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Topic: if you??
lady_karan Joined Thu 05/01/08 Posts: 62	Sun 05/25/08 05:06 PM
it has taken me a 11 years and I got to laught in my doctors face but be up front if he truly loves you it will work out beside children really changes your life as we know it lots of men now days don't want children or have started at a young age and have them..and you can adopt if he wants children that bad..

9CORNERPOCKET Joined Mon 11/26/07 Posts: 2072	Sun 05/25/08 05:06 PM
had a illness like me called endometriosis, and it can reduce your chances of getting pregnant, how soon would you tell a man that if he was interested in you?? means double time for having sex............

Winx Joined Fri 08/31/07 Posts: 39051	Sun 05/25/08 05:06 PM
Second date. i mean before the dating part, like on email IF i did meet someone?? i have no experience in this area, but i don't think this would be an email conversation. personally, if it were me, i would see where things were going and have this conversation before things got serious. I agree.

debbie1980 Joined Sun 09/09/07 Posts: 20487	Sun 05/25/08 05:06 PM
you dont have to spell out what medical problems you have just let them know that you could have a very hard time getting pregnant. if you tell some too soon they are going to be thinking they can try for sex any time they want. because of your medical problems. that would be the users i didnt think of that, but yes your right.

debbie1980 Joined Sun 09/09/07 Posts: 20487	Sun 05/25/08 05:08 PM
My ex-wife had this, we tryed for years before we could have a child. If you are serious with the other person and he is interested in having children you need to be up front with him from the beginning. how many years did it take for your ex wife to get pregnant?? We both had to be tested to find out if it was me or her with the problem, they found it was her and did a operation, then put her on steriods or something like this. I guess we tried 3 or 4 years before we had our daughter. congrats on getting your baby, its my dream to have a baby, if i cant, then i dont know what i would do.

yantraimages Joined Sun 12/09/07 Posts: 1078	Sun 05/25/08 05:09 PM
I mean don't get a sandwich board but if you actually go out and like him, tell him right away.

ddn122 Joined Mon 11/05/07 Posts: 12855	Sun 05/25/08 05:09 PM
i don't think your medical history or situation is something you need to talk about, until you are serious.... my opinion Fair???? we don't use that word in our house why tell them??? at all.... ummmmm. ok ..right after the engagement ring is presented....and before you say , yes dont you think its only fair to tell him?

Winx Joined Fri 08/31/07 Posts: 39051	Sun 05/25/08 05:09 PM
My ex-wife had this, we tryed for years before we could have a child. If you are serious with the other person and he is interested in having children you need to be up front with him from the beginning. how many years did it take for your ex wife to get pregnant?? We both had to be tested to find out if it was me or her with the problem, they found it was her and did a operation, then put her on steriods or something like this. I guess we tried 3 or 4 years before we had our daughter. congrats on getting your baby, its my dream to have a baby, if i cant, then i dont know what i would do. My Aunt has endo. She received hormone shots and implantation. She got pregnant.

debbie1980 Joined Sun 09/09/07 Posts: 20487	Sun 05/25/08 05:11 PM
i don't think your medical history or situation is something you need to talk about, until you are serious.... my opinion Fair???? we don't use that word in our house why tell them??? at all.... ummmmm. ok ..right after the engagement ring is presented....and before you say , yes dont you think its only fair to tell him? thankyou.

moofooga Joined Thu 01/31/08 Posts: 25515	Sun 05/25/08 05:12 PM
had a illness like me called endometriosis, and it can reduce your chances of getting pregnant, how soon would you tell a man that if he was interested in you?? I'd first make sure if said man was interested in having kids, first. Some people out there just aren't interested in having kids for whatever reason there is.

debbie1980 Joined Sun 09/09/07 Posts: 20487	Sun 05/25/08 05:12 PM
had a illness like me called endometriosis, and it can reduce your chances of getting pregnant, how soon would you tell a man that if he was interested in you?? means double time for having sex............ it sure does, they said when i do want a child to have plenty of practising, then my chnaces are higher.

