May take to this site. Ok, bare with me.


I know there are a few people on this site that do make new members feel welcome and such, but i wonder how many when they see a new member on here how they actually persent themselves to them. Can name names but some new to this site deactivated there account, but before they did they left me an email saying how some people are.

Jan, will call her left this. Hope it's ok to do this

Hey, Mike.

Thank you for taking the time to talk to me this weekend. I enjoyed getting to know you a little and think you are an exceptional man! I wish you success in finding that one special woman who will love and appreciate you, and a lifetime of happiness with your baby boy!

I thought I'd give this online thing a try, but there are way too many pervs, kooks, and hostile women for me! I think I'll just take my chances in the "real world" where I can see the faces of those who would love ~ and hate ~ me. I have no issue dealing with people that will go toe-to-toe with me, but little regard for those that hide behind their computer in a cloak of anonymity with the intent to attack and wound others. Life is to short to willingly ingest such poison!

With respect and admiration!



I didn't get the chance to talk to this person before they left. I seen all to many times and yes i know you all will have your opinions, but i would hope most of you actually would have respect for anyone on this site. This may sound worng about what i'm going to to say and i'm not saying all the men on the forum, but some of you men have no respct for women on this forum. I'm a shame you persent your self on her but hid by emails...

I totally agree with you shadow...and one day I intend to actually read what you wrote

Good talk Shadow. Thanks

hey shadow.....maybe it was something you said?!

It's sade how people will persent themseves on the forum like there meaning well, but you see the other side by emails

Bravo, its this kind of childish stuff that happens, that keeps me from posting as much as I would like. But I tell my self that there ARE good men and women out there for every one to find. (shadow) you are one of the good.

She is right,but she shouldnt have brought kooks into the mix.I am extremely pro Kook.

This is the internet...

I've not dealt with this particular situation personally, but I totally agree that some men on here have little respect for women. Maybe the have been jaded, or maybe they were brought up that way, but come on guys. This place is totally awesome, but if we scare off the newbies before they even get a chance to become one of the family we are doing both they and ourselves a disservice. Women are the greatest thing God put on this planet, let's have a little respect! JMHO

Yup I agree shadow. I've given up worrying about it though. In all honesty people are going to be douches online or off. Just offline I'm a little more intimidating lol. And, they don't speak as freely because they're affraid of me haha. Ah well. I've never once put out the impression I was a big arsehole. I'm really a cool guy. More of a big teddy bear lmao. Anyways,

Yeah it is, but what i'm talking about and she was. is some of the people on this forum. Fals people that persent themselves one way infront of all of us and act another in emails.

i hear you shadow and respect that. but, we were all new at one time and we have to just be ourselves and find those we are comfortable with. generalizations like her email don't ring true for alot of people on here and i've made some excellent friends, all while enduring pervs and kooks. and truly, is this very much different than 'real life'? i always try to welcome new members, but at the same time, we're adults and have to learn to not take things so personally. special people do come along, even online

Liable to happen, count your cards at least they found out before they met. On internet dating one of the biggest risks is someone portraying themselves as one thing and becoming completly different upon meeting, this should (in my mind) be an understood and accepted liability...just because a few people turn out to be bad doesn't make the rest of them bad.

i agree shadow...i used to tell the oldies to play nice w/the newbies when welcoming them instead of scaring them away...but i don't even bother anymore

Right on I know there are a alot of good people on here and this is why i been onn this site so long. Alterego said it. it would be nice to at leat give a new member a chance, not that things wont happen, but i like when i see new members come back and make friends ships. Hell it puts up new topics

I admit sometimes I feel like I come across as ascerbic. I hope I haven't offended anyone, and if I did, MEA CULPA and please forgive me.
~Squeeze

for some reason that last part made me think of Silence of the lambs.. It puts the lotion on it's skin or else it gets the hose again!

I agree Some it will take more then others to see things. But if you noticed and i have to put it this way. If a really atractive women joins the forum. Two things happen right off the bat. One, men will jump all over it and some have no respect. Two some of you women get really jealous of a new member like this and they will attack because they feel threaten of being in there sapce. Well women! not all of you i'm talking abot, but anyone has the right to be here as much as you do....