I met this guy last night (don't get excited)He's a friend of a frind and we went out to a bar last night. He talked obsessively about his ex-fiance, and how they broke up around the first of the year, and now she calls him to do things, then cancells, how she tells him she needs him, and then talks about other guys to him, told me he was "addicted" to her.

In the course of the conversation I saw his VERY low self-esteem, so I talked with him for a long time, and told him that he needs to get his head straight, and STOP talking to her, until he gets his self-worth back, that she breaks it down everytime they talk.

We had stopped drinking around 1, and were drinking water/soda til after 2:30, all of our other friends had left and it was just he and I talking on the patio on this bar, anyway the bartender came out, and said he was locking up, so I was like "hey good to see you again, if you ever need to talk, you can call" He asked me to go home with him.......

Did this guy LISTEN to himself the whole night????

This guy is good looking, has girls throwing themselves at him, and he's obsessed with the ex......WTF is wrong with people?

I'm kind of offended that after that LONG talk about his ex and how in love with her he is, he would think for one second I would go home with him....

GAWD, people.... What is wrong that so many people have such bad images of themselves?

A lot from childhood, typically stems from either of the parents not spending enough time teaching, leading, or helping the child. Eventually they grow up to be co-dependant and need (yes need) someone to keep them up...shame really, I know a few out here that could be great on their own but are limited because they are mothered or sheltered.

Lol they dont care where they get it.........as long as they get it!!!

Sex and love are 2 different things to guys.......sex is just sex.

To alot of women......sex = love

Which it doesnt equate!!

He probably just didn't want to be alone with his thoughts.

you mean his penis???

What's positive is your obvious good self image.

You were kind enough to sit and listen to this guy all night. This guy is not over his ex and my guess is that he thinks if he sleeps with enough women, he'll either get her back or get over her.

I think a lot of people are like this. They are IN love with someone but they will SETTLE for whatever they can get! Its really sad that this happens but it does.
I think some people can be in love with someone but when it comes to being intimate with someone else..it doesn't matter because they figure they won't have to see that person again. This is how people start having "friends with benefits." I just don't get that whole concept really. How can you just have sex with someone and not have any feelings? To me, you have to be insecure with yourself to stoop that low..but thats my opinion. I only want to be intimate with someone that I care about so I will hold out until that time is right

wanted some nookie

The whole idea of friends with benefits, is really just asking for problems anyway if you ask me. Inevitably one side is going to get attached emotionally, and someone's feelings are going to be hurt.

Oh honey.... he has no clue. This man had to assume that a lovely lady (with such beautiful breasts ) would not possibly spend all this time with him because she is kind and empathetic.

He assumed you were interested. Thank goodness you are smarter than that.

It always surprises me how naive girls can be about these things.

Well we normally dont think with our penises!!!

I think sometimes ppl struggling with self esteem issues cling to the ppl who they feel validate them (you for the care you showed listening to his troubles) or who are familiar (the ex who, while pulling him down, is a surety he would rather handle than to go out into the world again). IMHO

enlighten us!

"enlighten us!"



If he's still with you at 2:30 am and conscious he probably wants to do it.

not always. I have been in that situation..neither one of us wanted to date the other one, but there were certain things we could see doing together...

Stupid females, we think guys actually talk to us because we are people, not because we are pieces of ass.

but if he talks of his EX until 2:30 am and is still CONSCIOUS, he is an ungratful idiot!

I never said stupid and I never even thought stupid. I said naive.

very, very different things.

Ok fine. It is naive to think a guy will talk to a girl because she is a person and not because she is piece of ass.

That better?