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Thank you, Tina. It is tough even in the good times, but the low times are near unbearable.
I so appreciate my friend here and the sounding board afforded me. I really am not throwing a black-tie event pity party. I was just having a couple hour's of weakness. Thank you for the wisdom, prayers, and encouragement. 
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Thank you so much, lilbug. I so appreciate your comment. They say time heals all wound, but even time cannot heal a wound which is continuously broken open. No1slove: I pray through tears as always that we can become a healthy family and love one another, warts and all. Thank you. You are most welcome and I do wish you and yours the best.
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Thank you, Tina. It is tough even in the good times, but the low times are near unbearable. I so appreciate my friend here and the sounding board afforded me. I really am not throwing a black-tie event pity party. I was just having a couple hour's of weakness. Thank you for the wisdom, prayers, and encouragement.
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Dragoness: Thanks for the encouragement. I sure need to hear the success stories over again. It is just extremely hard to be objective at this point. I get stuck on the defeating Shudda, Couldda, Wouldda's. Wrong, I know. One cannot look forward if always looking behind. Funny how I can give advice all day long, but find it difficult to take even the BEST advice...my own. I have always said, "Take the advice that you would give your very best friend." I need to heed my own advice and have faith it will all work out as it is supposed to in the grand scheme of things. I believe that God is STILL in control, though I am not. Blame is unhealthy for anyone. If you feel responsible for something you feel was wrong when they were younger, apologize for it once, heartfelt and let them know that the here and now is the best you can do, you cannot change the past. Do not keep apologizing and if it seems to be a really big issue offer to go to counseling with them over the issue but once it is worked through you will not answer for it again and again and again. |
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I must say I have never been in your situation. My kids and I are very close we have had our ups and downs but have always been close.
As far as what we have done in the past or did not do. It is the past they need to let it go and leave it in the past. All one can do is make the future better correct what we can and let the other things die in the past were they belong. About the only thing you can do is say your peace tell them how you feel and let them come around after that. In time hopefully they will finally see your there for them and even if the past was not the greatest at least your trying now. They can either let the past eat up what they are missing now and in the future. But not much more you can do they are the ones that must finally see the changes and make the next step. |
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Tough Love does work stick to your guns. Some kids don't listen but, most do
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yes dear it does All you can do is what you feel is best,No one is the perfect parent..I'm having a rough time with my teenage girl now almost 14,and dont expect it to get better any time soon,but I try and pick my fights wisely..and ask if its worth the tears & hurt..But I know just how they can make you feel like nothing when you give everything..Good luck & god bless hun..
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