You'd be amazed at how many men I know that prefer BBW.

But, I don't mean to hijack this thread. Back on topic.

Well, I'm not married but I have a gf and she's on this site, too. We didn't meet here, but she did use the site as a way of contacting me last November after we had been out of touch for a long time.

There are a lot of people I really like on this site, a lot of people I consider friends, and I really don't see why it should be a problem for me to be here and talk to my friends....!

It's true that some people (married or not) could use this site as a way to create some extra-relationashipulist trysts, and that could be bad if someone gets hurt, if there's deception, that sort of thing. I understand that, and I don't condone it.

But for me, there's really no danger of that. I've been here a year and a half, and have run into some of the greatest and finest people I have ever had the pleasure to get to know, but I have yet to find anyone who I would consider even remotely (in the sense of trillions of light years) datable. Not gonna happen.

So I'm comfortable sticking around for my friends.

Besides, some of them liked my book!

well, the thing is, if you can't be trusted to be on here, you can't be trusted to be left alone anywhere.

Being on JSH is not going to make someone cheat if they weren't already so inclined.

Granny, I didn’t know that! I think that’s wonderful! Where else can you go to find such a diverse group to interact with in such a variety of conversation topics and games? You could join a club and trudge along with their agenda with all the cookie cutout people that seem to flock to them...but this is so much better in my book. I am glad you are here for sure!

I agree ... men never pay attention to the 'friendship' thing .. sigh

For me it would probably be a time issue more than anything. If I was in a "serious" relationship I would probably lack the time to maintain on line relationships on a dating site. It's hard enough at times to keep up with real life friends. And then there's work and kids and hobbies and chores and......

((((((((((( HIKER ))))))))))))))))

Something we TOTALLY agree on. If I ever get married again, he better well know that I need my space, my interests and my life.

I want to share stuff with 'him' ie, have 'our stuff' too, but not to the point that I don't have 'me' to enjoy as well.

He needs to have his interests that are aside from mine. Period. Just because he may like, let's say, camping .. and I don't (prefer a 5* resort thanks very much ) I would be very happy to help him pack up his tent for the trip with the guys.

if they r only chatting it should be cool.

i have a comenlaw woman and we r always on this site both of us just chatting thats all.

Personally, I doubt that I would be online much at all if I had a husband at home with me. If I were traveling without him would be a different story though. While I would want him to trust me without doubt...being subject to meeting so many men who are looking for love every night, I can see that making him uncomfortable.

Sure you can meet someone anywhere and catch someones eye, but the grocery store is not a concentration of single men looking to get lucky or find a soul mate either.

Words and smileys meant to be supportive in the forums to a friend can, as I've learned recently, be easily misconstrued as interest to them and others as well. So, while I would want his undying trust, I also would not want to cause him any discomfort with that. I believe I would share my password, but have a feeling he would refuse it. I would probably just be very careful in my wording and smiley uses and make it soooo well known that I was taken or married that it could not possibly be misunderstood by all.

If he did accept my password, it would have to be known by my friends and emails that held any confidences would be deleted as that was not the understanding when they were sent and future emails would be known to be shared information.

I had someone con me for quite a while "just chatting". Hmmpff.

I call bull****. Especially if there is a cam involved in the chatting.

But, if you are both cool with it....it's not my place to dictate your relationship.

isn't THAT the truth ..

Agreed, wholeheartedly, but why help it along?

I do not believe your friends need you to blow kisses at them or whatever else cams are good for. A cam would be a no no in my mind for a committed relationship. But if I'm traveling, I would want him to have one for me.

In an already established, committed relationship, a cam is a must if one partner must travel for work often. Agreed!

How else can I possible sleep without my nightly bed time story....oh yeah, and striptease!

I don't see how talking to friends helps you to cheat. Are you to never talk to anyone other than your spouse?

I would not use a cam to talk to someone.It's just not necessary.

LOL....no, didn't mean it like that. What I said would have to be taken in context to the rest of my life, and my past. It was more a private joke to myself than anything else.

I learned that lesson long ago; broken heart and all. Haven't owned a cam in years now and wouldn't use one in a ldr unless a firm real time foundation had been established first.