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Topic: True?
lcjw Joined Thu 10/11/07 Posts: 8594	Thu 05/29/08 10:36 AM Edited by lcjw on Thu 05/29/08 10:36 AM
Past behavior is the best predictor of future behavior. I will disagree with you on that, because as we age a majority of people will grow and learn, and change in certain areas of their behavior. Such as maturity, etc. Some may not. What we did/do as youth we will learn from it and not do it again. I said a majority of us. How I was at 18 is not how I behave nowadays. Good day to you. I disagree with the last statement because: I believe that lack of moral standards is in place when it comes to cheating. One can not outgrow that because they were not instilled in one’s mind, and soul, to begin with; therefore, once a cheater, one might always be a cheater, and it will not stop, because there is not a learned behavior to do so; however, there is an existent and very real lack of morals and standards. So you are saying that it is impossible for a guy to cheat, then lose his wife and kids forever. That event then hurts him so bad that he swears of cheating forever because it is not worth happening again. It truly depends on the person, the circumstances of why they cheated, and what they have to lose to where or not they will cheat again. I agree with that. It has to be a life changing event, in my opinion, for a cheater to change.

lcjw Joined Thu 10/11/07 Posts: 8594	Thu 05/29/08 10:38 AM
I lived with one, and now that we are divorced, he still doing the same thing. He is 50 yrs. old........

justme32 Joined Fri 03/21/08 Posts: 1515	Thu 05/29/08 11:53 AM
I lived with one, and now that we are divorced, he still doing the same thing. He is 50 yrs. old........ My significant other is 50 years old and he hasn't cheated on me in 13 years. He cheated on his first wife and they had several children together and he lost his family. When we got together he cheated on me for several years and when I got pregnant he stopped. His fear of losing another family made him stop cheating. I'm sorry he cheated on you. Some can change and some can't. If he is still doing it, he must have some issues that he needs to deal with.

lcjw Joined Thu 10/11/07 Posts: 8594	Thu 05/29/08 02:48 PM
I lived with one, and now that we are divorced, he still doing the same thing. He is 50 yrs. old........ My significant other is 50 years old and he hasn't cheated on me in 13 years. He cheated on his first wife and they had several children together and he lost his family. When we got together he cheated on me for several years and when I got pregnant he stopped. His fear of losing another family made him stop cheating. I'm sorry he cheated on you. Some can change and some can't. If he is still doing it, he must have some issues that he needs to deal with. I think he does. Thanks!

Cutiepieforyou Joined Wed 10/17/07 Posts: 43085	Thu 05/29/08 02:49 PM
Not sure about this one.

justme32 Joined Fri 03/21/08 Posts: 1515	Thu 05/29/08 02:53 PM
I lived with one, and now that we are divorced, he still doing the same thing. He is 50 yrs. old........ My significant other is 50 years old and he hasn't cheated on me in 13 years. He cheated on his first wife and they had several children together and he lost his family. When we got together he cheated on me for several years and when I got pregnant he stopped. His fear of losing another family made him stop cheating. I'm sorry he cheated on you. Some can change and some can't. If he is still doing it, he must have some issues that he needs to deal with. I think he does. Thanks! Your welcome.

sam53 Joined Wed 03/12/08 Posts: 2073	Thu 05/29/08 03:17 PM
The saying: Once a cheater always a cheater! Is it true? No . To every action , there is a reason behind it . When the reason is no longer there ;the action may go away .

angelindarkness Joined Sun 11/25/07 Posts: 6492	Thu 05/29/08 06:47 PM Edited by angelindarkness on Thu 05/29/08 06:49 PM
Past behavior is the best predictor of future behavior. I will disagree with you on that, because as we age a majority of people will grow and learn, and change in certain areas of their behavior. Such as maturity, etc. Some may not. What we did/do as youth we will learn from it and not do it again. I said a majority of us. How I was at 18 is not how I behave nowadays. Good day to you. I disagree with the last statement because: I believe that lack of moral standards is in place when it comes to cheating. One can not outgrow that because they were not instilled in one’s mind, and soul, to begin with; therefore, once a cheater, one might always be a cheater, and it will not stop, because there is not a learned behavior to do so; however, there is an existent and very real lack of morals and standards. So you are saying that it is impossible for a guy to cheat, then lose his wife and kids forever. That event then hurts him so bad that he swears of cheating forever because it is not worth happening again. It truly depends on the person, the circumstances of why they cheated, and what they have to lose to where or not they will cheat again. I agree. Also, testosterone levels decrease for males as they age. This helps some become more loyal.