Tankk Joined Tue 03/11/08 Posts: 1450	Sun 05/25/08 05:12 PM
had a illness like me called endometriosis, and it can reduce your chances of getting pregnant, how soon would you tell a man that if he was interested in you?? I'd first make sure if said man was interested in having kids, first. Some people out there just aren't interested in having kids for whatever reason there is. Like me....

debbie1980 Joined Sun 09/09/07 Posts: 20487	Sun 05/25/08 05:13 PM
My ex-wife had this, we tryed for years before we could have a child. If you are serious with the other person and he is interested in having children you need to be up front with him from the beginning. how many years did it take for your ex wife to get pregnant?? We both had to be tested to find out if it was me or her with the problem, they found it was her and did a operation, then put her on steriods or something like this. I guess we tried 3 or 4 years before we had our daughter. congrats on getting your baby, its my dream to have a baby, if i cant, then i dont know what i would do. My Aunt has endo. She received hormone shots and implantation. She got pregnant. thats lovely. so if i had hormone shots or ivf, would i have a good chnace then??

Bornnaked Joined Sun 07/29/07 Posts: 2359	Sun 05/25/08 05:13 PM
Second date. i mean before the dating part, like on email IF i did meet someone?? That way you could see his expression.

debbie1980 Joined Sun 09/09/07 Posts: 20487	Sun 05/25/08 05:13 PM
had a illness like me called endometriosis, and it can reduce your chances of getting pregnant, how soon would you tell a man that if he was interested in you?? I'd first make sure if said man was interested in having kids, first. Some people out there just aren't interested in having kids for whatever reason there is. Like me.... you dont want children, why??

itsmetina Joined Sun 12/09/07 Posts: 18944	Sun 05/25/08 05:13 PM
I don't think you say hi my name is Debbie its hard for me to get pregnant[which might be a plus to some men]whenever the subject comes up or you think he's serious

debbie1980 Joined Sun 09/09/07 Posts: 20487	Sun 05/25/08 05:14 PM
I don't think you say hi my name is Debbie its hard for me to get pregnant[which might be a plus to some men]whenever the subject comes up or you think he's serious i dont mean straight away like that, i mean do i tell him in a few weeks time, or just wait and see what happens with the relationship first?

moofooga Joined Thu 01/31/08 Posts: 25515	Sun 05/25/08 05:16 PM
had a illness like me called endometriosis, and it can reduce your chances of getting pregnant, how soon would you tell a man that if he was interested in you?? I'd first make sure if said man was interested in having kids, first. Some people out there just aren't interested in having kids for whatever reason there is. Like me.... you dont want children, why?? My reason is as follows- I've gone through a rather turbulent childhood, and the absolute LAST thing I would want to do is perpetuate history by putting any offspring of mine through the same kind of crap I've had to endure. I would rather not have kids than go through the ignominy of having to explain to them why mommy and daddy are getting divorced, etc.

lady_karan Joined Thu 05/01/08 Posts: 62	Sun 05/25/08 05:16 PM
don't be upset Deb, if you really want kids adopt them you can love them the same believe me I use to cry alot and I wanted a big family, but was lucky to have two and they told me no more or the two I have would not have a Mom at all.. or you can have my kids.. I'll pack them up

68chevy Joined Tue 11/13/07 Posts: 6926	Sun 05/25/08 05:16 PM
My ex-wife had this, we tryed for years before we could have a child. If you are serious with the other person and he is interested in having children you need to be up front with him from the beginning. how many years did it take for your ex wife to get pregnant?? We both had to be tested to find out if it was me or her with the problem, they found it was her and did a operation, then put her on steriods or something like this. I guess we tried 3 or 4 years before we had our daughter. congrats on getting your baby, its my dream to have a baby, if i cant, then i dont know what i would do. With today advances in the medical field there are things that can be done to solve the problem. Talk to doctors, and if you don't agree with what they say get second and third opinion. It can be done, you can have a child.