DO YOU THINK THAT WITH INTERNET DATING YOU ACTUALLY LEARN MORE ABOUT THE
REAL PERSON THAN IF YOU JUST CAUSAL MEET THEM?


I will admit that talking to others online I have actually learned
more about that person than I had in the past from meeting some one face
to face in the beginning or maybe that was just due to I was younger and
did not really want to know as much as I do now. But online you have
time to talk and laugh and learn about each other plenty of time to talk
about the past the future your dreams. You do feel a bit safer and tend
to let the walls down a bit that you have built up. Which is good for I
have found out that once you meet them it is more like friends right off
the bat you feel comfortable around them for all the times you have
taken to really hear what they say and the person they are. And it seems
the relantionship has more of a solid base to stand on if the connection
and the chemistry is there after you do meet them.

What do ya think do you feel the same or see no differnt?

I am such a people person that I've never really looked at the
differences of meeting someone online or in person. But I agree with
what you wrote. Meeting online gives you a lot more time to get to know
someone.

I believe I have learned more about a person from the online
relationship,, I have let my guard down and it has helped me to be more
open, something I would not have done in a face to face meeting,,,, With
the Internet dating I think more time is put into it as far as really
trying to get to know the person,,, likes, dislikes, wants, needs,
desires, dreams etc.... Where in a face to face I feel its more of the
look me up and down and then we will see where this can go,,,,, I will
say when I finally met Terry for the first time I was not nervous and it
felt as if I was going to see a really good friend... Well you my dear
you know how this story ends.......

i think its because somtimes people are more open about things over the
internet because they dont have to explain things face to face to a
person. But in meeting them I do agree on that pt. If the chemistry isnt
there then u dont have a leg to stand on.

You definitely can learn more about a person by meeting them than you
can by talking to them on the Internet. You can't observe a person's
mannerisms over the Internet and not much, really, via webcam.

I've found that people who lie/misrepresent themselves on the Internet
are the same people who are going to do that in "real life." A liar is a
liar is a liar. So, you just have to tread cautiously and keep your
guard up and watch out for those red flags.

That is true fivespeed and sometimes even if the chemistry is not there
then you could also end up with a very good friend instead. Only you
know if you want to keep it as friends or not.

Yes Denise we know were your story is going and it is a great story too
and still many chapters in that book to write but sure it will be and
endless amount of love that write those pages too.

Mac I agree with you too there are not many people in every day life
that I will not talk to I love to talk and laugh and cut up that is just
me laughter is something I crave for there is no time in life that
laughter is not needed. But even those people we meet every day how much
do we really know them or have taken the time to get to know them.

True Jean, but if you can find that out online that they lie and cheat
then why meet them in person seems it will at least knock a few out from
wasting your time for if they do it online I sure don't want them in my
personal life. I know that once you meet them face to face that will
take it a step farther in the relantionship but I'm talking before hand
it's all in taking a step at a time and learning about that person and
then take the next step till you actually meet them then that is when
all of it will come together or fall apart. There are no guantees in
life just one step at a time and don't rush into it but don't take a
life time and keep someone hanging for your own personal satisfation
either.

Txs -- In my experience, you CAN learn more about a person on-line, IF
you're willing to put the time and effort into it. Jean raises a good
point, though, because you don't get the gestures, facial expressions,
etc., which are really useful when trying to get to know someone (read
the psych magazines, they will always tell you that a certain percentage
of communication is nonverbal, and I've seen that percentage range from
50-80, depending on the source) -- so maybe you have to compensate for
that by spending more time talking to the person on-line.

LA mentioned that it's easier for some people to let their guard down on
line, and that can be a big help, if both people are being honest and
open with each other; so there are good points and bad points both ways.

Bottom line, for me, is if you're in a real hurry to get to know
someone, it's almost always going to be faster if you meet them in
person quickly. If you're not in a rush, talk to them on line for
however long it takes to feel comfortable. But there's really no
universal answer.

I agree with five speed.

"True Jean, but if you can find that out online that they lie and cheat
then why meet them in person..."

I never said you should.

To me just the distance slows things down. Lots of people say
go slow, for a lasting relationship. I enjoy the time allowed for
watching people's actions & words, tells me alot. So I firmly thing the
time is well spent.

Yeah Oldsage sometimes that can be a good thing with the distance then
other times it can really be a heartache one thing for sure if you look
outside of your area you have to be willing to maybe make that move also
if you really want to have a relantionship with someone that lives a
distance away Internet Dating has it's ups and downs just like anything
else just have to make sure your willing to go the whole way unless you
search in your area only.

i think you learn more online actually than in person the presure isnt
there to go meet them right away... i mean if they are gonna lie they
would lie in person too. and like u said tx it is more comfortable when
u go meet them cause u already know u have an interest in them

a agree with you cause meeting them here you do say some things that
otherwise you probably wouldnt. and if you choose to shy away you can do
so with out the person being right in your face with a million
questions. sometimes you tend to let your hair down quicker. thats just
my view. i know i have met people and we talked for months on end and
then when we finally met it was like hey now we can hang and be
comfortable without the awkwardness.

I feel the same I have learn more this way then face to face because
it's seems out there if you were to say people tend to hide a fear of
letting someone in or even getting to really know them It's the look in
the eyes that scares most i think you can see how someone is buy looing
into there eys and most if not real with themselves will tend to turn
away

I find it hard to approach a person in real life. I get really shy. I
find that I am more open and out going on the net. But know matter how
much I talk to a person online the moment I meet them I will freeze up.

THIS INTERNET HERE, Allows you to ask "ANYTHING", nothing barred
and in real person to person talks, NEITHER could or would ask the same
questions and be able to get so personal, on a first date..
So after many conversations HERE, each REALLY FEEL that THEY KNOW each
other well, before even meeting THEM!!!!

Txs, girly,, I believe that a person is who it is online or offline, and
your right, if your online and find out that that person is a lier why
meet them in the first place,

your so right about that one Txs...

I think if you take the time you surely can learn alot about a person
online