Topic: Ever take an interest in someone, only for them to deactivat
Kleisto's photo
Wed 06/04/08 11:11 AM
Yeah.....that's what I just had happen to me.

I'm kinda bummed out right now, thinking maybe it's all my fault. :cry: :cry:

dirtyblonde007's photo
Wed 06/04/08 11:12 AM
it may not be your fault. they just may have given up or found someone. i do know how you feel though. cheer up! you'll find somebodyflowerforyou

ljcc1964's photo
Wed 06/04/08 11:13 AM
I'll take care of it.

no photo
Wed 06/04/08 11:14 AM
I have on-and-off work involvement, so if I'm going to be away for an extended period I just deactivate. I think it's better than people thinking I'm just not responding to them - but maybe I'm wrong...

Kleisto's photo
Wed 06/04/08 11:16 AM

it may not be your fault. they just may have given up or found someone. i do know how you feel though. cheer up! you'll find somebodyflowerforyou


She had just joined not too long ago for what it's worth.

awolf1010's photo
Wed 06/04/08 11:17 AM

I'll take care of it.
lets hear ya howl!!!!

no photo
Wed 06/04/08 11:18 AM

Yeah.....that's what I just had happen to me.

I'm kinda bummed out right now, thinking maybe it's all my fault. :cry: :cry:


oh no, sorry to hear that flowerforyou flowerforyou

RoamingOrator's photo
Wed 06/04/08 11:20 AM
Deactivate, change their mail filter, I always try to tell myself "it's just a coincedence," but we know the truth.

longhairbiker's photo
Wed 06/04/08 11:21 AM
Nope can't say that I have.

KeepingTheFaith's photo
Wed 06/04/08 11:22 AM
I deactivate from time to time for work too, but usually tell the people on my "friends" list so they don't take it personal. Most keep in touch off-line anyway. :tongue:

Kleisto's photo
Wed 06/04/08 11:22 AM
Edited by Kleisto on Wed 06/04/08 11:23 AM


Yeah.....that's what I just had happen to me.

I'm kinda bummed out right now, thinking maybe it's all my fault. :cry: :cry:


oh no, sorry to hear that flowerforyou flowerforyou


Thanks Deb. flowerforyou

I kinda feel like I got rejected in a way you know?

no photo
Wed 06/04/08 11:23 AM
It's the internet. Random and unpredictable behavior even from people you think you know is not uncommon. Unfortunately, sh!t happens...ohwell

itsmetina's photo
Wed 06/04/08 11:30 AM
NOPE NEVER HAPPENED TO MEflowerforyou

beauty314's photo
Wed 06/04/08 11:30 AM
that happened to me also..still met with the guy once but he never came up with a decent reason why he deactivated. never saw him again..good riddance....

Fade2Black's photo
Wed 06/04/08 11:53 AM
can't relate but sux 4 u hon flowerforyou

grkboy's photo
Wed 06/04/08 01:49 PM

Yeah.....that's what I just had happen to me.

I'm kinda bummed out right now, thinking maybe it's all my fault. :cry: :cry:


Welcome to dating in general. Happens to myself and many other people a LOT.

Best advice in life is never to get too close to someone until they are getting close to you. So if you meet someone, have pleasant conversation, and go out once or twice, don't start hoping this will be love. If the dating becomes weeks or months, and she's all into you, then go ahead.

When the ones you start off with suddenly vanish on you, you just learn to move on quickly by not getting yourself all emotionally attached to her from the get-go. You also should see every woman who does this to you as one problem you won't have to deal with in life. Believe me, the kind of women who would up and run out on you on a whim is more likely the kind of woman who will make you miserable in the long run.

And the same goes to you women when it comes to men who run out on you in a heartbeat.

Kleisto's photo
Wed 06/04/08 01:50 PM
Yeah see this is my problem, get attached too soon, and then get hurt.

BlueskyJ's photo
Wed 06/04/08 01:54 PM
yeah....right here on 1+U....she deactivated with no warning & reappeared a few weeks later with a new profile.....those are the kinds of people i avoid.....without communication a relationship will not work....on the positive side at least i found out early before it became something more....

i think honesty can only be shared through communication....they go together....

Christinacospgs's photo
Wed 06/04/08 01:56 PM

Yeah see this is my problem, get attached too soon, and then get hurt.


ouch! I'm sorry.