I dont wanna lose him.. hes amazing, I just cant do that. yea I know I sound soo young blah blah blah..

You should cherish this man that is tolerant of your issues.

These issues you have are just that...your issues. Not his. If he has done nothing to lose your trust, it is not fair to him in the least. I feel for him if he has been a good boyfriend...

Well said Jim

Then you need to find a way to build trust before you destroy whatever good thing you have. Find some self help books or something

Tulsa

Just give you and him time for the trust. If you're starting to trust him little by little just think next year you might be half way there to trusting him

Thank you everyone.. guess I need to work on myself before we take the relationship to the next level...

Just like the saying "love thy self before loving others"
"Trust thy self before trusting others"

Redhead, think your last post is a great idea.
We really want to help, not just picking on you.
There is some great advice, from alot of people that have "been there, done that."
We only want the best for our site family members.
Listen to Tulsa, very wise lady.

Recognizing there is a problem is the hard part!! I wish you all the best in your struggle.

Aww... thanks Sage!

in reply to the one who said he would never date someone checking a cell phone if he found out. only because i was with someone for7 years at 3 hour distance i never cheated but i seen to many changes over a bout a month they sure be honest and sat ther are done instead of cheating he still does not know today how i caught him. we would not have to be like this if some men and women would be honest i believe in honesty until shone other wise . what he done was wrong also dont give reason we do not have to be like that not something i am proud of.you do not kiss and tell how when you fine out

That is flat out invasion of privacy and gives no one a right to invade it..

If your not comfortable in the relationship, simply call them out on it. If it still doesnt correct itself then move on!

No one has the right to check my phone, check my email, follow me, check in with people I work with, so on....If you dont trust me then move on....

AMEN BROTHER

You just posted on "jsh success stories".

I know it is harsh, but I think he makes some good points. Hopefully you find out sooner rather than later. Still, I understand he can't communicate as much at work. Perhaps you are being too sensitive.

Or, are there other reasons you don't trust him. I say try to talk to him about your needs and feelings first.

Yes, and then there is this. Well said.

Call the people from that "Cheaters" show and have them NOT ONLY follow him around, but also televise what happens if he's actually caught dippin' his wick in another candle.