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Congrats Shawdow, welcome to the wonderful, crazy, frustrating world of being a parent. Would never trade it for anything. My three boys (17, 15, 13) are like night and day, what worked for one didn't necessarily work for the others. I didn't really have anyone around to answer questions when mine were small so was trial and error to figure out what was best for each of them. PragmaticMind gave good suggestions to try. One thing I'd add though is don't believe the bs that if you pick up your child every time he cries that you'll spoil him, my guys are not spoiled, well not much.  I'm with her feel free anytime to ask whatever you like when it comes to parenting. There is no rule book we just have to do the best we can and what we think is right for our children.
You're off to a great start by giving him your love and being there for him, keep that up always. Have fun! 
I agree with you on picking him up when there a new born. To me it's part of the bonding i need to do right now knowing me and my ex are not togetther. So when i am with him. I want to spend that time so he gets to know my voice 
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Take it one minute and one day at a time. Every child is different. Be patient with your child. He is learning just like you. By the way I think it is really cool that you actually give a damn. Congrats Daddy! The nice thing is i do have patients the ex has little of it and this is where i will come in handy if you were to say.
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By the way, all that crap about crying is good for a baby is not always true. It is their way of letting you know that something needs to be fixed. Such as: diapers, food, liquid, gas etc. Don't spoil the child, but make sure there is nothing wrong. I agree with you. Check all that first and go from there
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when my granddaughter was born, she was a very fussy baby. She would cry for hours. My daughter in law called her midwife and she told her to give her Mylacon drops for the gas, you can get them over the counter, and she recommended Sleepy Time Tea. It's a caffeine free tea. You can find it in the grocery store where the regular tea is. It comes in a small green box. It worked wonderful. It helped her pass the gas, plus helped her sleep.
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Just from your responses on this thread and the fact that you started it in the first place says to me you are going to be a true father, one that is there. I hope you and his mother will continue to coparent with his needs put first. It's great to "see" a father that cares as much as you do. Like I said before any questions feel free.
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Knowing my son was born 4 days ago. Just thought i would ask if any of you would have any suggestions in taking care of him. There going to be times when even though there is nothing really wrong with him, othere then being fussy, you know like having gas etc etc, that will go away lol. But what are some things you have done that might help in areas like this or when he is like over tired? I heard from a friend that when he has hiccups and it don't stop. Try puting sugar on his pacifire, not that it will work all the time, but she said it will at times. I'm just puting things out there to see what you think
Congratulations Michael,,, Sugar does work for hiccups,,, as for the unsettling bits of I dont know whats wrong,, Cradle him,, rock him,, a simply drive in the car cure's alot,, it worked with my 4,,, Most of all love him,,, there is no manuel on being a parent,,, Day by day you two will get to no each other and understand what he needs as well as what works, Lots of tea or coffee for you and lotsa of Love for him,,, You are an incredible man and will be an incredible Dad,,  
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Just from your responses on this thread and the fact that you started it in the first place says to me you are going to be a true father, one that is there. I hope you and his mother will continue to coparent with his needs put first. It's great to "see" a father that cares as much as you do. Like I said before any questions feel free.
Yeah, it's not going to be easy, but who said it ever was. just one step at a time and if he gets to be to much. just pond him off on mom lol. JK i figure if i'm going to learn anything. Why wait, just jump right into it. Thank you and il keep in mind your offer
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Knowing my son was born 4 days ago. Just thought i would ask if any of you would have any suggestions in taking care of him. There going to be times when even though there is nothing really wrong with him, othere then being fussy, you know like having gas etc etc, that will go away lol. But what are some things you have done that might help in areas like this or when he is like over tired? I heard from a friend that when he has hiccups and it don't stop. Try puting sugar on his pacifire, not that it will work all the time, but she said it will at times. I'm just puting things out there to see what you think
Congratulations Michael,,, Sugar does work for hiccups,,, as for the unsettling bits of I dont know whats wrong,, Cradle him,, rock him,, a simply drive in the car cure's alot,, it worked with my 4,,, Most of all love him,,, there is no manuel on being a parent,,, Day by day you two will get to no each other and understand what he needs as well as what works, Lots of tea or coffee for you and lotsa of Love for him,,, You are an incredible man and will be an incredible Dad,,
Thank you yeah your right. it's learning from each other Love how i feed him and in no time at all the little guy falls asleep lol. It's so cute, but it's not going to work all the time so i'm enjoying while it last lol
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for a upset belly , break a starlight mint up and put in a bottle of water ! it will settle his belly down , had to do that on all 5 of my kids !
