Topic: Let's ask the audience...
Puffins1958's photo
Sun 06/15/08 08:24 PM
I believe we all can make that choice....

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tanyaann's photo
Sun 06/15/08 08:25 PM


Ok, I guess I'll finally wage in....

I think that there is lust at first sight or infatuation.

But, falling in love is not something that you can choose. It is something that happens when you very clearly know that the person that you are falling for can see into your heart. It is comforting, calming, peaceful, joyful and REAL! You can tell yourself not to fall, but it doesn't mean that you aren't falling. You can choose not to tell or lie to yourself (like lex said) but you are still falling. Falling in love is very different from puppy love, you are sure about it. There are no doubts in your mind about how you feel about the other person and you just pray that they feel the same way. If you guard your heart, then it just makes it more painful to endure the falling.

jmo.





yes the applause was for my baby girl's answer....it was perfect just like you.....gigglesnort.


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Lakeman's photo
Sun 06/15/08 08:27 PM

I believe you do have that choice

Redhead that pic is spooky!!!....but cute!!!

ljcc1964's photo
Sun 06/15/08 08:27 PM
I don't think you can choose whether or not to fall in love. But you can choose not to act on it.

chevylover1965's photo
Sun 06/15/08 08:29 PM
i choose not to deal with it right now !

no photo
Sun 06/15/08 08:31 PM
(Best Elvis voice)
Wise men say..... Only fools rush in......

Redshirt's photo
Sun 06/15/08 08:32 PM
Easy to fall in love...harder to keep the love alive and let romantic love grow into True Love.

madamx7316's photo
Sun 06/15/08 08:39 PM
i am a firm believer that you can not help who you love. i think that you can try to deny it or put up the walls, but deep down, if you love, you cant help it. it happens.

tanyaann's photo
Sun 06/15/08 08:39 PM
Again, thank you to everyone that posted reponses.flowerforyou

WhoIAm's photo
Sun 06/15/08 09:37 PM

Ok, I guess I'll finally wage in....

I think that there is lust at first sight or infatuation.

But, falling in love is not something that you can choose. It is something that happens when you very clearly know that the person that you are falling for can see into your heart. It is comforting, calming, peaceful, joyful and REAL! You can tell yourself not to fall, but it doesn't mean that you aren't falling. You can choose not to tell or lie to yourself (like lex said) but you are still falling. Falling in love is very different from puppy love, you are sure about it. There are no doubts in your mind about how you feel about the other person and you just pray that they feel the same way. If you guard your heart, then it just makes it more painful to endure the falling.

jmo.


Wow, how eloquently put.

tanyaann's photo
Sun 06/15/08 09:43 PM


Ok, I guess I'll finally wage in....

I think that there is lust at first sight or infatuation.

But, falling in love is not something that you can choose. It is something that happens when you very clearly know that the person that you are falling for can see into your heart. It is comforting, calming, peaceful, joyful and REAL! You can tell yourself not to fall, but it doesn't mean that you aren't falling. You can choose not to tell or lie to yourself (like lex said) but you are still falling. Falling in love is very different from puppy love, you are sure about it. There are no doubts in your mind about how you feel about the other person and you just pray that they feel the same way. If you guard your heart, then it just makes it more painful to endure the falling.

jmo.


Wow, how eloquently put.


thank you. flowerforyou

BlueskyJ's photo
Sun 06/15/08 09:48 PM

I don't believe it is a choice. I believe when a real connection happens on the highest level, we do not choose it..it chooses us.

I think the same way as you....it chooses us...drinker

tanyaann's photo
Sun 06/15/08 10:20 PM
thanks for your opinions.flowerforyou

no photo
Sun 06/15/08 10:36 PM
Well.......I have a book from years ago.......called Love is a choice!!! It describes co dependant relationships which at the time I was very codependant to people!! Now......you cant control your feelings of love toward someone but you can control what you do with those feelings. If you are in a destructive relationship, then you do have a choice to leave or not. Its up to you!!flowerforyou

tanyaann's photo
Sun 06/15/08 10:38 PM

Well.......I have a book from years ago.......called Love is a choice!!! It describes co dependant relationships which at the time I was very codependant to people!! Now......you cant control your feelings of love toward someone but you can control what you do with those feelings. If you are in a destructive relationship, then you do have a choice to leave or not. Its up to you!!flowerforyou


good point! thanks for sharing! flowerforyou

no photo
Sun 06/15/08 10:40 PM
I want a twinkie now......bigsmile

tanyaann's photo
Sun 06/15/08 11:40 PM

I want a twinkie now......bigsmile


sure! you get one! laugh

no photo
Sun 06/15/08 11:43 PM
and a ding dong!!! I love those king dongs!!!noway laugh laugh :tongue:

no photo
Sun 06/15/08 11:43 PM
completely bad for me but whatever!!!laugh

feistybaby's photo
Sun 06/15/08 11:44 PM
I have to agree with gypsy. The heart may choose who it loves but the mind is what decides to act on it or not. And the mind not the heart is what sets the parameters of what you are willing or not willing to deal with in a relationship.