I am living with my son, daughter in law, and my two grandsons. My son and his wife are in the Air Force. They were both deployed at the same time, so moved me in with them so I could keep the boys till they got home. They are both home now, but I am still here. They still depend on me to watch the boys. They work such strange hours, between meetings, PT (in the mornings) and work (they work 2nd shift), that there is no way they can put the boys in daycare. My son pays my bills and such, and I am grateful, but I have no life outside this house. I know I need to move on with my life, somehow, I'm not getting any younger, but I don't want to leave them stuck either. What's a mom to do????

oooooooooooooooooo your in a spot huh

You are doing a great thing but as you said you need to move on with your life also.

Stay and help out or you'll feel guilty, but reserve a couple days/nights per week just for YOU.

yea...i really am

Yikes!!, you can't bail on family

Tell them you need some nights out...I think they would understand.

Nice help there :: eye roll ::


Bring in SUPER NANNY!!

No I kid, you need to sit down and tell your son and daughter in law this... you never know they might not be aware of the situation as you see it... Best of luck my dear!

That's the most unselfish thing a grandparent can do! Just ask for weekends off every now and then.

No and I won't...I just don't know how to tell them that I need some ME time. And at the same time don't know when that time would ever be.

Honestly and calmly.....they are adults and should understand. My kids know I'm not too old to want a life!!!!

your very sexy......you will still have plenty of time for yourself later.....take care of the kids and grand ones!

Have them get a babysitter, maybe there's someone you know that can help out when you want your time.

First of all its great that they are paying your bills. I know a lot of people that do that and get nothing for it. I would just be honest and let them know that you also need some time for just "you" time. Do you live in the same house? Is there a way to make a separate little apartment (over the garage perhaps)? Just be honest that you need a bit of your own life too and I'm sure they'll work something out with you.

Ok, let me change direction a little. I live in a little tiny town (300). Nothing to do here and don't know how to get anywhere. I can get to the next town, but nothing there either. I am quite shy, to be honest. I don't like going out and doing things by myself. I guess I just have myself in a pickle.

thank you

I live in the same house. I have my own room, but no time to go "hide". Here's an example, yesterday they were both gone from 7:30 a.m until 11:30 pm. between meetings, pt and finally work.

<-------------- Lives in a town you can't see when you drive through. Not even one store!

I love it.

You need to move on to do your own thing! Not only will you be miserable but so will your grandkids if you continue. That wouldn't be good for any of you. Sounds like you know what you want to do you just don't know the how and when.

Don't get me wrong, I love living in the small town. I've just not had the opportunity to even get out and make friends. I have been here since September of last year, and been with the kids 24/7