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when my granddaughter was born, she was a very fussy baby. She would cry for hours. My daughter in law called her midwife and she told her to give her Mylacon drops for the gas, you can get them over the counter, and she recommended Sleepy Time Tea. It's a caffeine free tea. You can find it in the grocery store where the regular tea is. It comes in a small green box. It worked wonderful. It helped her pass the gas, plus helped her sleep. Thank you and il look into that
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for a upset belly , break a starlight mint up and put in a bottle of water ! it will settle his belly down , had to do that on all 5 of my kids ! Not sure on that. He is only 4 days old but will ask about it
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when my granddaughter was born, she was a very fussy baby. She would cry for hours. My daughter in law called her midwife and she told her to give her Mylacon drops for the gas, you can get them over the counter, and she recommended Sleepy Time Tea. It's a caffeine free tea. You can find it in the grocery store where the regular tea is. It comes in a small green box. It worked wonderful. It helped her pass the gas, plus helped her sleep. Thank you and il look into that
Mylacon drops are the best,,, used them on my Grandbabies,,, And Peppermint works wonders,,,
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Congratulations shadow
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Congratulations shadow
Thank you Fanta
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I agree with not putting any sugar on his pacifier, the hiccups will pass. If he has problems with gas, the Mylicon drops will help, I don't know about the tea but would check with the pediatrician giving him anything I wasn't sure of.
Whatever you do, never, ever give him any honey in anything until he is at least 2 years ago, he can get botulism from it, so never ever honey. You can't spoil a baby in my opinion, they need the closeness, the bonding. Lay him on your chest, when you don't have a shirt on, and he will feel the warmth and hear your heartbeat. Will be calming for him and helps fussy babies sleep sometimes too. Congratulations again, Mike. Good luck. |
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You are in the big leagues now Shadow. When my girls now 15 and 17 were babys and crying, check diaper, feed them,burp them make sure they are warm enough, hold them and rock them. The two of you will figure it out.
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I agree with not putting any sugar on his pacifier, the hiccups will pass. If he has problems with gas, the Mylicon drops will help, I don't know about the tea but would check with the pediatrician giving him anything I wasn't sure of. Whatever you do, never, ever give him any honey in anything until he is at least 2 years ago, he can get botulism from it, so never ever honey. You can't spoil a baby in my opinion, they need the closeness, the bonding. Lay him on your chest, when you don't have a shirt on, and he will feel the warmth and hear your heartbeat. Will be calming for him and helps fussy babies sleep sometimes too. Congratulations again, Mike. Good luck. No i wont be giving him anything with out finding out about it. moms milk is just fin right now As for building that bond with him. I will try that holding him on my chest. Thank you marie
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You are in the big leagues now Shadow. When my girls now 15 and 17 were babys and crying, check diaper, feed them,burp them make sure they are warm enough, hold them and rock them. The two of you will figure it out.
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shadow........buy Dr.Spock..........and and The first 4 years.........cant remember who wrote it..........it saved me and if you have any questions ask me.........1-800-gypsy knows!!!
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NO SUGAR!
Ask any doctor! There is a reason why they always stress about people putting things that do not belong in bottles, in the dang bottles! If you put sugar on the pacifier, the baby will grow to expect it. Also, imagine the tooth decay. (I know, no teeth yet, but trust on this one, I have been through countless doctors and specialists about this as ex-hubby and me both have genetically bad teeth.) And please, no cereal in the baby bottles when they get older. Try not to overfed. It is a common habit to shove a bottle into a baby's mouth when they cry. The parents of my last surrobaby did that and the poor child is severely overweight at only a year old. Babies gain weight just through mother's milk or formula, then, when the time comes, through the appropriate portions of cereals and baby foods. And people wonder why so many kids are becoming obese. Especially here in America. I see more obese babies here than I saw in my travels to Israel. Society is starting to make us think if the baby cries, we are bad parents. Which I think is funny, cause if that were so, a lot of parental generations before us should be committed for child abuse! Hold your child. I suggest for further bonding, get a co-sleeper (it's a mini attachment that attaches to your bed so you can sleep next to your child.) Or, do as we did with our princess and get the crib sandwiched between the wall and your bed and remove the side of the crib facing you. Did you know Americans are pretty much the only people who put their babies in other rooms? Tell me this, when you (if you) hear the baby cry, how long before you wake up and get there? To an infant, it's a lifetime. Imagine being that small, having some difficulties and being alone... in a dark room... with some strange creatures hanging above your bed (those stupid carousel toys that are supposed to lull a child to sleep). It is a scientific fact that babies sleep better while in co-sleeping arrangements: http://www.askdrsears.com/html/7/T071000.asp Other than that advice, I just say, be there for your babe. Whenever you can for as long as you can! And enjoy this time, before long, they will be old enough to tell you that they hate you and wish they were never born when you ground them for being out past curfew or tell them they can't borrow the car! 
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