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Do you have children with this person? If not, please turn and go your way. I was in the same situation as you were, only instead of BPD, I had Cancer. He was awesome through that, but after I was better, he went back to abusing. We have 2 kids together and I still have to associate with him because of them. If they weren't here, I would not have one thing to do with him. All the promises of I'll change or things will be different baby, I promise are all ways of getting you back and when you do, everything will go right back to the same way. I beg you, please just let him go his way and you go your way.
Jan Sorry that happened lilith. I was just wondering cuz ex is asking to be my friend and tells me he loves me and only wants whats best for me. |
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OP~
I am sorry about your DX, you do know that is completely treatable though, right? Curable? Thanks for the kind words but I am glad my ex is no longer my problem. It is difficult to be friends with someone you neither trust nor respect. So it's good. |
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I have been cancer free now for 7 years and am very thankful for each day that I am given.
OP~ I am sorry about your DX, you do know that is completely treatable though, right? Curable? Thanks for the kind words but I am glad my ex is no longer my problem. It is difficult to be friends with someone you neither trust nor respect. So it's good. |
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He just confuses me.
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Yes, good friends with a couple. Keep in touch with others.
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OP~ I am sorry about your DX, you do know that is completely treatable though, right? Curable? Thanks for the kind words but I am glad my ex is no longer my problem. It is difficult to be friends with someone you neither trust nor respect. So it's good. If OP means original poster than its a mental thing and I will struggle with it all of my life. |
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Yes OP means original poster..... I know what it is and it is CURABLE. You should be happy about that. It is not a major mental illness or defect.
If you believe you will struggle with it forever than surely you will struggle with it forever. If you understand it is curable than you do the work to cure it and move on. I wish you happiness in whichever you decide. 
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Okay so I care for my ex, even though he beat me and put me in the hospital and a million other things, at one point he was nice. But my question is have you ever had an ex you could be friends with after the relationship ended? Yes .. but I wouldn't if he laid a hand on me. Just sayin ... |
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Edited by
Fade2Black
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Tue 06/10/08 12:50 PM
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Yes, there is one I am actually friends with. It is possible, but I don't consider it an expectation. I saw my parents be good friends for years, but his re-marriage sorta quashed that. I find that to be the case a lot.... I am friendly with them until a new romance comes in and then things get awkward. I'm okay with that. As to my ex-husband, well I used to be friends with his wife.... enough said. Long story. Actually when my ex husband remarried is when I DID feel comfortable being friends. Before that it always seemed if I was just a bit nice, he'd take it as a way back in ... just couldn't do it then .. too awkward. Now we're all one big happy family .. except after about 15 min with them I'm thinkin ... 'OH YEA!  THAT'S why I divorced him!  I remember now ...' 
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i try to remain friends with all my ex's. makes booty calls easier that way oh god, that is such the truth its scary.
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I'm friends or at least friendly with all my ex's
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I am civil to all of my ex's and am great friends with 2 out of the 3. My exhusband is one of my best friends even after the divorce..........I guess I figured if I loved him enough to be with him there is some good qualities there. It's just easier now to deal with his qualities that I didn't like.........wait I mean I don't have to deal with them.
I think it depends on if you have children or not. I think it is really sad when people can't put bad feelings aside in order to be great parents and communicate with one another in a grown up manner. JMO |
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I'm not difficult to get along with.
They are exs for a reason. So, no. |
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I live with my ex husband
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Okay so I care for my ex, even though he beat me and put me in the hospital and a million other things, at one point he was nice. But my question is have you ever had an ex you could be friends with after the relationship ended? I was friends with my ex for a long time...a little too close actually. Then his best friend wanted to be with me and he(my ex) got jealous and started a huge fight between me and the best friend and for a long time we(the best friend and I) werent friends. Then I decided to talk to the best friend again and now my ex doesnt want anything to do with me anymore. Complicated and long, I know. |
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me and my ex husband cannot carry on a conversation..
he loves me so much he hates me...idk..  we communicate via txting and have for over a year... it sux...i wish we could be friends... someday...when hes ready i guess |
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Okay so I care for my ex, even though he beat me and put me in the hospital and a million other things, at one point he was nice. But my question is have you ever had an ex you could be friends with after the relationship ended? no, i'm a butthead and would rather not be around while our failures are fixed. that..or..i like to walk away from people who are crap |
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Yes after all my ex has done to me i still care about him and try to be his freind
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Yep, Friends with my Ex GF's.
I don't understand how people that were suppose to be everything to each other can't get along a short period after they break up? I mean were they lying to each other as they were confiding in each other and becoming best friends? Doesn't make sense to me... Sounds like a complete waste of time to me..... |
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