wants or maybe what she doesn't want.

what do I do??

He is calling me as I type and i have answered.

He is begging me to talk to him and asking me if I miss himwhat the hell do I do

You did the right thing. You will not regret it in the future.

Everyone's said it and it's true - you can do sooooooooo much better!

I'd answer, just once, and be very clear on why you made the decision you made. Then that's it.

and another case of cowboys thinking 8 seconds is a good ride

Ok . . seriously . . he thought he was in love with you because you put up with his ****. . You will come out better for it even though it is hard to see now . . No Joke . . keep your head up . . at least your not a guy :P

Sounds like the perfect match for an educated person. Kind of a Yin and Yang thing. Ya dig? Try giving him more oral sex too!

Turn your phone off.... otherwise you may become weak to his begging and pleading...

Let it go or you will regret it in the end.

In life there are some things you can live with-a great person who is not your intellectual equal is one of them.

On the other hand someone that lies you-run! Trust in an incredibly important part of any relationship!

Don't try to second guess yourself or think about giving him another chance, you need to focus on the important parts and be firm!

Not a good answer!!!!!

I'm sorry you had to go through that. To answer your question, i think love is enough. I can't speak for anyone else. For me, it's nice to feel like someone feels that strongly for me. It makes it feel like love. However, whenever i've been with someone i felt one of us had to change the majority of who we where, it always ended up badly. You can say it wasn't love, or say that it was bad chemestry in the end, it's the same thing though.

Ok. I am a smart person. I am no spring chicken. I have been in relationships over the years and men have told me they love me. I have had a problem accepting those endearments to be true, hence i have never married.
but with this crude sexy dumb cowboy, for the first time I felt that someone loved me.
He says that if I ever leave he will kill himself. I told him that if he loved me, if he really did, he would not say such things. I told him that he is acting and communicating to me as a child would.

He can not cope with intellectual emotions. And right now I STILL WANT TO FIX HIM.

I hung up the phone and said very little. He kept asking if I missed him (he would call all the time after i left him 20 minutes prior, declaring how sad he is and how he can not function because he misses me)

I tried to explain to him about obssession and love. How obssession is fixated thought and overwhelming tendencies and wanting to dominate while love is trust and faith giving space, he could not understand.

I am certain when the bull stomped on his head, he suffered brain damage and his comprehension skills and coping mechanisms are null.

If I, an understanding and compassionate woman can not be with him...he will go through life alone and so badly misunderstood. He has the most heart I have ever seen...