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Edited by
eileena9
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I would listen to why my dad didn't like him and tell him what I saw postiive in the guy hoping Dad would be nice to him when we come over.
But then again, during the dance with my Dad at the reception he said, "WHEN you have to come home, know the door is open." So he is a pretty good judge of character. 
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i know the tattoos dont bother me. i got one and want more.. at least hes white!  i aint prejudiced but i know my papa is. I can't believe you just said that.
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i know the tattoos dont bother me. i got one and want more.. at least hes white! i aint prejudiced but i know my papa is. I can't believe you just said that. well im just being for real. my very best friend is a black guy!! and i told him that same thing upfront!! my papa would kill me. that dont stop me from hangin out with him! or caring about him! but....ugh...I mean my papa would just hate me!! |
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30 Tattoos does not make the person; it's what is inside the heart and if Papa can't get passed the outside then explain to him what's on the inside. Your parents will always disagree with your decisions because they want what's best for you, but you are the only one that can make the right ones.
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i know the tattoos dont bother me. i got one and want more.. at least hes white! i aint prejudiced but i know my papa is. I can't believe you just said that.
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she spoke her true inner feelings I comend her for saying it. 3 cheers
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i know the tattoos dont bother me. i got one and want more.. at least hes white! i aint prejudiced but i know my papa is. I can't believe you just said that. well im just being for real. my very best friend is a black guy!! and i told him that same thing upfront!! my papa would kill me. that dont stop me from hangin out with him! or caring about him! but....ugh...I mean my papa would just hate me!! Your papa needs to get into this century. You need to stop worrying about what he thinks. Be an adult and don't let a small minded, bigoted person control you. |
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ya but Im just saying ya know...
I am close with my family..relatively so... and they are my PRIMARY support system! and help me lots with my babies! (even if they are a bit dysfunctional) he also would be quite upset if a dated a criminal, somebody who was unstable in their life, and probably if there was a big age gap. |
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hell yeah!The ppl my dad hates are the ppl my mom
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well im just being for real. my very best friend is a black guy!! and i told him that same thing upfront!! my papa would kill me. that dont stop me from hangin out with him! or caring about him! but....ugh...I mean my papa would just hate me!! This is the very reason prejudice still exists. You may not feel that you're like your father, but if you don't stand up to it, then what difference does it really make in this world that you are not?
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I hope I did not offend anyone!
i am not trying to, just trying to paint an accurate picture to get feedback.. on how much a family can impact a serious relationship... and if it should matter much?? when i got divorced from my husband, i was shunned for over a year... just for getting divorced and then moving 45 min away to the burbs..its just not something that is done in my family..we stick it out unless there is abuse involved.... being shunned..nearly killed me |
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perhaps you're giving pops more credit than he deserves
somebody if you knew your papa probably would not like him at all? would probably HATE him (given the fact that papa is certainly older and smarter than you) |
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I ran like hell from my family when I was 20 and I suggest you do the same. Do you really want your chidren growing up in an atmosphere of bigotry and intolerance? The cycle will never stop until you stop it.
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perhaps you're giving pops more credit than he deserves somebody if you knew your papa probably would not like him at all? would probably HATE him (given the fact that papa is certainly older and smarter than you) for a simple country man he has done well with his life. been married over 50 years, total american dream, nice house, 5 acres, 5 babies, very family orientated, etc..etc... yes he is controlling and just SIMPLE is all i can say, doesnt understnad the REAL WORLD... but he is my papa, and i love that man dearly...and i hate it when i upset him... hes been there for me for thirty years, when i need him.. i know hes there..and my grandma too (although she is not as tough) |
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I hope I did not offend anyone! i am not trying to, just trying to paint an accurate picture to get feedback.. on how much a family can impact a serious relationship... and if it should matter much?? when i got divorced from my husband, i was shunned for over a year... just for getting divorced and then moving 45 min away to the burbs..its just not something that is done in my family..we stick it out unless there is abuse involved.... being shunned..nearly killed me All I know is that tug of war rarely ends without someone in the mud, unless they are willing to let go the rope and walk away from the game.  I'm sorry for your struggle and hope things work out for you.
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Edited by
hikerchick
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Sat 05/24/08 03:06 PM
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perhaps you're giving pops more credit than he deserves somebody if you knew your papa probably would not like him at all? would probably HATE him (given the fact that papa is certainly older and smarter than you) for a simple country man he has done well with his life. been married over 50 years, total american dream, nice house, 5 acres, 5 babies, very family orientated, etc..etc... yes he is controlling and just SIMPLE is all i can say, doesnt understnad the REAL WORLD... but he is my papa, and i love that man dearly...and i hate it when i upset him... hes been there for me for thirty years, when i need him.. i know hes there..and my grandma too (although she is not as tough) You say he has been there for you for thirty years and you also said your own family shunned you for over a year. I guess I have a different definition of what "there for you" means. |
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i married my ex husband in attempt to please my papa...and that did not work out so well..
BUT, it just like crossed my mind this am..that when i think about getting serious about a guy.. i think what wld papa say...and I just wondered if that should matter at all thanx for the opinions... i value that |
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light bulb ....
now you're getting somewhere 
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I ran like hell from my family when I was 20 and I suggest you do the same. Do you really want your chidren growing up in an atmosphere of bigotry and intolerance? The cycle will never stop until you stop it. ..this is exactly why i moved to the burbs!! did not want my daughter to be raised thataway... am determined the cycle does stop with my daughter... |
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i live my life for myself and myself only, so yeah i would.
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