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Topic: I bet people have opinions on this one!
Peccy's photo
Thu 05/22/08 09:37 PM
Debt brought into a marriage should: remain that persons responsibility.........or.........it should be shared?

Fade2Black's photo
Thu 05/22/08 09:37 PM

Debt brought into a marriage should: remain that persons responsibility.........or.........it should be shared?



keep your pain to yourself .. lol

Single_Rob's photo
Thu 05/22/08 09:38 PM
simple, run a credit check prior to marriage, have pre nup signed, and make them sign a debt reduction contract that would nullify the marriage if not honored within a set timeline

itsmetina's photo
Thu 05/22/08 09:38 PM
Edited by itsmetina on Thu 05/22/08 09:38 PM
i once heard that if someone really loves you they will take on your debt

no photo
Thu 05/22/08 09:38 PM
the debt should hopefully be paid off before the marriage....but if not, the other partner should at least help a bit since its supposed to be a union!bigsmile drinker

keywhee's photo
Thu 05/22/08 09:38 PM
If it's your debt, you should share it. If it's her debt, she should keep it to herself.

Ladies, switch the genders in this statement for my tip to you...

kerbear73's photo
Thu 05/22/08 09:39 PM
I think it should be by Both, You said "I do" to the person, that includes her life as well:smile:

If had married someone with a debt, I would help her out

Bry395's photo
Thu 05/22/08 09:40 PM
I wouldn't expect anyone to pay my debts, they should pay their own as well. What's incurred during the marriage should be shared.

No1sLove's photo
Thu 05/22/08 09:41 PM
I have a double standard on this one. I would want to help my husband get rid of his debt if I had the means, but I sure wouldn't be comfortable putting my burdens on him. I think I'll just stay out of debt and it won't be an issue. :wink:

IndnPrncs's photo
Thu 05/22/08 09:42 PM
it depends on the people.. some don't mind sharing some do.. the thing is... isn't debt a similar obligation to children from another marriage? you share most everything to separate things so solidly to me would say that you really only have an agreement to be together not unconditional love.. jmho...

ljcc1964's photo
Thu 05/22/08 09:42 PM

Debt brought into a marriage should: remain that persons responsibility.........or.........it should be shared?

I think you should pay.

DestinysDream's photo
Thu 05/22/08 09:43 PM
Everything is shared in a marriage. Good and bad.

IndnPrncs's photo
Thu 05/22/08 09:44 PM

If it's your debt, you should share it. If it's her debt, she should keep it to herself.

Ladies, switch the genders in this statement for my tip to you...


That was dumb!!!

Marie55's photo
Thu 05/22/08 09:46 PM
If it is a community property state, the minute you say "I do" you just inherited your now spouse's debt, unless you have some contract like Rob said.

Key - good answer. laugh bigsmile

I agree with Kerbear, I think once you marry, you should both work on the debt, UNLESS, one party is a gambler or out of control somehow, in that case, you are in deep trouble. Then the credit check before hand is a good idea.

jonny63's photo
Thu 05/22/08 09:48 PM
I would never expect anyone to pay any debt I may have, but I feel that if I loved someone enough to marry them it would be my responsibility as a man to help with anything like that to make quality of life together better.

kerbear73's photo
Thu 05/22/08 09:48 PM

Everything is shared in a marriage. Good and bad.


I agree, Marriage is a Union, I would hate to see someone that I love deeply struggle and get stressed over a debt, I would help

Jill298's photo
Thu 05/22/08 09:49 PM
I don't expect my future husband ( if there ever will be one) to pay off any debt I incurred prior to me meeting him or getting married.

itsmetina's photo
Thu 05/22/08 09:49 PM


If it's your debt, you should share it. If it's her debt, she should keep it to herself.

Ladies, switch the genders in this statement for my tip to you...


That was dumb!!!
agreed

IndnPrncs's photo
Thu 05/22/08 09:50 PM


Everything is shared in a marriage. Good and bad.


I agree, Marriage is a Union, I would hate to see someone that I love deeply struggle and get stressed over a debt, I would help


Exactly.. flowerforyou

no photo
Thu 05/22/08 09:51 PM

I agree, Marriage is a Union


And watch out for those Union dues....


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