My father keeps telling me pretty much I'm a f*ck up. I know I am not what he expects from a daughter. I hate when he brings me down. I know I have messed up in the past a lot but I am trying my hardest to turn my life around but it just does not seem like enough. I do still live with my parents, I cant find a job anywhere I have tired everywhere even fast food places. I do have debt but I am trying and he can't seem to see that. I do not know what I can do... never in my life have I heard him say he is proud of me...everything I want to do with my life he shots me down. EMT,biotechnology,cop,army..shot down! He does not see me doing anything with my life. I'm so sick of this! It hurts me more then anything knowing I'm not what he wants.

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I'll verbally abuse him on the phone for $5.

My dad is a major league pain in the @zz too

Cheer up!

Don't let him get you down, you know you're doing the best you can. If he can't see that, well that's his problem then. Could try talking to him about this too I suppose, if it would help any.

But in any case, just stay strong.

(hugs)

Keep your head up... You need to do what makes you happy int he long run.. I know you want the be loved and accepted by your father but sometimes things just don't work that way... you need to find yourself and make you who are happy before all else... if your trying then dangnabbit you are trying

how do you deal with it?

Have you done any of the things you told him you wanted to do?

Who cares what he says?

I can sit and say I'm going to be a rock star, but if I don't join a band, I'm still just nothing, and not even on the road to it.

Try being overly patronizing toward him. He'll see himself for what he is.

Oh, and no longer discuss future plans with him. His negativity can't hurt you if you dream for yourself.

(((redhead))) my dad can be the same way sometimes... i think it's a fathers way of "motivation". MAKE A PLAN! THAT PLAN'S NO GOOD! MAKE ANOTHER ONE! lol, i feel ya hun.

That must really hurt. I am sorry. I am 43 now. When I was your age I wasted a lot of time doing things for my parents. I was given bad advice from them. Now, at my age I am finally doing what I want. You really need to do for you not anyone else.
Biotechnolgy is cool and so is being an EMT helping people.
I highly recommend taking a personality test called the Myers-Briggs. You can take a short version on line. It helps you figure out who you are. It also gives some examples of jobs that would best fit you.

He's your dad, you love him but your dad can't live your life for you nor do you need his approval to be happy. When you know in your heart you are doing your best that's the only approval you should need bottom line...your own...

I do know what you are going through though, my dad is like that too sometimes. But he can only affect you as much as you let him, you control how you respond. You can let it get you down, or you can use it as motivation to work even harder to show him.

maybe you should tell him this instead of us. I don't mean that in a rude way but maybe he doesn't know just how much of an ass he's being to you. Write him a letter if you can't face him. Sometimes we can't see the forest because of the tree.

sweets...as long as you are trying and doing it for the positive...then be rest at mind.However, I understand this is very important to you...pleasing your dad that is.....sometimes, we will want this sooo bad but will never achieve it.Why? I do not know.I went my fathers whole life trying to measure up...and never did. I own a GMC Envoy,my own house,40+ domains and web sites,and play football while raising 3 kids off and on since they don't live with me. I'm not bragging people about any of that but the point is...you will do what you want.I have only gotten here because I wanted to. Not what they supposedly expect out of you.You will have to always live with yourself.You do your best and you will actually do better because the fact of never measuring up will push you to a higher level than you thought possible.Some people can and will never be pleased....not even with themselves.Maybe your dad is not even happy with himself deep down. I hope some of this ramble helps you.