Why is it so hard to find someone to just settle down with and be happy?
I know lost of people may say well Autumn you are still young, but I
have been through so much crap when it comes to guys. Like my ex i
actually meet him off of a dating site. Things were going awesome we
started dating he only lived 2 hours away from me. I would go see him
every week-end I ended up getting pregnant (not planned) Then he moved
to Ear falls here with me. then it all started coming out he finally
told me he had 4 kids already mine to be the 5th and one girl he was
with had an abortion so that would have been 6 kids!! He didnt want to
work I work as a production Tech at a saw mill. And during my Pregnacy i
was having alot of complactions and he didnt want to work he wanted to
stay home. then I finally had enough and kicked his ass to th curb. He
signed over his rights to my baby. Now I have a beautiful 2 month old
baby girl. But now guys tell me that they wouldnt want to date me b/c I
have a baby. Dont get me wrong I would never Ever change me having my
daughter for anything in the world but jsut b/c I have a baby doesnt
mean I cant contiune to have a life. So I am susposed to be alone
forever b/c I have a baby??? Or maybe it is just b/c I am not a number
10 in hotness ha ha very far from bein hot myself sadly
..... Just looking for advice in how to not feel so lonely

find someone who is in the same situation as you. it will be easier than
having someone who doesn't know you and never met you want to try and
get things going with you knowing you do have a baby. a baby is a great
thing but you have to understand it's not easy to start a relationship
with anyone let alone someone whose life is partially conditioned by
another person - the baby. not to mention having to accept a baby one
did not father - and that's a long anthropological discussion.
focus on yourself and your baby for now. if you're not at peace with
yourself and your life, you won't be showing that positive appealing
attitude that guys like to see in a woman. spend time with friends,
things will happen naturally.

Thanks for your advice Piffs

If those men can't enjoy the sweetness of a 2 month old, do you really
want THEM around? Sounds like those men are still children themselves.
Be patient. Enjoy the bond and the unconditional love of your child.
You'll find a decent guy yet. 21 is a young age. you've only lived a 1/4
of your life. Your a wonderful person all on your own.

Very true incognito29 you make a very good point thank you

29 is right autumn. patience. Your daughter is part of you. If a guy
can't accept that, then He doesn't deserve you. Believe it or not, there
are lots of single dads out there. There are also good guys without
kids. This is 2007, Your situation is a common one. Hang in there kid.
Love that baby.

Hey Im 40 and still single, so dont feel bad..lol..sometimes i wonder if
i'll ever meet someone..i think its all in my head
sometimes..lol

Here is something to think about.... If your Looking for love you will
never find it. Let things happen naturally.. *S*

Autumn, I've been there too.I have a daughter I've been raising on my
own for darned near 12 years now.In that span I've been re-married,
Divorced, and engaged. I am now alone again,but I don't give up.One day
I know I'll find her,you'll find him too.

thanks Dane tough being a single parent sometime eh... well in my case I
am better off but it sucks knowing that the other person is able and
they just dont care or just dont want anything to do with thier
child/childern

My Daughter's real mother hasn't seen her since she was 10 months old.I
know where you're coming from.Tough? It's downright hellish sometimes.