When I get like that I usually just have to take a step back and get away from everybody. I try to disappear and regroup. I tend to get frustrated when I'm put in a postion where everyone is looking for me to help them. Happened recently to me actually, bought a plane ticket and went to see my parents...just left my world behind. Didn't even make a phone call to anybody back home.
When I'm helping everyone else a lot of time I let my own stuff go and then I become useless to everyone and my own life becomes unorganized. When I disappear like that I get the chance to work on me and not everyone else. I also get input from my parents who are the ones who love me the most and usually have the best advise for me.

now see,, thats something that actually makes sense. its good to get away from everything for a while and figure out as much as possible before trying to go at it again.

those conversations are gone, i think the people are gone. did they flee, give up, or match up & run off together. i miss those people & the conversations.

i know, the ones that helped keep me sane through some bad times never are around anymore. i know one of my best friends on here got married and hasent been back on here since. and im not one to call and bother anyone unless its something really big.

I do that too, and think it's important. My brother says I'm the only girl he knows who says she needs "time alone in the cave." That's especially important if you are used to a little me time! I'm pretty social, and have a fairly public type job, so taking the time to re-charge (and not feel guilty about it!) is important. I also seek out those who WANT to having meaningful conversation....that energizes and stimulates me!

when i need just me time, i get into my music, get lost in my own thoughts and the rest of the world disappears. that helps recharge me in ways that most things cant. the workouts i get help clear my head too, except on the field, then i get a lil tunnel vision. there im so focused on doing what i am supposed to that i notice nothing off the field. til i hit the sidelines, and can hear my little girl screaming get em daddy,, that helps me alot,, and makes me a proud papa

thanks for bringing this up thumper. I too get tired of a lot of the same old sensless threads. there great to have a laugh with and I love reading and participating in them but it's nice to have some real thought provoking conversation from time to time.

that was my whole point from the beginning, i can be a class clown with the best of them, but sometimes i need real conversation to keep halfway normal, whatever that is these days

hey, thumper how's thing's going tonight ?

I have a job where I am always helping others which makes me feel good at least I'm doing something useful and it makes me feel good about what I'm doing with my life. I also do a lot of volunteer work. At times it gets to be a little overwelming and I have a hard time giving of myself especially when I see my own life crumbling around me. That's when I know it's time to get away and work on myself.

hey chevy,, trying to get my mind stimulated the good way.



livelife, i understand what your talking about. i have to deal with some parts of the society that no one wants to deal with, the drunks, drug addicts, people who are dying, death calls, the police and others that no one likes dealing with, and on the side i dispatch after hours for the red cross. i deal with people who have lost everything. and its no fun. you need something to get you back to normal dealing with that.

Hello Thumper. I am still around, but I rarely post now because the threads are all so stupid, & if I find one I care to post in it is usually taken over by rude & mean people, or I am ignored. This site is nothing like it was 6 months ago.

no its not little, but there are some decent people on here. some of us do actually think once in a while, and dont go around posting about how drunk they are, or how many boobs they want to see or what have you.

tell me about it ! it used to be fun to come here and talk with people that i now call friend's, but every one is leaving ? oh, hi hen long time no see

I haven't had the chance to interact with you LittleRedHen, but would agree with your assessment of the site these days. The sad thing is that there's room for all of us, the stimulating and the ummmmm.....stimulating!

As in life, we allow the "vocal minority" to set the standard. Hopefully we can change the tide and make room for all types of conversation and not allow the cyber-bullies to rob us of meaningful interaction.

this is why i stick to either threads that im used to or that i have made myself. i dont go to alot of new threads cause i dont want to be lowered if some moron decides they dont like my answer and cannot come up with a decent reason other than they dont like me.

Hi Chevy

Hi Faith, nice to "meet" you. I havn't been interacting much with anyone lately.

the vocal minority is the reason the site has went to hell in a hand basket. we let the ones that wanna just talk about sex, or something that makes no sense. i can understand being random, i am very random,, look at this thread, but just to post something for the sake of posting something makes no sense. and then the wanna be bullies that cant find anything good to talk about want to muscle out the ones that want to have the decent conversations, and i dont stand for it,, this is why i stay in my own little areas. call me bad, call me stupid, i dont care what you or anyone else might call me cause in the long run, i am being me. i am who i am. i dont show off for attention, id rather be the one thats in the shadows and looking in on something than the one in the spotlight.

Faith you profile is very nicely written. I wiped mine out a few months ago.